anal sex?

[open-minded18]

me and my boyfriend are looking to try anal sex, i have never had it done to me so we were hoping for any advice on the first time or any tips from experienced people. does it stop hurting? do you get used to it? is it best to only insert a little then gradualy more each time? etc

we are looking forward to hearong from you soon. yours gratefully open-minded18 x x

 

[Cardinal]

Start slow with a finger work up to two and use lot and lots of lube. My wife and I like it sometimes but you have to go slow, as far as the depth goes I don't think that is the issue. You need to relax and I think you will enjoy it if you are willing to try.
Good luck

 

[czechgal22]

my advice is really think about it and invest in good lube... my guy and i tried it a few times and i just can't bring myself to enjoy it.. i can't relax enough. the only time i did it with success is when a bottle of vdka was involved. good luck and don't squeeze! lol


cute-lil-czech-gal!

 

[Angel_Diva]

look thru the forums.... you'll find tons of topics about Anal sex
especially in the library, k.

 

[Vixandra]

Lots of lube, relax and if he complains- get a dildo and try it on him the way he was doing it to you. See how much he complains then, LOL.
Have fun!

 

[millieteases]

Lube, lube, lube and more lube.

Get really aroused - I like to have an orgasm first - or at least have been teased and gotten real close a few times...

Look at the other threads.

You might try working up to a penis - fingers, butt plugs, etc.

It does feel good once you get used to it - but that may take a while.

You might try rubbing yourself as he does it - or having him rub you, or using a vibrator. That distracts me a little, and sometimes it helps.

 

[Dr.O]

Alright Anal Sex.. Good topic... Sorry..

Ok, first of as was said, start with getting her good and relaxed, oral sex is usually the best way, and slowly work a well lubed finger into the anus.

Give it a lick, most woman tend to loosen up at the sensation.

If your good at oral sex, let her orgasm, after this point she has relaxed, and her attention is elsewhere.

I've found, doggy style, or with the lady laying flat on her back works best, straddle her hips, and slowly, work a finger or thumb inside. Then two, and try to stretch her a little, remember in most cases your penis is thicker than either finger or thumb.

Slow.. SLOWLY, start to press your penis in. Let her do the work, and run the show.. Women DO NOT LIKE SURPRISES..

Once you feel her loosen up, then slowly proceed.

Good luck, and remember thrust with the knees..

 

[glen_xx]

Good luck with this 1!!!!
I tried with my wife a few times but to no avail, she said it hurt to much although most of time i hadnt even got the end in. I think alot of it is frame of mind.

 

[Hotred911]

<snip> Let her do the work, and run the show<snip>

This is a great tip. I've found the only way I can relax enough is if I do the work. If he's doing the thrusting it seems to hurt, but if he stays still and I just work back into him I'm there in no time, and he can then start thrusting away. Good luck!

 

[ReadyOne]

Lub her up and loosen her up. Work up two fingers sliding easily is good. Then add more lube.

Start doggy style. Hold your dick at her opening with one hand and put the other on her hip for balance.

She should then bare down like having a bowel movement and begin pushing back onto you. Don't push; just hold yourself in place so she can overcome the resistance.

Let her decide when to move and when to rest until you are all the way inside. Then have her tell you when you can start SLOWLY moving.

When you're mostly outside, add more lube, and keep talking to her, asking how she is feeling. If she says stop, then FREEZE untill she tell you that you can move again.

then if you want, she can lean forward and colapse onto the bed face down. You can vary the angle and depth according to her direction until she finds one that feels good. Fast and shallow often works well, as does pointing toward her G-spot.

 

[redfunguy]

my advice is really think about it and invest in good lube... my guy and i tried it a few times and i just can't bring myself to enjoy it.. i can't relax enough. the only time i did it with success is when a bottle of vdka was involved. good luck and don't squeeze! lol


cute-lil-czech-gal!

you couldn't handle him but you could a vodka bottle??

someones been playing in the toy box a little too much




jk

 

[czechgal22]

LMAO well not the entire bottle of vodka... and no i couldn't handle it.. its not my thing.... but im a whole lotta fun when it comes to everything else!

cute-lil-czech-gal

 

[cykeegb]

To be honest, I've tried it a few times...but not really very enjoyable for me. Then again...I'm a fanatic about breasts...so...I tend to forget about the ass.

 

[corkie2]

I am a very recent convert to the enjoyment of anal sex. I was absolutely terrified and convinced it would not work for me because I had to have my rectum sergically repaired after damage being done to it. (don't want to go into particulars. just said that so you understand the depth of my fear). Soo, anyway I was scared until I met a man who loves it and dearly wanted to share his enjoyment with me.

So, we talked and talked about it until he convinced me he would stop whenever I said to. He told me by the time he was done with me he would have me asking him to let me sit on him with him in my ass. My response? RIIIIIIiight~~~~~~~~~!!

So he took his time....first he got me s l i g h t l y buzzed on my favorite Pepermint Shnapps. Then he slowly worked on teasing and kissing as we talked and sipped our drink's while he smoked his cigar and I my ciggarette. It got pretty intense with the sexual tension between us. Then he decided it was time to go into the house.....

