Am I bi?

[AlfrescoTunes]

Hi, new member here.

Lets get right down to brass tacks here, I've been questioning my sexuality for quite a while now, nothing expecialy emotionaly provoking or anything like that, but I've been wondering if perhaps I'm bi.

I was pressured into my first sexual experience with a man, and it might've even been classified as forced, but I dont like to think of it as such because part of me realy enjoyed it. I find days where I realy want a cock in my mouth, and other days where I think the idea is a little nausiating. Im into shemale porn and things like that, but not so much gay porn (not because I dont enjoy it but because the ones I find arent appealing).

I like girls, Ive been with my fair share, but as for men i've only been with two, one was more than one time, one was just once, when I think back on the gay experiences a lot of the time I dont like them (not all the time though), but when they where happening I remember loving them.

So I dont believe I'm gay, I like women too much, but i'm feeling that bi is possibly an option.

Any feed back?

-Alfresco Tunes

 

[AnonWriting]

Sounds more Bi-Curious to me, just having experiences really doesn't make you Bi sometimes guys just experiment and decide later they don't like them or don't want to continue.

You probably just need to be with the right hot guy he will turn ya bi for sure

 

[Horus93]

mmmm

Bi c is a good discription maybe playing every once and a while is in order

 

[AlfrescoTunes]

@anon: Hmm, this is a good point. I've been with two guys, neither of which where especialy appealing, not to mention I've never realy gone all the way with a dude either.

@Horus: Maybe so.

-Tunes

 

[LZB]

Are you attracted to both men and women in a sexual way? Does a hot guy make you think about sex just as much as a hot girl?

 

[Etoile]

Are you attracted to both men and women in a sexual way? Does a hot guy make you think about sex just as much as a hot girl?

Perfect! And if the answer to these two questions is yes, then you might be bisexual. (Kind of like "you might be a redneck" but cooler.)

 

[yorksguy]

Seems like your bi to me. I am the same i love the company of women but at the same time i like to go wth guys now and then.
If you wernt bi then i dont think you would have tried it a second time and you say you enjoyed it.

 

[AlfrescoTunes]

Well I cant say that I see a picture of a hot guy and then get turned on. All though Ive found that i'm attracted to people I know, I find a few of the guys I hang around with appealing, but as far as I can tell they dont share any common traits. But at the same time, i can watch a porno, and sometimes imagine myself in the girl's place.

 

[LZB]

Bi sexuals don't have to like everyone equally. I think the main qualifier is the desire to have sex with both men and women, no matter the frequency. For much of my life I'd only been intimate with women, but was still interested in men, so I decided I was Bi. I'd say it's likely more people are moderatly bi-sexual than gay or straight. it's just a label, if you aren't comfortable with it be a bi-curious guy who likes women.

 

[Fatemaster]

I vote for bi as well.

 

[atthelake]

Well, I think bi is when you enjoy having sex with men and women, even if you're not so attracted by one. I've always been with women, I'm married and I just feel attracted by women.
But we started swinging, and finally my wife convinced m to try a cock...And I liked it. So now I still love women, they are the ones that make me excited, but I do like to have sex with men from time to time, sucking a cock or being fucked. It's just pleasure. And because of that, I think I'm bi.

 

[mannis]

Are you bi?

On balance I,d say you were borderline Bi, and with more involvement with guys then maybe that may convince you. It,s like wine tasting, try it and go for what you enjoy, be it gals or guys or both.

Enjoy.

 

[Chrissi]

I would say maybe slightly bi, but more on the hetero side. But really, you are what you want to be. It sucks in this world where we still have to worry about our sexuality or orientation. It shouldn't matter what other peeps think, just be who you are.

However, since you did ask, ask yourself a couple of questions, (besides those you have already outlined):

1) Do you have conscious thoughts and desires for sexual or sensual encounters with other men, women or both?
2) Do you have dreams, or fantasies about these same encounters with other men or women or both?

if mostly men or exclusively men, then you ore likely to be, but not necessarily so, bi to gay, if mostly women or exclusively women then mostly straight....

