am i weird?

[ickle_stace]

I ain't very sexually experienced, in fact I've only slept with 3 guys, and one of them was a relationship with a horrible guy and the other 2 were one night stands.

But to be honest, I don't seem to really be into the casual sex stuff.

I've been single nearly 3 years though too, and I miss having someone to spend time with, but I can't seem to find anyone who wants more than sex.

So I though well maybe I could get a fuck buddy because I don't want loads of meaningless one night stands.

But then on the other hand, I don't know if i could stand the thought of sleeping with someone and then the next night they're off sleeping with someone else and the next night or something them being back with me. Am I weird I just wanna feel wanted. I think another problem is I'm not very experienced, and so if i sleep with someone and they have another fuck buddy besides me, I'll know in my mind that they'll rather be sleeping with the other one because the other one will be better in bed than me

I can't win, I guess I'm just looking for someone to say the right thing to make me see that its not all bad, and that i could enjoy having a friend with benefits, but i don't know, i guess i just feel weird compared to other people

 

[mwclarksr1971]

It's not bad at all, I've had several of them, and the females were either married or had a serious relationship. It's just up to you if you want to do that or not. All I can say is try it once, see how you feel. If it bothers you, then you'll know not to continue it. But if it doesn't bother you, then every thing will be fine for you, and you'll gain more experience. Then you'll know what you want/need in life as well as in bed.

 

[sno_22]

I ain't very sexually experienced, in fact I've only slept with 3 guys, and one of them was a relationship with a horrible guy and the other 2 were one night stands.

But to be honest, I don't seem to really be into the casual sex stuff.

I've been single nearly 3 years though too, and I miss having someone to spend time with, but I can't seem to find anyone who wants more than sex.

So I though well maybe I could get a fuck buddy because I don't want loads of meaningless one night stands.

But then on the other hand, I don't know if i could stand the thought of sleeping with someone and then the next night they're off sleeping with someone else and the next night or something them being back with me. Am I weird I just wanna feel wanted. I think another problem is I'm not very experienced, and so if i sleep with someone and they have another fuck buddy besides me, I'll know in my mind that they'll rather be sleeping with the other one because the other one will be better in bed than me

I can't win, I guess I'm just looking for someone to say the right thing to make me see that its not all bad, and that i could enjoy having a friend with benefits, but i don't know, i guess i just feel weird compared to other people

I've been a friend with benfits before, she was the only was I was with and vice versa. We just liked each other and were physically attracted to ecach other.

As for a friend wanting to be with someone else as opposed to you, every time he's with you it's going to be because he wants to be. That's part of it, just because your a friend with benefits doesn't mean you have to do anything. It's not like you organize it for something like every other night or every third night.

And just because you're not experienced doesn't mean a person isn't going to want to be with you, quite the opposite in most cases. I find it to be even better because while I'm learning what she likes, she's learning what she likes too. hmm..not a good explanation, but trust me, it's not a negative

 

[Sweet_Madness]

Nothing wrong

I'm not very sexually experienced either (virgin), but I do know there's nothing wrong with wanting someone to be exclusively yours.
Personally, I wouldn't mind something casual with someone I like, but not someone I love because I guess seeing them with someone else WILL feel like a diss...

 

[CowBoy18^]

it sounds like you want a fuckbuddy that'll stay true to you, dunno how many of those there are out there, but i wish ya luck on your search

 

[keiffers]

I ain't very sexually experienced, in fact I've only slept with 3 guys, and one of them was a relationship with a horrible guy and the other 2 were one night stands.

But to be honest, I don't seem to really be into the casual sex stuff.

I've been single nearly 3 years though too, and I miss having someone to spend time with, but I can't seem to find anyone who wants more than sex.

So I though well maybe I could get a fuck buddy because I don't want loads of meaningless one night stands.

But then on the other hand, I don't know if i could stand the thought of sleeping with someone and then the next night they're off sleeping with someone else and the next night or something them being back with me. Am I weird I just wanna feel wanted. I think another problem is I'm not very experienced, and so if i sleep with someone and they have another fuck buddy besides me, I'll know in my mind that they'll rather be sleeping with the other one because the other one will be better in bed than me

I can't win, I guess I'm just looking for someone to say the right thing to make me see that its not all bad, and that i could enjoy having a friend with benefits, but i don't know, i guess i just feel weird compared to other people

not weird at all - I'm a very picky person and just want to find someone that'll care about me more than just when I'm available to knock on my door for a quick screw then go back to their own life. That's why I hate going to bars, considering most of the time you'll never find someone that wants to truly settle down. I've had offers of being a fuck buddy, but I never went through with them as I am a very monogamous person. So we're together in the same boat....just have to learn to be patient to try and find the one that is right for you, that'll care more about things than just much they can cum or get off

 

[Erik001]

I ain't very sexually experienced, in fact I've only slept with 3 guys, and one of them was a relationship with a horrible guy and the other 2 were one night stands.

