Anal sex and pain

[deucie]

I've got a problem. If I'm having anal sex with [ and I'm the bottom ] someone and they are bigger than about 6" it really hurts. Not that "hurts so good" pain but that gut pain way inside. Larger dildos do the same to me.
If I'm a little drunk it's not so bad. And when I used to do coke or X it wasn't a problem. Why can some guys take and love long cocks and I can't?

 

[CandiCame]

No- I know what you mean- I'd actually kinda rather bottom when drunk because it's like, 1,000 times easier... but the only advice I have is a lot- and I mean a LOT of lube and to relax- as counter-intuitive as this sounds, try to push- like you're pushing out to open up a little more, and go slow...

I've ripped before and it hurts for a couple DAYS...

So... yeah... that's my advice.

 

[priapusone]

No- I know what you mean- I'd actually kinda rather bottom when drunk because it's like, 1,000 times easier... but the only advice I have is a lot- and I mean a LOT of lube and to relax- as counter-intuitive as this sounds, try to push- like you're pushing out to open up a little more, and go slow...

I've ripped before and it hurts for a couple DAYS...

So... yeah... that's my advice.

go slow man

 

[Little Bird]

If it hurts, it means something gets damaged. If you're drunk, you just don't feel the pain, but you still get the injuries. Probably even worse injuries, since you don't stop or try to be more careful.
If it hurts, stop doing it, you are only causing damage to your body.

 

[fungent1103]

Of Course

I used my ex girlfriends littler softer dildo a couple of years ago and it felt so good. I wanted to try the same kind but bigger but I never went and bought it. I think I really want to find a man that has a smaller dick and sit on it nice and slow and I think that would feel wonderful. I have been thinking about it for a couple of weeks now. I know a guy that I could do this with but I want a younger guy I think.

 

[klippert]

position

If he is larger than your use too. Try a position change. Try laying on your side. plenty of lube.

 

[Chrissi]

I've got a problem. If I'm having anal sex with [ and I'm the bottom ] someone and they are bigger than about 6" it really hurts. Not that "hurts so good" pain but that gut pain way inside. Larger dildos do the same to me.
If I'm a little drunk it's not so bad. And when I used to do coke or X it wasn't a problem. Why can some guys take and love long cocks and I can't?

I don't think the OP is complaining about the thickness as much as he is having trouble with the length...

While 6" isn't all that much, it tells me that you are not getting him past your second ring. Try some thin dildos, plugs or a finger as practice in getting through there.

If you can get him past your sphincter, you can get him past your inner ring. Use your finger(s) to feel around for experiment and practice.

As for the depth, once you get beyond that inner ring, well we are all different. Not every guy can take 8", 10", 12" or more. Some bottom out much less, no matter how much they try or practice. Lube isn't the issue here, it is just your physiology. DONT FORCE IT, as tearing your intestine can be fatal.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

I've got a problem. If I'm having anal sex with [ and I'm the bottom ] someone and they are bigger than about 6" it really hurts. Not that "hurts so good" pain but that gut pain way inside. Larger dildos do the same to me.
If I'm a little drunk it's not so bad. And when I used to do coke or X it wasn't a problem. Why can some guys take and love long cocks and I can't?

All I know is that when I hurt like that my cock stays unbelievably hard.
Love it....

 

[Rolando2]

There might be "some" pain associated with this! You be the judge.

 

[kelli_qcd]

There might be "some" pain associated with this! You be the judge.

ya think???... OMG!!! thats got to be bad for you......

 

[deucie]

I don't think the OP is complaining about the thickness as much as he is having trouble with the length...

While 6" isn't all that much, it tells me that you are not getting him past your second ring. Try some thin dildos, plugs or a finger as practice in getting through there.

If you can get him past your sphincter, you can get him past your inner ring. Use your finger(s) to feel around for experiment and practice.

As for the depth, once you get beyond that inner ring, well we are all different. Not every guy can take 8", 10", 12" or more. Some bottom out much less, no matter how much they try or practice. Lube isn't the issue here, it is just your physiology. DONT FORCE IT, as tearing your intestine can be fatal.

It's not the girth. That's the " hurts so good " pain. Position may be the problem. It;s a pain in the gut and it hurts. Gonna keep trying till I get it right!

 

[Chrissi]

It's not the girth. That's the " hurts so good " pain. Position may be the problem. It;s a pain in the gut and it hurts. Gonna keep trying till I get it right!

Feel around in there with your fingers, get a sense for how you are shaped in your anal cavity. My guess is you are not getting him past your inner ring...

