Anal sex

[boredgirl]

Hello, I am sorry if this issue has been raised before but I am new to lit and was really hoping for some advise.

My partner and I have been together for a few years now. Our sex life is very good but we always try to experiment with new ideas, toys etc.

He has always seemed very interested in anal sex and in the last few months he has been trying to convince me to try it. He has been using his fingers a lot on me, always with lubrication and I have found that very enjoyable. When it comes to penetrating my anus with his cock though, it becomes far too painful and I ask him to stop.

I was wondering if any of you have any advice that might help, especially on best positions or anything else.

Thanks and sorry if I am asking something that has already been answered.

 

[Guest]

Welcome to Lit! And yes, this topic has been discussed before (pretty popular topic - lol!) Here is the link to the latest thread I read on the subject:

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=127839&perpage=25&pagenumber=1

Good luck!!!

 

[Norton77]

The basics...

1) Condoms
2) LOTS OF LUBE! I suggest KY jelly, because in my experience it proves to be the most reliable, and least likely to cause any sudden slips - baby oil has that effect!
3) You need to be relaxed, and sexually aroused. ideally, after orgasm, or at least after lots of stimulation.
4) Take it slow the first time. If the head of his cock slips in, there is no need for him to fuck like a jack rabbit. Take it slow, leave it there, and let your tight hole get used to the sensation.

There is nothing like having someone come deep in your arse!

Hugs!

 

[Pixie Mischief]

hmmm condom makes it worse. more friction. but yes lots of lube. my last attempt at anal didnt go so great. lol

 

[ub6ibfine]

well you've allready heard tha advice but anal can be very very fun. do trust.

 

[Guest]

hmmm condom makes it worse. more friction. but yes lots of lube. my last attempt at anal didnt go so great. lol

I totally agree - such a sensitive area - go without condoms if at all possible!!

 

[Pixie Mischief]

yes condoms can cause major irritation. I found that out with regular intercourse was on the pill but we didnt want to be worried .if I got pregnant I'd have to have an abortion. anyways didnt want to worry with my first experiences. and the fact that I'm so tight (I'm 4 foot tall so tiny), condoms are BAD and PAINFUL. we decided next time no condoms. WARNING thought for anal, if you dont trust your parner or you THINK you could have something DO wear a condom because anal sex can cause bleeding :| unfortunally I found that out

 

[ub6ibfine]

yes an condoms are good for a clean purpose as well as safety.

 

[boredgirl]

Thanks

Thanks very much for all the advice, links, etc. We have changed from baby oil to KY jelly and that has helped a little so far.....I am feeling hopeful!!

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: Thanks

Thanks very much for all the advice, links, etc. We have changed from baby oil to KY jelly and that has helped a little so far.....I am feeling hopeful!!

I'm glad that all of the advice you've got from the Boards have helped. Continued good luck & keep up the lines of communication with your lover. It'll definitely enhance everything.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

BABYOIL?????? my god girl I pity you! that is NOT ment for that. obviously neither of you read about this before trying. First you must use a water soluable lube, KY is one of them, there are others I believe. First you must empty yourself either take a shit before or take an enema. it doesnt have to be a liter LOL 250 ml (will have to check) should be enough and just keep it in for five minutes. reason why is that if there is shit it can hurt you and him. Hard shit scrapping against a man's cock doesnt feel very good. 2nd is that anal sex can back you up and plug ya, which then you have to get a suppository or enema. as for the lube, he has to put some on his finger and rub it in well inside your anus, also some on the outside. he has to put plenty on his penis to. also he may need to reaply after a while. ASSES DO NOT make there own lubricant hehe. the keyword for anal is to RELAX very very hard to do but if you dont do it will hurt alot. you must relax your spinxter. before he tries to stick his penis in there thought he should use a finger and then 2 to help open you up. and before applying the KY he can lick a little there to (not all men are up for that).
best possition for anal I'm told is laying on yourside bent over at the waist and knees bent up some.

 

[FallingStar]

LUBE, LUBE, LUBE!

Did I mention Lube? Also, take your time! No beginner likes having it shoved right in. It takes time to get used to the sensation. Have fun!

 

[KimIsBored]

Astroglide has always worked very well for me during vaginal sex I assume it would be good for anal sex too.

 

[tigerjen]

I agree.....LUBE is very very important in any type of
anal sex/anal play........K-Y Jelly works best........if the
man is using a condom, do NOT use baby oil or
Vaseline as they will weaken the rubber......which is why
I suggested the K-Y.

I wish you luck........but just a piece of advice....anal
sex is something not to mess around with.....it takes
a lot of patience and trust.......


tigerjen