Anal Help

[TennesseeJed]

Hi there,

Long time reader, never needed to post before

So me and my long-term girlfriend decided to try anal sex. We spent the evening together with lots of foreplay, vaginal sex beforehand and so on. I used well lubed fingers first (which I have done before). Then I go to enter using a lubricated condom plus lots of KY jelly. However, I just can't get in.

I'd often slip and even when I was on the mark I either went nowhere or...bent. We tried for some time in both a doggie style position and with her on her back, legs up in the air, with no success.

I also went soft regularily. And because I was wearing a condom, and one that had toucherd her ass, I couldn't get had to solve the problem. And jacking off just isn't as good with a condom.

So, apart from not having sex beforehand (hopefully help with going soft) what can we do to make this work?

Thanks

 

[LadyG]

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=243894

Check out the blank manual, there's lots of advice in there on many subjects, including Anal.

Hope it helps!

 

[SweetErika]

I'd suggest the Blank Manual too, but I have some questions:

How was she feeling and reacting? Was she relaxed? Tense?

Were you nervous about hurting her or something else?

 

[bytor2112]

lose the condom....come on...

do either of you have any diseases?? is this a committed relationship....

fuck that ass dude....

 

[SwEeT_LiL_LadY]

When i first had anal sex..i had it with someone who i trust and still trust today...it hurt like a bitch - but now as i got use to it, its very very enjoyable!

 

[Little Bird]

I come to think, that Anal is getting a strongly popular these days. Some times ago a rarely saw a thread about it here, but now there are at least two new every week...

 

[Eilan]

I come to think, that Anal is getting a strongly popular these days. Some times ago a rarely saw a thread about it here, but now there are at least two new every week...

Better that than dick size threads!

 

[TennesseeJed]

She was a little nervous, but quite calm and quite relaxed. I wasn't nervous. I was concerned definitely, but I when I couldn't enter gently I tried my very hardest to force my way in (she asked me to) and still I couldn't get inside.

She feels more comfortable if the first few times we use protection. We don't have any infections and we don't use condoms normally but she just feels more confortable using them in this case. Will not using a condom make entering easier?

I had a look at the Blank Manual. Only real help I could find was to try spooning, which we will. Any other advice?

 

[fr34k_n45ty]

tons of lube... condums seem to cause too much stickiness for me. maybe try in the shower or start there and move to the bed... might relax her a lil... I once read somewhere if she bears down a lil bit it makes it easier. good luck

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

I once read somewhere if she bears down a lil bit it makes it easier. good luck

After doing anal for years, this is one of the best pieces of advice I can give. Just make sure she's ready for you. Use lube and go slow.

Also, a glass of wine before doesn't hurt either.

Good Luck!!

 

[Eilan]

I think you've gotten some good advice so far.

Spooning is the position that's always worked for me. It's worth a try.

You may want to try another lube. K-Y tends to get sticky after a point, and it won't be much help if it's sticky. I don't really have any recommendations in the lube department; you may have to experiment to find the what works best for the two of you.

SkyBluAngelEyes mentioned having a glass of wine beforehand. ONE glass might not be a bad idea, but definitely don't overdo the booze.

Good luck and, by the way, welcome to Lit!

 

[amyleigh601]

i love anal sex and. When my husband and i do it we use lots of lube and no condom because it usually hurts with a condom.