Next time, before you start, use plenty of lube and with your fingers or his, (either of you) get your inner cavity well lubed. You get down on all fours, and have him essentially pour lube into your hole, while using his fingers to get it deep in there. Have fun with this, it is extremely pleasurable. (I generally don't need any lube, but I love it when a guy spends time there on me.)
After you are well lubed, start with him on his back and you squat over him, facing him.
Once you get him in you just past your sphincter, push out HARD, like you are trying to go to the bathroom. Keep pushing out, while you slowly lower yourself on him. If you can get one or two in there, use a finger(s) to guide him in too. Wiggle around until you feel him clear your second (inner) ring. Do this by rocking your hips and ass foreword and back, and from side to side, and in circular motions. Not only does it feel good for you, but tops love it when you do this too.

good luck, have fun

 

[deucie]

Feel around in there with your fingers, get a sense for how you are shaped in your anal cavity. My guess is you are not getting him past your inner ring...

Next time, before you start, use plenty of lube and with your fingers or his, (either of you) get your inner cavity well lubed. You get down on all fours, and have him essentially pour lube into your hole, while using his fingers to get it deep in there. Have fun with this, it is extremely pleasurable. (I generally don't need any lube, but I love it when a guy spends time there on me.)
After you are well lubed, start with him on his back and you squat over him, facing him.
Once you get him in you just past your sphincter, push out HARD, like you are trying to go to the bathroom. Keep pushing out, while you slowly lower yourself on him. If you can get one or two in there, use a finger(s) to guide him in too. Wiggle around until you feel him clear your second (inner) ring. Do this by rocking your hips and ass foreword and back, and from side to side, and in circular motions. Not only does it feel good for you, but tops love it when you do this too.

good luck, have fun

Thanks gT. It seems so much further in. Is it possible that my colon turns or has a kink 7 or so inches in? That's what I wonder about. Maybe if this is the case and I just went slow then once I finally took him all it the pain would go away.

 

[deucie]

Thanks gT. It seems so much further in. Is it possible that my colon turns or has a kink 7 or so inches in? That's what I wonder about. Maybe if this is the case and I just went slow then once I finally took him all it the pain would go away.

Or maybe I just need you to show me!

 

[Chrissi]

Thanks gT. It seems so much further in. Is it possible that my colon turns or has a kink 7 or so inches in? That's what I wonder about. Maybe if this is the case and I just went slow then once I finally took him all it the pain would go away.

Yes, very possible...like I said we all have different physiologies. Some of us are blonde, some brunette, some hairy and some smooth, you get the idea, we are all different.

 

[bicurious19]

Can't count how many times I've been on the end of it. Honestly it's never ever been painful for me. As long as there's plenty lube, usually push straight in. Obviously the initial first 'discomfort' but for me that's gone in 5 seconds anyway. It shouldn't hurt.

 

[jomar]

The large intestine takes a sharp turn at some point. Maybe it's a short drive to the turn in you and you run out of road.

 

[deucie]

The large intestine takes a sharp turn at some point. Maybe it's a short drive to the turn in you and you run out of road.

I think this is my problem. Wish I didn't have such a quick turn.

 

[Stella_Omega]

people don't realise how sloppy anatomy is, and i swear-- below the belly button is the sloppiest. It's like everything gets shoved in, all the parts we all need-- just who cares about where they get put.

Genital and rectal anatomy, in other words is incredibly variable. Gaytopher's advice is probably really useful for you, and one reason is that with your chest down on the floor and your ass jacked up high, gravity just might pull the kink straight!

Also try laying on your side and letting him spoon you. Only thing is I've forgotten which side, exactly you're supposed to lay on. Anyone know?

 

[deucie]

people don't realise how sloppy anatomy is, and i swear-- below the belly button is the sloppiest. It's like everything gets shoved in, all the parts we all need-- just who cares about where they get put.

Genital and rectal anatomy, in other words is incredibly variable. Gaytopher's advice is probably really useful for you, and one reason is that with your chest down on the floor and your ass jacked up high, gravity just might pull the kink straight!

Also try laying on your side and letting him spoon you. Only thing is I've forgotten which side, exactly you're supposed to lay on. Anyone know?

Thanks Stella. Must be the right side. The left didn't work.

 

[none2_none2]

I think you ought to discuss this with a gay friendly doctor. Any advice you get on here is most likely not from a medical professional. I will tell you that I've fucked a lot of guys over the years, and just like every cock is different, so is every asshole. I remember a guy who started dripping blood in his precum as being fucked. I suspect that he had something wrong with his prostate. That is probably not your problem. Still you want your life to be the best it can be, so sometimes discussing stuff with a gay friendly doctor is the best way to eliminate that there are any health issues.

Anal sex should be enjoyable for most people. If you aren't having pure fun, then a good top will sense that and might feel a bit responsible. A good top wants the bottom to crave his efforts to fuck him. That is part of getting the top off in his head.

Good luck!

 

[deucie]

All good advice. Thanks for the feedback everyone. I still want to have that elusive anal orgasm!

 

[howbo]

Yeah

There might be "some" pain associated with this! You be the judge.

Holy s**t! Yeah, I'd say there might be a little (or a lot!) pain there. Don't try this at home(?) Sorta like fisting which is beyond my limits. Way beyond.

 

[howbo]

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[deucie]

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