Anal cleanliness

[weez787]

Hubby and I have recently gotten into anal play (toys) and anal sex. We have sex most nights and I'm so paranoid about cleanliness that I douche/small enema pretty much almost every evening while taking my pre-sex shower. I wonder if this is OK from a health standpoint? Also, what do you all do - does everyone do this?

This is probably TMI, but I've had the unfortunate experience with a previous lover of not being 'clean' and it was very embarassing and not sexy!

 

[LadyJeanne]

I'm not an expert since I'm not into anal, but there are some very good threads around here on prep for anal. This is one of them:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=419214

but there are others if you search. Also, the Blank Manual at the top of the forum, has a lot of links to other threads on anal.

 

[weez787]

Thanks. I've checked the Blank Manual - most of the info seems to be about HOW to actually do it - go slow, lube, etc. I need info on 'avoiding messes.'

 

[cplwhoplayzc2c]

Hey hon, ive heard that the occasional enema or what not is ok but not to do them daily or your bowels become dependant on that not sure if this is true or not just what i have heard. The best advice i can offer to you is to google it or yahoo search engine askjeeves any of those will work many dr pages come up with advice and tips an hints atleast they did for me if this doesn't work for you let me know and i'll try to forward them on to :O) enjoy i personally love anal an can so relate to how you are feeling

 

[Eilan]

I did a search of How-To using the keyword "enemas" and found the following:

https://forum.literotica.com/search.php?searchid=2857815

I think you'll find that opinions vary on whether or not to use enemas before anal. Some people use them before they expect to have anal and even make the enema a part of their play. Others, however, tend not to worry as much about it, particularly if they've had a bowel movement that day.

I fall into the second category. The prospect of having an enema is way more daunting to me than the prospect/potential embarassment of my husband having a little bit of a mess on his cock when we're done. But then, I'm biased because I had a less than positive experience with an enema in a hospital ER when I was 10.

You do what you feel is best for you, though. Good luck.

 

[SweetErika]

We don't do enemas, but always shower and clean ourselves well before any kind of anal play, use plenty of lube, and condoms for toys that can't be sterilized and anal sex. I think the lube and condoms are particularly helpful in guarding against ickiness and health risks.

We've never had a problem using this routine, but also assume there's always a risk of some mess with anal, whether it's from the lube or umm...other stuff, so I think it's not such a huge issue mentally. Personally, I try not to dwell on what could happen because I know it might hamper my enjoyment and that we'll cross that bridge if/when we come to it, and all will be just fine.

 

[Eilan]

there's always a risk of some mess with anal, whether it's from the lube or umm...other stuff

FYI for those of you who may not read Dan Savage's column:

The frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex is known as Santorum, named for Senator Rick Santorum of PA.

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[Jude30]

The bad thing about enemas is they wash away the little layer of mucus in your rectum. That mucus helps prevent infections incase of a small cut in there. Everytime you have sex there is a little bit of tearing whether it's vaginal or anal. So if you wash away that mucus you just upped your chances of getting some kind of nasty infection. Or so says Tristan Taormino the foremost expert on anal sex.

Just recently on her message board though someone posted instructions for what they called a "dry enema". Basically you take about two tablespoons of your favorite water based lube, and put it in a syringe (sp). Something like you use to give a child medicine. Make sure it actually goes into the rectum. Let it stay in there for about half an hour then go sit and take care of business. In that half an hour the lube warms up and coats anything that may be in there letting it slide out nice and easy.

 

[LadyJeanne]

FYI for those of you who may not read Dan Savage's column:

The frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex is known as Santorum, named for Senator Rick Santorum of PA.

[/hijack]

You never fail me, dearest.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

i personally don't give a rat's ass, if my lover is going to fuck my ass, he better ASSUME he might get a little messy....

 

[Shaq]

i personally don't give a rat's ass, if my lover is going to fuck my ass, he better ASSUME he might get a little messy....

Stinkeebutt.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

Stinkeebutt.

*runs away and cries*

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

*runs away and cries*

wipes away the tears and whispers "what the fuck does he know anyway"

 

[cplwhoplayzc2c]

Awww

Aww sweety im with ya on that one if my Lover is going to be doing my ass he had damn well better expect something lol, and yer not that mean name *sweet smiles*

 

[Guest]

I think you'll find that opinions vary on whether or not to use enemas before anal. Some people use them before they expect to have anal and even make the enema a part of their play. Others, however, tend not to worry as much about it, particularly if they've had a bowel movement that day.

I fall into the second category. The prospect of having an enema is way more daunting to me than the prospect/potential embarassment of my husband having a little bit of a mess on his cock when we're done. But then, I'm biased because I had a less than positive experience with an enema in a hospital ER when I was 10.

You do what you feel is best for you, though. Good luck.

I agree. There is no "correct" way. Do whatever is comfortable for you and your partner.

FYI for those of you who may not read Dan Savage's column:

The frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex is known as Santorum, named for Senator Rick Santorum of PA.

[/hijack]

BWAH!

Just spit out my ice tea.

 

[newmimale]

i personally don't give a rat's ass, if my lover is going to fuck my ass, he better ASSUME he might get a little messy....

I love anal..and i dont mind to get messy....what a shower for then ?

 

[Grizzman]

i'd suggest having a movement before anal, not necessarily immediately but recently. and if you take a shower a soapy finger will get rid of any leftovers in the pucker.

 

[SillyBits]

Something I started doing was to wear a butt plug for 15-30 minutes a day the week before seeing my gf at the time (it was a long distance relationship) so things would be a bit more relaxed when it came time. This really helps if patience is not one of your partner's virtues.

If you start having anal sex regularly you'll find that its a lot easier to clean out, too. I've never used an enema, but I found that we didn't have as many messes after I started using the butt plug on a regular basis.

Oh, and baby wipes may not be a bad idea to help clean up things around there.