An exercise in advice.

[TBKahuna123]

OK I thought I'd get back into the swing of things here after my long hiatus by proposing an exercise. Here's the scenario...

I'm an 18 you male, virgin, about to have his first sexual encounter with my girlfriend. We've planned it all out, have the protection thing covered, etc., but now that the time is approaching I'm freaking out. Like most 18 yos, I have no fucking clue what to do to make this good for her. So if you could give me one piece of advice, other than read the Blank Manual , what would it be?

 

[midwestyankee]

Bring me in as an on-site advisor and let me show you how it's done, son.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Bring me in as an on-site advisor and let me show you how it's done, son.

Well I should have known you wouldn't be good for a serious answer.

 

[emap]

Ask her questions and listen to her. Also forget everything you have seen or heard about in porn, none of it feels that great and most of it is hard for the average person to do.

 

[M's girl]

How do you explain someone, especially a boy, of that age that really all it takes is to love the person, show her that you simply adore her and then mix that with the right dosis of determination and confidence?

 

[australwind]

Firstly, TBK, may I say how nice it is to see you back.



As for our 18 yr old..... sounds as if there has been far too much planning and thinking about it and not enough "going with the flow". After all, if you want it to feel right, the most important ingredients are two people who are really wanting each other, taking the next step and allowing the penetration to take place.

Over thinking will only lead to performance anxiety.... and let's face it, the first time for anyone can be tough. Be as relaxed as possible, as informed as possible, as prepared for safe sex as possible and then just "go with the flow" - slow, gentle, passionate and caring.

If she is a virgin ...... then the relaxation thing is particularly important as she may experience pain with the rupturing of her hymen. Don't be freaked by this - allow her to pull back if necessary, comfort her and love her....


Don't get to precious about technique at this point.... as all of that is about what feels right for you both. Learn her body as you have no doubt learned your own.

Best of all... enjoy.


OH, damn it... this is much more than "just one thing".... well, I'm going to leave it all anyway because in essence what it says is, forget being informed and the plans, relax and go with the flow.

 

[midwestyankee]

Well I should have known you wouldn't be good for a serious answer.

Sorry, but as a training professional I consider it my duty to always provide education in the most appropriate and efficient form for the occasion. Demonstration followed by student practice and a debriefing by the instructor is definitely a superior methodology to written lectures, the comprehension of which may be definitively insufficient in light of variances in reading levels among today's youth.

 

[southernsky]

I'd tell him to sit down, shut up, and let me at her

 

[bighornedsatyr]

I'm an 18 you male, virgin, about to have his first sexual encounter with my girlfriend. We've planned it all out, have the protection thing covered, etc., but now that the time is approaching I'm freaking out. Like most 18 yos, I have no fucking clue what to do to make this good for her. So if you could give me one piece of advice, other than read the Blank Manual , what would it be?

Yeah, it will be quick, clumsy, and messy. Accept that. You'll quickly improve. Heck the first time I "had sex" it only lasted a few seconds. But that's what hands and mouths are for.

Also, if your girlfriend is also a virgin, be prepared to do sheets in the middle of the night after her hymen breaks. I know I had to.