Anal D:

[KissmeKassie]

So I love the idea of anal and I really want to try but I feel like I cant handle the pain initially when my boyfriend firsts starts to fuck my ass..

Is there any help or tips ? I'd love to learn

 

[liztv]

Plenty of lube just relax and take it slow

 

[cock_star44]

yes lube.. and if you dring, try getting a little buzzed. It helps

 

[SweetErika]

If you're sufficiently relaxed, warmed up, lubed and going slowly, anal shouldn't be painful, so it sounds like you need to go back to those basics.

What we do is have my husband stay still while I push back onto him and start moving at my own pace when I feel completely relaxed and ready. I also use a vibe for clit stimulation during this because it provides extra arousal and a pleasurable distraction (if I think about the anal activity, the sphincters inevitably tighten up).

It's only when everything is going well at my speed that I pick up the pace gradually and eventually let him know he can start moving SLOWLY. If anything hurts, we stop right away and address the issue with more lube, adjusting the position, changing the paces, etc. He can thrust vigorously at a certain point, but it definitely takes time to get there.

 

[KissmeKassie]

Alright so I'm buying a gallon of lube and taking a quick shot (; thanks!

 

[cock_star44]

Alright so I'm buying a gallon of lube and taking a quick shot (; thanks!

lol.. good luck

 

[Cruel2BKind]

Also...

If you have any toys or objects, anything from a thin candle to a nail polish bottle, something smaller then his penis, try loosening up with some of those. Drench them in lube first.

 

[KissmeKassie]

If you have any toys or objects, anything from a thin candle to a nail polish bottle, something smaller then his penis, try loosening up with some of those. Drench them in lube first.

Yeah I was thinking about doing that too.. but i'm not sure how he'd take fucking my ass with something. I'm the more adventurous one of the two

 

[bailadora]

If you have any toys or objects, anything from a thin candle to a nail polish bottle, something smaller then his penis, try loosening up with some of those. Drench them in lube first.

Oh hell, no! If you're going this route, please use something he can maintain a good grip on. That is unless you fancy a trip to the ER because it got "lost" inside you and you can't get it out!

 

[klippert]

Lube, rimming, lube, more rimming, fingers, toys, lube......serious though, good lube....ID glide is what we use.....

My best suggestion......You on top....Lube. You can control the penetration....

 

[laozmo2]

A helpful tip.

Order a LUBE LAUNCHER from Amazon.com sex toy collection. (under $5.00)
Its a small pencil size syringe that injects lube a few inches inside the anus. It makes penetration much easier and more comfortable!!! Have fun!!!

 

[seat542]

So I love the idea of anal and I really want to try but I feel like I cant handle the pain initially when my boyfriend firsts starts to fuck my ass..

Is there any help or tips ? I'd love to learn

Remember it is an exit first. Have it clean so whatever goes up does have to share the room. Have enough time to work it slowly. Expand your limits each time.

Have fun and enjoy

 

[aniowachick]

bearing down slightly will help open you up

 

[SLTSTMS]

Lots of lube, preparation with finger penetration is best. I recommend that you have your boyfriend be able to insert at least three fingers before he uses his penis. And most importantly is patience.

 

[LiathLis]

I've been with my man a long time, since highschool (scary) and when we were younger he'd try and pop it in the back hole every now and then and it just was SOOOO ouch we'd get nowhere and I'd be sore arsed in the bargain. That was the way of things for ages, he'd get drunk and try and put it in my ass and I'd be resistant to the idea cause it really hurt! And I stayed resistant!
I can't even remember how this happened, but it was pretty recent. Maybe he did some research on technique, maybe we got really lube happy or maybe I was really really aroused, but it happened and it was awesome. Now we've got a system going lol.
My fav masturbating position is laying on my front with my hand under me stimulating my clit, basically humping my hand (not pretty, but effective lol). Found this great for anal, he has great access to my anus, I'm more receptive to what he's doing because I've got constant control over my stimulation.
So while I'm doing what I do, he lubes my ass thoroughly and preps it by fingering slowly and increasing the digits as I get adjusted and stretched. When I'm ready, which usually doesn't take long, he'll get behind me and sit his cock head at my anus, I'll push back a little to get a hold on it. Then I'll use my humping motion to control penetration, all the while making sure I'm grinding on my clit.
There are a few key factors that make this work for me;
- LUBE and lots of it
- SLOW and steady, its not like porn you can't just shove it up there!
- I'm not sure I could do anal without the CLITORAL STIMULATION
- RELAXING your ass is a big factor for me, especially if I want to take it all in. When it gets to the point where it feels like too much, relax, breathe and let your insides adjust.

Until I get to that point of total adjustment, I forbid my partner to move because that would throw my concentration out and potentially hurt me. So you've got to have alot of trust in your partner not to thrust wildly halfway through the process. Usually at that point I'll grind on his cock getting myself used to the in and out motion, I'll do this until I climax and then I'll turn it over to him. I know by that point he just wants to pound me like crazy but I still can't take it if he goes too hard on my ass, I need the tempo to build slowly and can't take it for too long either. But I'm sure that's just a practice makes perfect thing. For years I thought that anal wasn't for me, but it was just that we were young and stupid and not doing it properly!! Now it's intense and erotic and I love it. Still not something I'd want everyday, but at least once or twice a month
(reading back over this it sounds like I'm a control freak lol, I'm not I swear!)
Well that's what works for me. Geez maybe I should turn it into a story, it's gotten a bit long winded, sorry bout that!! Hope you have a fun experiance.