I know, I know, I will take flack for those generalizations, but there is some authority behind it, and well, it works for me and many of my gay friends who have talked about this with me.

 

[Guest]

I don't have any real bi experience but in regard to your initial question I think it depends on what were your desires about guys prior to the time you were "forced. " Whether or not you enjoyed it isn't particularly relevant. The fact that you were forced, depending on prior desires, could affect the way you feel toward guys now.

But what the fuck do I know.

 

[texharley]

Hi, new member here.

Lets get right down to brass tacks here, I've been questioning my sexuality for quite a while now, nothing expecialy emotionaly provoking or anything like that, but I've been wondering if perhaps I'm bi.

I was pressured into my first sexual experience with a man, and it might've even been classified as forced, but I dont like to think of it as such because part of me realy enjoyed it. I find days where I realy want a cock in my mouth, and other days where I think the idea is a little nausiating. Im into shemale porn and things like that, but not so much gay porn (not because I dont enjoy it but because the ones I find arent appealing).

I like girls, Ive been with my fair share, but as for men i've only been with two, one was more than one time, one was just once, when I think back on the gay experiences a lot of the time I dont like them (not all the time though), but when they where happening I remember loving them.

So I dont believe I'm gay, I like women too much, but i'm feeling that bi is possibly an option.

Any feed back?

-Alfresco Tunes

You may be bi and that was your question. I say may because you say you don't like your man to man experience looking back on it but during it you like it. I can relate. I do consider myself biesxual although I have not been with a mn in 40 years. I liken it to a straight mn who love women but is married and is faithful to his wife. he is still straight but faithful. That is the way it is withme. I do deisre to suck cock although I do not act on those desires and I do like bi porn and shemale porn. Gay porn does not do anything for me. Mainly becase they tend to see how long they can go in one scene without an orgasm. In porn I like quickies. I also get a thrill when i go to XXX movies and see men there sucking each other off. yes, i like watching a man and woman also but that is why I claim to be bisexual. I know I am not gay like yourself because I have no desire to kiss a man or to be in loving raltaionship with a man. I do love my wife and if she knew about my desires I may be single and I dont want that. Being bi is not that impotant that I would risk my marriage.

I just shared my story in hopes that you may get something good out of it. It took m years to get used to the fact that I am bi. I used to feel guilty about the times I wished I could suck a cock. For me since I do get exicted with thoughts of bisex that makes me bi. However I think it really depends on what you thinkg of yourself. If you like bi sex and are okay with it then why not call yourself bi? but since you do have problems on looking back t it then you may just be experiementing and find out you are straight.Hope this helped.

 

[Esperanza_Hidalgo]

My Oppy Only

Look deeply within yourself. For about a year I claimed to be bi when I wasn't, I was simply a lesbian to chicken to completely come out. Seems it was ok, even hot, for the world in general to think that I was a girl who liked the occasional pussy, as long as I still was fucking guys. Only you can define what you are. My oppy only.

Espie

 

[haurni]

A lot of these replies echo my thoughts as well. I consider myself on the straight side of bi - maybe 75:25 or so (more like 60:40 online though ). I've had oral sex with two guys before (loooong time ago) and have found myself thinking a lot about it over the last few years. I enjoy straight and shemale ('best of both worlds') porn but dont care much for gay porn. My thoughts about men are almost always purely sexual, though I acknowledge that I could probably have an emotional relationship with a guy (or shemale) if the chemistry was right. I can easily imagine taking the 'female' role in intercourse. (Interestingly, I also have a serious case of lesbian envy - I'm definitely male and dont have any feeling that I'm the 'wrong' sex, but if I had a choice I'd be female and prefer other women.) To me, this all means that I'm bi and not uncomfortable with being receptive as well as... whatever the opposite of that is.

