An introduction

[david_mac0021]

Hello everyone -

What a fantastic resource this forum is! Just wanted to introduce myself, and also pose a question; I'm a male student in my early twenties wrapping up college and I've just come out of a vanilla relationship. I know that the next person I get involved with, I want a D/S dynamic like I've experienced once before... I'm looking for your best advice on achieving that. Is it all just up to luck (as was the case with that first relationship)? Or is there something I can do to improve my odds?

Secondary question: when did you all make the decision to pursue this lifestyle? Was it a concious decision, or did it just happen?

Cheers,
Mac

 

[raven2]

Hello everyone -

What a fantastic resource this forum is! Just wanted to introduce myself, and also pose a question; I'm a male student in my early twenties wrapping up college and I've just come out of a vanilla relationship. I know that the next person I get involved with, I want a D/S dynamic like I've experienced once before... I'm looking for your best advice on achieving that. Is it all just up to luck (as was the case with that first relationship)? Or is there something I can do to improve my odds?

Secondary question: when did you all make the decision to pursue this lifestyle? Was it a concious decision, or did it just happen?

Cheers,
Mac

Welcome to you Mac. I hope you feel at home here and make a lot of friends.
I can't really give you a lot of advice on acheiving your relationship ( I have been married for 25+ years) but I have just started investigating it in the last 6 months. My wife is a little curious and I also have another dear friend who I am working with in a very beginning D/S relationship. In my case I always felt something was missing in relationship with my wife and thought it might be nice to try something a little different. Please don't misunderstand me, I love my wife dearly and we have done 3 and 4-somes in the past, but I think I was attracted to the physical part since i have always been an athlete.

 

[david_mac0021]

Raven --

Thanks for the welcome! I know exactly what you mean about the athlete/physicality correlation; I certainly feel thats the case for myself as well.. and kudos to you for pursuing what makes you happy. All too often we succumb to playing it safe. Hope all works out for you.

- Mac

 

[LunarKitten]

Welcome to the boards. I would suggest you start with a munch group or your local bdsm group. This will help you met people who are also interested and will also introduce you educational oportunities with classes on different topics that you might not have thought of as being interesting before (this was true for me with my first class on floggers lol I've been hooked ever since).

I've been involved with my local community for about five or six years now. I was online for a few years before that doing research and chatting with others who had the interest, so I could learn more about myself and my interests in the process. I first learned about bdsm from a friend of mine when she confessed that the man she was marrying, and had been living with for several years, was also her Master. Back then, I never thought in a million years I could EVER be a slave, but submission was very appealing idea. Every part of it spoke very very loudly to me. I didn't think the play part of it was that tempting though, it took joining my local group and going to my first social (play party) for me to see the visual appeal.

I do hope you find the one you are looking for!

 

[FurryFury]

What she said, and welcome.

I didn't recognize my real desires until my 44th year. You got it all over me, and you're single/free to find what you want! Enjoy the journey!

Fury

 

[raven2]

Raven --

Thanks for the welcome! I know exactly what you mean about the athlete/physicality correlation; I certainly feel thats the case for myself as well.. and kudos to you for pursuing what makes you happy. All too often we succumb to playing it safe. Hope all works out for you.

- Mac

I have done that for most of my life (played it safe) and now I don't want to miss things because of it. It certainly is not always easy.

 

[david_mac0021]

Thanks for all the replies -- my ISP drags on some sites, including this one unfortunately, so it can be hard to get back here and stay up-to-date. They're "fixing it", but they've been saying that for the past 2 years. Oh well.

I've started getting out there, and met a girl with some potential... so we'll see how things go.

-- Mac