The solution all depends on the problem. Is she even willing to try? I can assure her from personal experiance that there is satisfaction that can be gained and that it may huet at first but it is not permanent. I resisted and such but now regret ever having been uptight because there is a way that not too many people realize makes all the difference in the world. You must be patient and go solw. You can't just ram it in her. The best way to do it, if she's willing to try is to lie her on her back with a pillow or two under her ass to elevate her, while still allowing her to relax. Suck her nipples and finger her clit and pussy. Suck her off and give her a good cum. After that, once she's good and wet, run her juices down to her ass with your finger, lick her pussy lips and cunt while you begin rub the outside of her asshole. Begin to finger her ass and once she tenses up stop all movement in her. just keep licking until she relaxes again, then move in a little more, going in and out very slowly, This relaxes the constricting muscles and the area to which the greatest pain occur if tense. Once you do this for 10 or so minutes and your finger, the biggest one , usually the middle one, Pull it out slowly. You need to have a cock shaped vibrator in order for the next step. Regular smooth ones don't cut it and make it one a little bigger that your own dick. Now, have the toy handy cause your gonna make a switcheroo. Fuck her pussy with you own cock three or four full strokes to make sure you lubed up. Replace your cock with the vibrator and fuck her with it a bit. Then, put the head of your cock right outside her asshole while you keep fucking her pussy with the toy. SLOWLY insert the tip with only slight pressure and stop all movement for a minute. then draw out. Repeat the process and go in a bit further. Stop movement at any sign of pain and allow her to get used to it.Once she's relaxed, pull out, then go right back in and repeat the process until you've been swallowed up. By this point her ass will be fine and you can fuck her at the pace you can fuck her pussy. Watching anal porno with her may also help her get turned on to it. This is the method my husband and I figured out and it worked like magic. He got to fuck my virgin ass and to my utmost surprise It was phenominal!!! I can't get enough of it now and it gets easier eveytime. Soon he'll be able to walk up and stuff his cock right in with no hesitation on my part> P.S. Never get disapointed or frustrated while trying, it'll only make her more hesitant. It took us two or three sessions to get it down pat!. It may be easier if she fucks her pussy with the toy while your inserting your cock in her ass. Whe should rub her clit too to give more stimulation to distract from the pain. It really helps!
The solution all depends on the problem. Is she even willing to try? I can assure her from personal experiance that there is satisfaction that can be gained and that it may huet at first but it is not permanent. I resisted and such but now regret ever having been uptight because there is a way that not too many people realize makes all the difference in the world. You must be patient and go solw. You can't just ram it in her. The best way to do it, if she's willing to try is to lie her on her back with a pillow or two under her ass to elevate her, while still allowing her to relax. Suck her nipples and finger her clit and pussy. Suck her off and give her a good cum. After that, once she's good and wet, run her juices down to her ass with your finger, lick her pussy lips and cunt while you begin rub the outside of her asshole. Begin to finger her ass and once she tenses up stop all movement in her. just keep licking until she relaxes again, then move in a little more, going in and out very slowly, This relaxes the constricting muscles and the area to which the greatest pain occur if tense. Once you do this for 10 or so minutes and your finger, the biggest one , usually the middle one, Pull it out slowly. You need to have a cock shaped vibrator in order for the next step. Regular smooth ones don't cut it and make it one a little bigger that your own dick. Now, have the toy handy cause your gonna make a switcheroo. Fuck her pussy with you own cock three or four full strokes to make sure you lubed up. Replace your cock with the vibrator and fuck her with it a bit. Then, put the head of your cock right outside her asshole while you keep fucking her pussy with the toy. SLOWLY insert the tip with only slight pressure and stop all movement for a minute. then draw out. Repeat the process and go in a bit further. Stop movement at any sign of pain and allow her to get used to it.Once she's relaxed, pull out, then go right back in and repeat the process until you've been swallowed up. By this point her ass will be fine and you can fuck her at the pace you can fuck her pussy. Watching anal porno with her may also help her get turned on to it. This is the method my husband and I figured out and it worked like magic. He got to fuck my virgin ass and to my utmost surprise It was phenominal!!! I can't get enough of it now and it gets easier eveytime. Soon he'll be able to walk up and stuff his cock right in with no hesitation on my part> P.S. Never get disapointed or frustrated while trying, it'll only make her more hesitant. It took us two or three sessions to get it down pat!. It may be easier if she fucks her pussy with the toy while your inserting your cock in her ass. Whe should rub her clit too to give more stimulation to distract from the pain. It really helps!
