anal sex

[Guest]

How do I convice my wife to give up her anal viginity. She doesn't even like me fingering or tonguing her rose bud. I have tried talking to her but she says that she does not like it and I don't want to force her in any way.

 

[girl]

Then you can't convince her. If she doesn't like it, she doesn't like it. Pushing her will only make things difficult.

girl

 

[SexyChele]

I agree with Girl. If she is totally against anything anal play, it will be almost impossible to convince her otherwise. And if she is like me, pushing her will only stregthen her resolve not to engage in this type of play.

You might want to find out why she feels this way, though. Sometimes that helps. It could be cultural/societal values, something she's personally not into, or she has had extremely bad experiences in the past.

All things can be overcome, but she must be willing first.

 

[Hman48]

maybe

Take your time?

Be patient. start with a touch, a lick

Try rolling her on her tummy and kiss around her ass then let your tongue just barely touch it? Show her you worship her ass
make sure she is really excited and wet and go slow.

Let a finger go there while you are making oral love to her, linger, and if she responds favorably just press lightly with your finger, you will know if she wants you to continue.

If she say no, then stop, never force the issue, try again another day.

Have you asked her to touch your ass?

Turn around is fair play!

 

[Wizard]

Yep leave it be for now.........You have talked to her and she has said NO ....maybe just Maybe in time she will become a little intrested till then your out of luck.

Respect her wishes and let it be......................

 

[stargirl32]

you could offer her some reading material on the subject... and i agree with the other posters TAKE YOUR TIME if she says no she means no ,,, and like hman said turn about is only fair .. she has the right to ask you for something she really wants so make a deal and talk about it

 

[davekoko]

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You have to respect her wishes/desires. Not all women like it, or want it. It may have been a bad past experience, or presence of some anal disease (hemorrhoids, anal fisures, past per-anal abscess). Or a conception of "dirtiness", or religious training. What ever. If she doesnt like it or want it, forcing it will only make it worse.

but if she is willing to try or even think about it..

1) Go slow. Warm up to it. When she is very let, "accidently" lick her there. Her actions will let you know if u can proceed, but very slowly. When I say slowly, I am talking about days, or weeks, even a month or more of repetitive stimulations. She must be in the mood. Must be hot, horny, wet.

2) Prepare. When you try, even accidently, best to try it, after a shower/bath. To give her the feeling that she is clean "there". A hi fiber diet will help.. to empty the recturm previously. My prior lovers have also given them selves enemas for their and my added confidence. This is not a "hershey highway" thing. Those two words do not do justice to the candy or the roadway. lol. BElieve me. When she is adequately prepared, there is minimal or no hint of what came out before, or its "other purpose".

3) Lubrication, Lubrication, Lubrication. Her own juices and your juices mixed helpful. Plenty of it. Salvia is good too. But must often, an artificial one is helpful. K-Y Jelly; AStroglide is my preference. and plenty of it. and reapplications as needed.

4l) Gradually get up her confidence. wet kisses, rimming. tongue probing. then the pinky barely pushing at her rosebud, when other fingers are in her pussy hole. Again, she will let u know if she likes it, wants u to proceed. AGain, slowly.

5) Relaxation on her part.. slow breathing. An orgasm by her via pussy kissing mayhelp. Massage.. not only her asshole (I like this better than the clinical anus, lol),but her whole backside and buttuck cheeks, backs of her thighs etc. Constant assurance, of how beautiful her ass is, how much you adore her anal pucker etc. How turned on you are.. all so helpful to give her added pleasure.! Assurance and love! one finger, two fingers.. then. Almost ready for the final plunge.. (pardon the pun)

6) everything.. the penetration, the depth. Eventually in and out.. all the way.. she will like the re-entry. She will let you know how it is going. Rubbing the clit (usually she will do it), is so helpful.. and the spasms of her asshole will give each of u pleasure !! The asshole spasms even harder than the pussy muscles. If you dont believe me, stick a finger in your (guy) asshole as u cum! Time.. so important.. slow in and outs. She will let u know when to speed up and how hard to plunge.

7) Orgasms for both.. can be all so powerful !!

8) anything that goes into the anus should not be put into vagina without a good washing first. this includes your fingers, your cock! Dildo's etc.