an oral issue...

[~justin]

*searching for the place to start*

Okay. My significant other has what is IMHO the most incredible tongue on the face of the planet. There's a problem, though... she has a very, very narrow throat (so much so that when she was little she had to have it surgically widened so she could eat more than JELL-O type foods). The practical upshot of this is that she gags on anything bigger than a spoonful of food (not in the swallowing; she actually gags when she puts it in her mouth).

I'm sure you can all figure out where I'm going here. She can't so much as put the head of my penis into her mouth without triggering her gag reflex since her throat says "I hope you're not going to try to swallow that or anything that may come out of it..." She has been able to do it twice; the first time my wang had been quite sorely abused and wasn't especially big or hard, and I warned her when I was about to cum so that she could stop. The second time she managed all right until I came (I was too busy enjoying myself to warn her; I felt really bad about it afterwards) and then she was barely able to avoid throwing up. She said she liked the taste just fine, it was just the gagging part that ruined it.

Now, a no-blowjob relationship would be just fine. I don't ask her to do anything (I'm usually having to much fun doing things to her ). But she says that she wishes she could do it (and I'd be lying if I said the blowjobs she's given me weren't incredible ). Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to go about suppressing that involuntary gag reflex? Keep in mind that I'm not going to be sticking anything into her throat - it's just getting my cock into her mouth (no cumming in her mouth, either) that is the goal here.

Anyway, we're open to suggestions.

~justin

 

[cactiphile]

Can't answer that as I have a similar but different
problem. My wife has a measureably small mouth,
forget about the gag reflex, my pecker won't
go past her teeth. Hence I might get a good
licking which is nice, but a blow job never.

C.

 

[Mr_Neb]

Since we are talking about a physical limitation here, you need to be reasonable and considerate. Thankfully, it looks like you are. (Come to think of it, even if we WEREN'T talking about a physical limitation, you should be reasonable and considerate. )

Anyway, truthfully, with the right skills, oral sex can be gloriously satisfying without ever entering her mouth so it certainly can be just as rewarding if you don't enter her fully. A good blowjob is as much about when and where NOT to touch as it is when and where TO touch.

As for the climax, again, with the right technique, you won't care if you come inside her mouth or not.

Work with her. Talk with her while having sex in an intimate and loving way. Work out a method that is satisfying to you both.

If you would like more details about it. I'm sure that Mrs. Neb could help out. Email me and I will provider her email address so your girfriend can write her.

 

[NewEnglandBBW]

From a medical standpoint, it's not a good idea to try or use anything that suppresses a gag reflex. Sensitive as hers might be, there's a purpose for it, and that's to prevent aspiration of objects into the lungs. If she were to try to alter the reflex, she could choke or get aspiration pneumonia.

I'd say be happy that she's willing to do what she can, and maybe things will get better in time.

I've got a very sensitive gag reflex myself, and it's frustrating, but I do try

 

[~justin]

I didn't intend it as a complaint, don't worry the physical aspect of our relationship is wonderful and fulfilling. We were both just curious to see if this was one of those things that would always have to be worked around - evidently it is . And don't worry - I am happy. (And so far as I can tell, so's she ) Thanks for the advice, too.