But to be honest, I don't seem to really be into the casual sex stuff.

I've been single nearly 3 years though too, and I miss having someone to spend time with, but I can't seem to find anyone who wants more than sex.

So I though well maybe I could get a fuck buddy because I don't want loads of meaningless one night stands.

But then on the other hand, I don't know if i could stand the thought of sleeping with someone and then the next night they're off sleeping with someone else and the next night or something them being back with me. Am I weird I just wanna feel wanted. I think another problem is I'm not very experienced, and so if i sleep with someone and they have another fuck buddy besides me, I'll know in my mind that they'll rather be sleeping with the other one because the other one will be better in bed than me

I can't win, I guess I'm just looking for someone to say the right thing to make me see that its not all bad, and that i could enjoy having a friend with benefits, but i don't know, i guess i just feel weird compared to other people

There's nothing weird or wrong with you, hon. Not a damned thing. Wanting to be wanted is just human nature, especially if you're single. I've seen you on some threads I've posted on, and you seem like a sweet girl, as well as being attractive. You also seem a bit insecure, but there's nothing weird about that. If you want someone to be a friend to you, but to be able to help you out sexually as well, but are worried about feeling inadequate because you don't have much experience, I have a suggestion that might help. Have you tried phone sex before? Since they're not actually there it can help if you're shy, and you won't need to worry about them thinking that they've had better. And since you're both cuming together, there's still a nice sense of intimacy about it too. Anyhow, it's just a thought. Hope it helps you.

 

[Solivagant]

Am I weird I just wanna feel wanted.

I don't think that you're weird. Almost everyone wants to feel wanted. You might not be ready for another serious relationship, but you want the security and sensations that one brings.

Can't really have both things at once. If you have a 'friend with benefits' then you still have to work out your own insecurities. It'll make you feel more confident and make you a better partner when that special someone comes along for you to have a genuine relationship with.

Just enjoy you for awhile, a part from any other person. Want yourself, then you'll feel wanted. Everything else comes along in good time.

 

[R_Hughes1905]

Hmm.. I don't think you're weird at all. I'm not very experienced either.. But I've never really been comfortable with the idea of casual sex with anyone. My desires.. are deeper, I just want to feel wanted and be with someone, I desire the aspect of just being with someone, be it watching TV, talking and being cuddled up close more so then any thing sexual, but thats just me I
guess. I could only see myself having a casual fling with a very small selection of people and then its even doubtful.

But still those sexual desires are there.. What do you do about them? Its a difficult question, One I guess I have to think about sometimes but.. You're not alone nor weird, trust me on that.

Wish I could offer a better answer..

 

[xxfactor]

Not weird at all, but I'm curious, why would a woman that is only interested in a 'relationship' post pictures on this site? Just curious..

 

[Solivagant]

Why does anyone post pics of themselves? To share, to play out a fantasy, to receive compliments or criticism: there are many and varied reasons for exhibitionism, and almost all of them are good.

 

[keiffers]

just cause someone is only interested in a relationship doesn't mean they can't post pictures of themselves.....sometimes you'll meet that "one" when ya least expect it in the most unexpected place, such as someplace online like lit

 

[sinnamongyrl]

i dont think you are weird at all<BUT we just think differently,I see nothhing wrong at all with casual sex.I can seperate love and sex very easily,,,,,,,i will wanna fuck someone based on quicker study,BUT to get me to love you?you pobally had better be the next superman........I may have gotten confused a time or two,,,,,not about love,,about sex,,,,like "maybe i should not have done that"BUT WHY?it felt good......i did not hurt anyone,sooooo,i cannot explain to you how i see sex and how i see love,,,,,,BUT NO,,,for your answer,,i think you are a great girl and i hope you meet the right person.......you are not weird,,at least NOT for the reasons you asked about,,,,,,,hhehhehehe

 

[Eilan]

Not weird at all, but I'm curious, why would a woman that is only interested in a 'relationship' post pictures on this site? Just curious..

Why does a dog lick his balls?

Sheesh. Maybe you don't get off the Personals Board very often, but there are Lit boards that have a very strong sense of community. Believe it or not, not all of us are here looking for sex--I, for one, get plenty of that at home, thanks. So keep in mind that ickle_stace's reasons for being here aren't any less valid than yours are, and she doesn't have to justify her use of pics (or lack thereof, for that matter) to you or anyone else on this site. Anyone can post pics, as long as he or she follows Lit rules.

