I'm searching for an online relationship of an unlikely sort. I'm an 42 y.o. male with keen interests in but little experience with bdsm. I'm searching for a particular sort of person to explore some of this with, but I'm also after a connection on a nonsexual level as well. I've always thought that any sort of worthwhile relationship, even "just" an online one, needs a level of trust and meeting of minds that cannot happen too rapidly. If you're one of the "I'll get on a cam tomorrow and do whatever you tell me" sorts, you're not going to be my type. You'll find a million guys after exactly that, but I'm not one of them, so better not to waste either of our times. If you're only after cybersex, you're going to be disappointed; again best not to waste our times.
I'll say a few words about the sort I *am* after, and then a few words about myself.
Basically what I seek is someone willing to discuss anything, from favorite movies to "what's the universe all about, anyway", to, yes, our favorite bdsm fantasies. I'm shooting for the "introverted bookwormy smart-chick" angle here: the nerdy, literate type happier in a library or browsing wikis than in a mall. Ideally, a fellow introvert. Someone who hates "hw r u" msg-speak as much as I do. I've not much real bdsm experience, but quite a few ideas, so would ideally like to find someone in a similar situation who's willing to discuss, explore ideas, perhaps even try. Probably 20-30 age bracket. At least mildly athletic is a bonus. Location, race, and native language are not factors. You must be unattached. But none of that matters without the mental connection, which is essential. If we try and don't find it, so be it; I tend to think it's rare to find.
A few words about me: I'm (still, I suppose...) middle age, single, not really looking for a real-life relationship; I suck at them. I'm in decent shape; casually lift weights and so on, but just occasionally to fight desk-job flab, not to get huge and develop an Austrian accent. I'm interested in lots of things: weird, unusual, quirky, and old movies, quite a few music genres, recreational reading such as I have time for it, physics, and others. I'm an atheist, but not militantly so; I strongly support freedom of religion. After we've established that we get along and have a bit of trust, trust, I'm willing to exchange pictures. BDSM-wise my interests run towards the relationship between embarrassment and sex, light to moderate pain, and some others, all from the dom end. Someone having a good imagination and fantasies in these areas is a strong bonus. Dark is good. I'm not very interested in protocol and formalities. I want a sub oriented person with her own brain and fantasies.
If we chat, I'll give you my attention and not be talking to a bunch of other people at the same time. (Interruptions happen, but I've always considered it rude to be giving 1/5 of one's attention to 5 different conversations at once). Please be courteous in return.
You can reply to me via PM on here if interested.
I'll say a few words about the sort I *am* after, and then a few words about myself.
Basically what I seek is someone willing to discuss anything, from favorite movies to "what's the universe all about, anyway", to, yes, our favorite bdsm fantasies. I'm shooting for the "introverted bookwormy smart-chick" angle here: the nerdy, literate type happier in a library or browsing wikis than in a mall. Ideally, a fellow introvert. Someone who hates "hw r u" msg-speak as much as I do. I've not much real bdsm experience, but quite a few ideas, so would ideally like to find someone in a similar situation who's willing to discuss, explore ideas, perhaps even try. Probably 20-30 age bracket. At least mildly athletic is a bonus. Location, race, and native language are not factors. You must be unattached. But none of that matters without the mental connection, which is essential. If we try and don't find it, so be it; I tend to think it's rare to find.
A few words about me: I'm (still, I suppose...) middle age, single, not really looking for a real-life relationship; I suck at them. I'm in decent shape; casually lift weights and so on, but just occasionally to fight desk-job flab, not to get huge and develop an Austrian accent. I'm interested in lots of things: weird, unusual, quirky, and old movies, quite a few music genres, recreational reading such as I have time for it, physics, and others. I'm an atheist, but not militantly so; I strongly support freedom of religion. After we've established that we get along and have a bit of trust, trust, I'm willing to exchange pictures. BDSM-wise my interests run towards the relationship between embarrassment and sex, light to moderate pain, and some others, all from the dom end. Someone having a good imagination and fantasies in these areas is a strong bonus. Dark is good. I'm not very interested in protocol and formalities. I want a sub oriented person with her own brain and fantasies.
If we chat, I'll give you my attention and not be talking to a bunch of other people at the same time. (Interruptions happen, but I've always considered it rude to be giving 1/5 of one's attention to 5 different conversations at once). Please be courteous in return.
You can reply to me via PM on here if interested.
) . I hope to find someone to explore it with.
