An eye for an eye?

[Guest]

Not trying to get all Biblical or anything here, but in general daily life, do you tend to follow the "Eye for an eye" rule or the "Forgive and forget"?

 

[Cheyenne]

Closer to "forgive and forget". But I don't think that forget is exactly correct. I remember and learn from my mistakes.

Personal rule to get along in life: "Don't lie, cheat or steal." It covers just about every situation and most often when I get into trouble, it seems it is because I've broken some part of this simple rule.

I also try to follow "take the high road" especially in my business life.

Edit: I have "Do unto others as you would have them do onto you" posted on my computer at work. It reminds me often to stop before I do something I will regret.

[Edited by Cheyenne on 11-07-2000 at 08:50 PM]

 

[Samuari]

I'll get Bibical

I try "To do unto others as I would have them do unto me." That and "Loving my neighbor as myself" (woo who) pretty well sums up what I try to do. Fail a lot, but keep trying.

 

[forgetunome]

Forgive & Forget...

I tend to lean more to forgive & forget...

I believe as humans we all do and say things from time to time we didn't mean or in the heat of the moment and then regret. So, I know I am quick to ask for forgiveness if I feel I've crossed the line or if someone crosses me and then regrets and asks for forgiveness if it's genuine or I feel it's genuine then I will forgive them. But, if it's someone who continues hurting and asking for forgiveness then I don't know that I would move over to eye for an eye. I just tend to mark them in my mind and remove acquaintance with them. No since lowering myself to their standards.

There is a lot of gray area depending on different situations but....forgive & forget is my leaning.

 

[Guest]

The reason I was wondering is because right now, I'm leaning more towards the "Eye for an eye" thing. I suppose I'm a rather vengeful person by nature. ~sigh~ Thanks all who responded.

 

[Cheyenne]

Whatever it is, Tiggs, sleep on it first. It will probably look different in the morning.

 

[Samuari]

The reason I was wondering is because right now, I'm leaning more towards the "Eye for an eye" thing. I suppose I'm a rather vengeful person by nature. ~sigh~ Thanks all who responded.

It ain't worth it Hun. Been there, got the Tshirt. Turned into a hairshirt, bad fit.

 

[Ravenloft]

This is a hard one... I know that an eye for an eye is a hell of a lot easier, but it just causes more problems in the long run... Its hard to be nice to someone that has wronged you... I know! Believe me I know!

I "take the high road" as they say but that doesn't stop me from imagining someones bloody corps... (Too bad thats a sin too huh?)

Basically says "hey, I'm human. I may have these impulses, but I don't act on them" here....

 

[Ambrosious]

Eye for an eye. If you never spank the baby, he never learns not to take money out of mama's purse.

 

[Guest]

Ambrosious??? "Eye for an eye" is just that. Someone harms you, you harm (or at least think/fantasize about harming) them. Someone cheats you, you cheat them. Etc.

 

[MunchinMark]

I sort of take a middle road here, except when people are hitting kids, then I really want to get medieval on them. But not doing anything can be quite nasty. If someone knows they've done wrong by you and all that you do is act in a curiously polite manner, they begin to wonder what you're up to.

 

[Ambrosious]

Ambrosious??? "Eye for an eye" is just that. Someone harms you, you harm (or at least think/fantasize about harming) them. Someone cheats you, you cheat them. Etc.

A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do.

I truly believe in eye for an eye. I think it should go as far as traffic accidents. Careless driver mows down a pedestrian in the crosswalk? Mow him down and refuse medical help for the exact same time it took help to arrive for his victim.

P.S. This is # 500 for me.

 

[Guest]

Congrats Mr. Guru/Moderator!

 

[Phoenix]

How I feel

OK I know this is kinda late but I have to speak my peace. Although I am a forgiving and forgetting kind of guy sometimes that eye for an eye is the best way to handle a situation. Many times others have done what ever they could to hold me but I managed to rise above it and I working to make something of my life. Right now the way I feel if I ever come up upon those people I can honestly say that those people are gonna get from me what they got but on the same page a part of me just wants to ignore them and move on. However to frank about the topic just stay true to yourself and how you feel and wieght the conquences of your actions

 

[Nicole]

Tiggs please remind me never to get on your wrong side.