I'd rather see a pic of a woman looking for a "relationship" than some guy's dick pic any day of the week.


There's nothing "wrong" with you, ickle_stace. Some women have an easier time of separating sex and love than others. Don't try to force yourself to do something that you're not emotionally comfortable with.

 

[snakebyte]

Baby there's nothing wrong with you. You're a gorgeous lady who wants love. Nothing wrong with that. I wish I lived in Eng. I'd take you out all the time no sex needed.

 

[Solivagant]

I'd rather see a pic of a woman looking for a "relationship" than some guy's dick pic any day of the week.

Well, I'd rather see some guy's dick pic...I'm rather fond of them. But I don't see anything wrong with a woman that's looking for a relationship either.

*heads over to look at dick pics*

 

[ickle_stace]

As someone said earlier, Im insecure, a couple of people persuaded me to post some pics, and I did it because I wanted to see what people thought, because I was hoping people would say nice things to make me feel good about myself.

I think I'm just scared cos I've slept with 3 guys now, and I'm so shy, I won't touch someone unless they ask me to or direct me to because I'm scared they don't want me to or I'll do something wrong. I just feel like nobody is gonna want to stay long with a girl like that cos they'll get fed up of it.

And yeah I have had phonesex, although I haven't said anything dirty to them cos I'm too shy, i just enjoy what they say

I would like to find someone that I like but I know nothing's gonna come of it seriously, but I can learn with them so then when I do find someone who wants me then I might not look so stupid wen it comes to sleeping with them, but I just don't know if I can stand the thought that they'll be with someone else at other times, cos I still wanna feel wanted, and I'll know they'll be having a better time with the other people than with me, cos they won't have to teach the others.

 

[Guest]

normal

ickle_stacey...

you are as normal as everyone else, sweetie!

you mentioned needing to be directed as far as touching in sex (at least right now)... maybe you could find a kind mildly dominant man to befriend you.


Get comfortable in your own skin... explore your own body so that you are very comfortable with it and its many joys...

be a friend to others and you may make some new friendships that may lead you all sorts of places you never expected...

and hold on to what you think is important for you.

I think this board is a great place to learn and grow.

Have hope and you hold the future in your hands.

Best wishes,

1 girl

 

[ickle_stace]

ickle_stacey...

you are as normal as everyone else, sweetie!

you mentioned needing to be directed as far as touching in sex (at least right now)... maybe you could find a kind mildly dominant man to befriend you.


Get comfortable in your own skin... explore your own body so that you are very comfortable with it and its many joys...

be a friend to others and you may make some new friendships that may lead you all sorts of places you never expected...

and hold on to what you think is important for you.

I think this board is a great place to learn and grow.

Have hope and you hold the future in your hands.

Best wishes,

1 girl

thankyou I think this place had helped my come out of my shell a little bit by being able to talk about sex and things, I just don't want to find that someone special and feel silly wen im shy cos he wants me to be some kind of sex goddess when im reality im the total opposite

 

[Guest]

it can be very fun

Well, my own personal experience is that it can be very fun to teach someone about the joys of sex...

Keep talking about things here... you will probably find you are not alone... and you may meet a new friend or two while you are at it.

 

[ickle_stace]

Well, my own personal experience is that it can be very fun to teach someone about the joys of sex...

Keep talking about things here... you will probably find you are not alone... and you may meet a new friend or two while you are at it.

i guess im just scared that im the only one who is crap in bed lol

 

[horndog201]

ickle_stace.. if I wasn't a couple of thousand miles away and across a really big pond, I'd come sweep you off your feet.

 

[ickle_stace]

ickle_stace.. if I wasn't a couple of thousand miles away and across a really big pond, I'd come sweep you off your feet.

awwwww thanks

 

[WantonWitch]

thankyou I think this place had helped my come out of my shell a little bit by being able to talk about sex and things, I just don't want to find that someone special and feel silly wen im shy cos he wants me to be some kind of sex goddess when im reality im the total opposite

Stace, the secret of being a sex goddess as you put it is to feel happy with yourself and really enjoy what you're doing in bed. The rest just comes naturally Any guy who's got as far as your bed wants to be there and will soon let you know by his reactions how much he likes/doesn't like what you're doing.

 

[ickle_stace]

Stace, the secret of being a sex goddess as you put it is to feel happy with yourself and really enjoy what you're doing in bed. The rest just comes naturally Any guy who's got as far as your bed wants to be there and will soon let you know by his reactions how much he likes/doesn't like what you're doing.

I will try my best then, I feel better being able to talk about it with people, before I just kept all these thoughts locked up, and I just kept thinking I wasn't ever gonna be any good