We went into the house and he put some soft jazz on for us to listened to it while laying on the bed. He slowly undressed me teased me and kept getting me hotter. He took his time getting me more and more worked up till I finally exploded into an immense orgasm. But he did not let it end there...he continured on keeping my level of arousal building....then he started playing with my rectum...........I really at this point did not registar what the new sensation was other than it turned me on. He used lots of lube along with my own juices to keep things wet and kept taking his time slipping more fingers in until he had me ready for his cock.

He s l o w l y inserted his cock while continueing to play with my pussy and clit. I was on my back with my leg's up so this was quite easy.... He kept lots of lube for keeping things wet....and soon had me fuckking him!!

I discovered that night that previous experiences are not always an indication of what the future brings!! O GAWD I LOVE IT!! lol

and yes, he was right....now about three months later I have done as he said I would....I have asked to sit on him....with him up my ass. I like being the one who controls the going in and movement...really like it....

 

[Cardinal]

WELLLL?!?!?!?

Have you tried it yet? what were the results?
My wife and I have found that it gets easier everytime, although the excitement of the whole things tend to end things a little quicker than I would like, you know after 30 minutes of relaxing and getting ready, but then again maybe that's why she lets me keep doing it. You can do anything for 1 minute!

 

[Chrysse]

One thing that helped me a lot when i was first starting... just the simple knowledge that the pain does give way to intense pleasure... no matter how much that first penetration hurts, the amazing thing is that it stops hurting and starts feeling really good

In my limited experience... it seems that the deeper he gets the better it feels... once he is all the way in the pleasure starts to intensify - so there's a definite reward for hanging in there

It really does help if you are very relaxed first, have had a few orgasms and he has had his fingers in your ass preparing you as part of the play (just realized i have the right AV up for this topic lol), and if he continues to stimulate you in your favorite way during the most difficult parts of the entry

Though people say to go slow, the most difficult part for me is getting the head past the sphincter... so sometimes it actually helps to get that over with a little more quickly and *then* go slow

 

[Chrysse]

another question

here's something i'd really like to know the answer to, that i'm a bit nervous about asking since it's kinda the gritty part of anal sex

sometimes you're "clean" inside and everything is great... other times not. Not that that's necessarily a problem if your lover is comfortable with the more earthy parts of sex, as mine is, but it still makes me self-conscious and sometimes uncomfortable. And one must be careful not to follow up any kind of anal (fingers or cocks) with penetration of the vagina lest you risk an infection. But that aside, are there any good ways to prepare yourself ahead of time, to have a better chance of being clean and open?

Like, food or drink that tends to clean you out or something like an enema (heard of those but not really sure what it is or how it works)?

Sorry if these questions have been answered on other threads... some people have referred to them above but i don't really know how to find them...

 

[sobesundevil]

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[ReadyOne]

Occasionally SO will stick a dildo up my ass, and more frequently she will finger my anus and occasionally rim it.

Of course I always try to stay clean, but if there's a good chance of sex I'll wash again. I'll also stick a sudsy finger up through my anus to make sure it's clean too. Using anti-bacterial soap also helps minimize any bad bugs on the surface or center of the anal ring.

Doing anal sex with SO, I can occasionally feel a mass deep inside her with a finger. It seems to be pushed out of the way when I sink deeply, though sometimes I think I can feel the tip of my penis still bumping against it. SO never complains that it's uncomfortable, though she can probably feels it when it gets bumped. She may enjoy it as part of the experience.

I always recommend using a condom, and pee after sex, especially if I don't use a condom.

An enema is pushing fluid up through your anus into your rectum (and often further). The effect is to help wash things out, especially if one is constipated. A few minutes after you take the enema, the bowels move and the result may remind you of the runs if the fluid gets above the point where the body starts solidifying things.

A Fleet or other brand disposable enema is the place to start if you want to try one. It's just very soft squeezable bottle prefilled with a body friendly formula with a long narrow squirt nozzle (pre-lubed) for you to insert up your ass so the fluid can be easily pushed into your body.

There are bags and hoses and nozzles and recipes for the fluid and a whole sub-culture based on giving/receiving enemas.

Personally, if I plan on taking a dildo up my ass and I know there is something inside there and it isn't quite ready to come out (or a bit stubborn) then I'll use an enema to make sure I'm empty.

 

[herecomestherain]

open minded18, read up, there's lots of info. Relax with your partner, maybe take a shower together. I think spooning, laying on your sides is good first time position, you can be cuddled and held, it's a very intimate thing to do. Doggy is fine later on, but it doesn't give the woman as much control and can be deeper than you may want to go. Lube, lube and then add some more. Have fun and play safe.

One of the best libraries on sex, highly recommend:
http://www.sexuality.org

http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/analrule.html

Worth a read:
http://www.puckerup.com/anal_advisor/anal.htm


The infamous anal sex lube thread...
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=223621

 

[Stu21]

besides the LUBE LUBE LUBE and some finger stretching whic is mandatory, have found that the best position is us both lying on our sides. there is no inadvertant pressure and she can take me at her own pace. Once I am inside her then we can move around and have a bit of fun.

Oh my god we just both love a good buttfuck, more than just a bit of fun.Nice thing to have on the menu, and worth the extra effort.

Its a pity its a little messy. Personally I dont use a condom, but always take a shower and have a glass of water and a good pee afterwards.

have fun and let us know how it goes.

 

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[ReadyOne]

OK, How'd it go?

Inquiring minds wnat to know...