Obviously asking outright hasn't been an option .. Have you tried using a massage oil while giving a real massage, and gradually easing some warm oil around her anal entrance and your pecker?? Got to be gentle -- some people are just brought up that getting it shoved back UP your butt isn't kosher, or wanted...... took me about 6-9 months to talk someone into it and we went real slow so she could open up to accomodate me sneaking aruond hte back door!!
After the first 2-3 times it became somehting that was included naturally in the evening's events --as long as I give "warning" I'm aobut to go try to slide in. NEVER do it with no warning or your dick will pay dearly!!!!!
Not all women like something that big shoved up their rectum no matter how you go about it. Some absolutely love it, and some have to be in the right mood. Personally, I'd take a pussy over an asshole any time. Once you get past the anus, there is little feeling inside, while a nice hot juicy pussy can suck a cock off on it's on with good muscle control. Not to mention it's a lot healthier and cleaner than anal.
Not really the right place for this thread ... you might get more answers in the "How to Thread".
I am one that loves Anal, the feeling to me is something of fullness. I actually cum harder having Anal sex than I do Vaginal. It ALL comes down to prefrence really.
My first expirience of any kind was when my Ex and I were obviously getting in the mood, he loved to finger me and of course I loved to be fingered, he slowly introduced one finger at a time, making sure of course that I was comfortable with this. We both loved Doggie style, so when we got in that position (about three weeks after he fingered me, and on a regular basis), he placed his cock at the entrance of my ass, I felt that I wanted to try it (neither of us had done it), so I guided him by saying yes that is what I wanted. Neither of us had ever cum as hard as we did that night. Since then Anal is something that I love to do.
I do have to say though that Anal is not something you want to do everynight, leave it more for special ocassions or when you are both completely in the mood.
Relax and help her to relax too, maybe have a shower together, clean each other, make her feel like she can fully trust you. Anal needs trust more than anything else.
BUT it all comes down to prefrence, if she doesn't want to she isn't going to let you no matter what you do.
I would love it if my husband only knew how to approach it. His is loving and kind and not near as kinky as I would like. Try going about this slowly with lots of licking before. Make her come with your finders first, then draw her juices down making she sure knows what your going to do and slowly finger her ass until she invites your other in. She'll be glad you did and ask for more later.
mmmmm fuck! reading all these anal posts just drive me insane. also make me a bit sad
my ex girlfriend had the most amazing legs and ass ive ever seen and will never be able to get that again in my life!she was a beautiful person as well. and kinky as hell, was just so horny and open to anything. i would go crazy over her ass and legs, always sqwueezing it, get so hard, rubbing it, ifingering the ass...always telling her how bad i wanted to. well one day we finally did. we were in the doggy style position on her bed..and i slid my cock inside her ass, it hurt her at first..so we decided to move to the shower and get ALOT of lube. lubed my cock up and her BEAUTIFUL ASS. (god i wish i had pictures of it. fuck) lubed it up real good, she bent over standing up and i slid it in...fucked her nice and good, slow at first, she would put her hand back on my thighs controlling me. ive never heard her moan louder than that. i rubbed her clit at the same time, she came hard...i pulled out and came on her ass...the second time we did it again in the shower and she let me cum in her ass. now that is a little gross because some ...uh...shit came out when i pulled out. but i loved her, she loved me and it was all part of it. still would love to do it. god if she were single and i were single i would love to get together with her for one night.