 

[RyeandGingerAyle]

Why do you need to know? Are you filling out some application where the sexuality box needs to checked? Why spend a moment of your life pondering labels rather than just being what you are?

How would Tiger have found the time to chase all that pussy if he'd been occupied with trying to figure out whether he was black, coloured, Thai, white, multiracial, etc. It would have driven him crazy, and in the end...what does it matter? Getting laid is all that matters - forget the label angst.

 

[SilkyDave]

you are a bit more than curious, but like stated, does it matter ? you are a sexual being who is exploring, leave it at that. I struggled with definitions for the longest time then I figured out that I am Dave, a guy who has sexual fantasies and desires with both genders. On the Kinsey scale I fall into the slightly bisexual domain but it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of life. Find peace with who you are and love yourself for who you are, a beautiful person who is a sexual being without the borders of sexuality.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I think more men would be bi, if they weren't trained from birth to be homophobic.

Dudes LOVE sex! It's easy for them, mostly. And how much easier can it be, to do it with someone else for whom it's equally easy?

The only thing that stops most guys is this INCREDIBLY STUPID phobia against "being a girl," and i won't even start in on that and what it says about our society-- take it as read.

But I have never met a man who didn't get something out of prostate play, and I've never met a man that didn't get horny around other people's sex scenes. If he's homophobic, he can pretend it's about the woman, if he's bi he can be honest and know that good sex is good sex.

 

[Ike_The_Spike]

Remember, the word is bisexual for a reason. You don't necessarily have to be able to fall in love with someone of the same sex (that's something different IMHO).

Personally, I love sex with both men and women, for different reasons. There's only one guy I could ever have seen myself falling in love with though. When it comes to love, I'm attracted mostly to the opposite sex. When it comes to sex, sometimes I want a guy, sometimes a woman.

Stella has pointed out half the problem, as society programming men that to be with a man makes you a girl, probably more like it makes you submissive. But that's definitely not the case. When I lost my anal virginity, I was definitely aggressive about it, and nowhere near submissive. I know many guys are, but for me it's not about being submissive, it's about the pleasure I get from being penetrated that way.

Another, more difficult problem IMO, is the attitude of the male gay community towards bisexual men. I've been told that I'm gay but too chicken shit to admit it. Talk about a complete crock of shit. If women are allowed to like cock and pussy, why not men? Why does it have to be one way or another, without the possibility that I can be attracted to both men and women? It's not just gay men with that attitude, many women I've met online have it too. But I find it more disturbing when I get that attitude from gay men.

It makes it much more difficult to openly declare my particular orientation.

 

[haurni]

If it feels good, do it. *


* Nothing in this post should be taken as advocating sex with minors, miners, whiners, Shriners, sheep or jeeps. Consenting adults only. Play safe. Void where prohibited by law, or at least dont get caught.

 

[silverfield]

i am exatly where u are mentally...i like shemales, at times i want a cock at times i feel like YUK!!! feels as if there are two people inside me....but i dont think im a bi...im not at al attracted to men...but HOT WOMEN???HELL YEA!!

 

[Stella_Omega]

i am exatly where u are mentally...i like shemales, at times i want a cock at times i feel like YUK!!! feels as if there are two people inside me....but i dont think im a bi...im not at al attracted to men...but HOT WOMEN???HELL YEA!!

"Shemales" are men with a silicone boob job. Try telling yourself you are looking at a guy with fake tits-- are you still attracted?

 

[Guest]

I think more men would be bi, if they weren't trained from birth to be homophobic.

Dudes LOVE sex! It's easy for them, mostly. And how much easier can it be, to do it with someone else for whom it's equally easy?

The only thing that stops most guys is this INCREDIBLY STUPID phobia against "being a girl," and i won't even start in on that and what it says about our society-- take it as read.

But I have never met a man who didn't get something out of prostate play, and I've never met a man that didn't get horny around other people's sex scenes. If he's homophobic, he can pretend it's about the woman, if he's bi he can be honest and know that good sex is good sex.

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