 

[ButtAnalMan]

I've been with my man a long time, since highschool (scary) and when we were younger he'd try and pop it in the back hole every now and then and it just was SOOOO ouch we'd get nowhere and I'd be sore arsed in the bargain. That was the way of things for ages, he'd get drunk and try and put it in my ass and I'd be resistant to the idea cause it really hurt! And I stayed resistant!
I can't even remember how this happened, but it was pretty recent. Maybe he did some research on technique, maybe we got really lube happy or maybe I was really really aroused, but it happened and it was awesome. Now we've got a system going lol.
My fav masturbating position is laying on my front with my hand under me stimulating my clit, basically humping my hand (not pretty, but effective lol). Found this great for anal, he has great access to my anus, I'm more receptive to what he's doing because I've got constant control over my stimulation.
So while I'm doing what I do, he lubes my ass thoroughly and preps it by fingering slowly and increasing the digits as I get adjusted and stretched. When I'm ready, which usually doesn't take long, he'll get behind me and sit his cock head at my anus, I'll push back a little to get a hold on it. Then I'll use my humping motion to control penetration, all the while making sure I'm grinding on my clit.
There are a few key factors that make this work for me;
- LUBE and lots of it
- SLOW and steady, its not like porn you can't just shove it up there!
- I'm not sure I could do anal without the CLITORAL STIMULATION
- RELAXING your ass is a big factor for me, especially if I want to take it all in. When it gets to the point where it feels like too much, relax, breathe and let your insides adjust.

Until I get to that point of total adjustment, I forbid my partner to move because that would throw my concentration out and potentially hurt me. So you've got to have alot of trust in your partner not to thrust wildly halfway through the process. Usually at that point I'll grind on his cock getting myself used to the in and out motion, I'll do this until I climax and then I'll turn it over to him. I know by that point he just wants to pound me like crazy but I still can't take it if he goes too hard on my ass, I need the tempo to build slowly and can't take it for too long either. But I'm sure that's just a practice makes perfect thing. For years I thought that anal wasn't for me, but it was just that we were young and stupid and not doing it properly!! Now it's intense and erotic and I love it. Still not something I'd want everyday, but at least once or twice a month
(reading back over this it sounds like I'm a control freak lol, I'm not I swear!)
Well that's what works for me. Geez maybe I should turn it into a story, it's gotten a bit long winded, sorry bout that!! Hope you have a fun experiance.

Totally agree. In addition, this is my favorite position to fuck females' butt. It is the best erotic position.

Hi KissmeKassie,

You need a lot of practice, it will helps. Another great advice is to see a lot of anal videos especially amateur ones. You can find many of them that I have posted in YouPorn thread. Either go to the thread or find them through my profile.

If you need further help, I am ready to help through chatting. Do not worry, no voice or cam is required. Only by using test chat on Yahoo, I can teach you how to relax and enjoy anal sex by using different toys. it is a slow step-by-step instruction session. I did it many times before and helped many girls open their anal world. If your man wants to going, I can help you both.

Good luck

 

[snowcouple4play]

My wife and I could never do anal, because it wasn't comfortable for her until recently. We found that with her on top controlling entry and using lots of silicone based lube it was not only painless, but she loved it.

 

[ButtAnalMan]

My wife and I could never do anal, because it wasn't comfortable for her until recently. We found that with her on top controlling entry and using lots of silicone based lube it was not only painless, but she loved it.

good approach. any more help just PM me.

 

[icandothis]

Word To The Wise

If you have any toys or objects, anything from a thin candle to a nail polish bottle, something smaller then his penis, try loosening up with some of those. Drench them in lube first.

This is a little scary (and I'm sure unintentionally so). But do not, I repeat do not use a thin candle or nail polish bottle or anything in between. I work at a hospital and my ex bf was a firefighter. If I told you the number of people in a week who came into the ER with foreign objects stuck up their asses or the number of people, who called 911 or actually went to the fire station for help because they were too embarassed to go to the ER your head would spin so fast it would make you dizzy and explode!

Be safe and cough up the few bucks that it will take to buy a toy specifically designed to be inserted into your ass. . . you won't be sorry, or have nurses, doctors, EMS techs or firefighters laughing and pointing at you behind your back.

 

[Skytripper]

So I love the idea of anal and I really want to try but I feel like I cant handle the pain initially when my boyfriend firsts starts to fuck my ass..

Is there any help or tips ? I'd love to learn

You might want to experiment alone with toys. Heed the above advice on toys and use something that's not going to get lost up there. Also, enema beforehand for cleanliness, lube, bear down, and know that anal can be pleasurable for a woman, very pleasurable for some. With that in mind, have fun exploring your back door! You may learn to love it! I do.

 

[ButtAnalMan]

So I love the idea of anal and I really want to try but I feel like I cant handle the pain initially when my boyfriend firsts starts to fuck my ass..

Is there any help or tips ? I'd love to learn

by the way, I forgot to say something. Pain is bad in anal sex if it prevents it, however even most experienced girls may feel some anal pain or even reduce the lub to be able to feel some pain. this level of pain make anal more erotic.

 

[CandiCame]

RELAX- in addition to the lube thing; that's my best advice, relax as best you can. If you have to get tipsy first, get tipsy, because you've got to relax everything and let him do all the work- if you worry about it at all, it starts to hurt- you honestly can't think about it, but you can't NOT think about it, because you're being ripped opened-

God, just thinking about it gets me hard...

 

[KissmeKassie]

Wow thanks everyone especially Liathlis, that helped soooo much. and Buttanalman, I just might go have a look at those now.

hehe (;

 

[Daniel1492]

Start out with one finger then work up to two fingers, then three fingers and you should be good to go. You don't have to do this in one night. Try having your husband use one finger on you while you are having sex first. Slow is the key and plenty of lube.

 

[ButtAnalMan]

Wow thanks everyone especially Liathlis, that helped soooo much. and Buttanalman, I just might go have a look at those now.

hehe (;

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