I go with Forgive and forget, although forgetting is hard at times. I guess I'm not a vengeful person, and please don't think I am saying you are.

Have you seen the Movie "An eye for an eye"? with Keifer Sutherland and Sally Feild. If not it was that movie that made me want to live by the Forgive and forget rule.

Whatever the problem please think before you do.

Good Luck Tiggs

 

[Guest]

Nicole, Yes, I've seen the movie before. I would consider myself to be a vengeful person (though I've never really acted upon any revenge urges...aside from breaking an ex fiance's jaw by kicking him). Also, though I doubt I'd be as foolish as Sally Field's character was, I'd go "out for blood" one way or another if someone raped/killed a person close to me, especially my own daughter. There's no greater feeling/loss as outliving your own child.

[Edited by Tiggs on 11-07-2000 at 10:42 PM]

 

[Nicole]

Tiggs I hear you there, I wouldn't know what to do now without my gorgeous son in my life.

Umm you broke his Jaw??? (LOL) You go girl.

I guess I'm just the type of person that likes to think that if I forgive then forget (which I will admit it hard) then I'm not making waves you know.

Hey at least you can admit to what you are, my sister is the most vengeful person I know although she doesn't think she is.

But yes just thinking of someone hurting my son would give me the "Eye for an Eye" feeling for sure.

Take Care

 

[Guest]

Umm you broke his Jaw??? (LOL) You go girl.

Yes, I did, but that was during a very heated argument between he and I where he took some things told to him in strict confidentiality and used them against me.

 

[Nicole]

I still say you go girl

I still wouldn't like to meet you in a Dark Alley though and offend you (LOL) <----- Please see smilie face *giggle*

 

[Guest]

<Looking around "blindly"...on PURPOSE > Smilie face? I don't see a smilie face. Grrrrrr... <Running after Nicole into that ever so convenient alley up yonder.> Better watch out girl. I'm cumming....damnit, I mean coming....for ya!

http://cgi.tripod.com/smilecwm/cgi-bin/s/drowned/blazer-gray.gif

 

[Shelby]

TIGGS....

I love your Smilie in TRUCK! You are too cool.

I lean towards forgive & forget though I do have a list going of "People who's legs I have to break."

 

[Ambrosious]

TIGGS....

I love your Smilie in TRUCK! You are too cool.

I lean towards forgive & forget though I do have a list going of "People who's legs I have to break."

HHMMMMM... I call mine the "better off dead" list.

 

[naudiz]

Forgive, but never forget.

Most of the people I've felt wronged by have turned out to be so totally not worth my anger, energy, and effort that it's easier to say 'fuck it, whatever' and move on. Forgive, but not forget. After all, smack me once shame on you, smack me twice, shame on me.

It is easy to say 'eye for an eye', but I guess I'm so used to not doing things the easy way it's just a foreign concept now. When someone pisses me off, there is a momentary flash of anger where I just want to make them pay, pay hard, and pay now, but after a few deep breaths and a dose of perspective, I usually decide to not let some unworthy dickweed turn me into a bad person. I'd rather not hand control of myself over to someone like that, to let them punch my buttons. Saying "He made me do this because he pissed me off." is, to me, a cop out. Someone else may instigate your anger, but you are the one who controls how you act upon it.

I try to talk it out first when someone upsets me, and nine times out of ten I find out the person I'm mad at didn't mean what they did or said the way I took it, and if I'd been a bitch about it, it really would have been my bad. If someone upsets me on accident, I try to just get over it. We all make mistakes, and if I'd accidentally pissed someone off, I'd hope they'd be gracious enough to forgive me (do unto others and all that).

Of course, there's always those few that pissed me off on purpose. While in private, I might throw myself one hell of a tantrum, when it comes to facing the bastards that try to get me down, I do my damndest not to give them the satisfaction. Dignity, grace - the things for which I strive. Once in a rare, rare while, I even succeed.

The greatest possible revenge is to live well. Still, the temptation to crush one's enemies... Ah, well. I can daydream.

 

[Slut_boy]

No eye for an eye with me ....

I would rather turn the other cliche` ... er ... cheek.

 

[Guest]

<Smiles at SlutBoy.>