Am i being unreasonable?

[dastar]

So i was supposed to go go out tonight with some work friends tonight but the one i feel most close to cancelled today which annoyed me because its the second time she done this last minute to me.
So i get home & think to myself actually do you know what? I've worked hard all week it's a Friday night maybe i will still go out without my bestie! So something i forgot to mention earlier is that the ones who i am meant to meet have already been out all day with a company related to work, so anyways i go home, put make up on, put on the new top I've bought, have some prosecco.....9 o'clock waiting on a phone call....9.30....10....10.15.... i decide if theres no message by 10.30 im out meanwhile i throw some hints on snapchat "heyyyy ive made myself all pretty can yous call me plz?" 1030 nothing! so i tect saying ok im done
10.45 i get texts saying come on whats 15 minutes? well 15minutes is my mascara running all over my face from crying because this is 2 times this has happened today!!
im 29 i have nothing! no friends, no partner, no house....work is my social life & i feel so let down! am i over reacting thinking these people should have loyalties to me? i feel so fucking lonely!

 

[raindancer]

Broaden your social circle, friend. Loneliness sucks. I'm sorry. Things can and will change.

 

[Ms_Ann]

So i was supposed to go go out tonight with some work friends tonight but the one i feel most close to cancelled today which annoyed me because its the second time she done this last minute to me.
So i get home & think to myself actually do you know what? I've worked hard all week it's a Friday night maybe i will still go out without my bestie! So something i forgot to mention earlier is that the ones who i am meant to meet have already been out all day with a company related to work, so anyways i go home, put make up on, put on the new top I've bought, have some prosecco.....9 o'clock waiting on a phone call....9.30....10....10.15.... i decide if theres no message by 10.30 im out meanwhile i throw some hints on snapchat "heyyyy ive made myself all pretty can yous call me plz?" 1030 nothing! so i tect saying ok im done
10.45 i get texts saying come on whats 15 minutes? well 15minutes is my mascara running all over my face from crying because this is 2 times this has happened today!!
im 29 i have nothing! no friends, no partner, no house....work is my social life & i feel so let down! am i over reacting thinking these people should have loyalties to me? i feel so fucking lonely!

It must be hard...meeting people...in Bangladesh.

 

[dastar]

thanks, i really wish it was as easy as that
i'd love to have a friend/partner that was reliable, loved me, had the same interests as me unfortunately i don't know how to try to speak to them let alone try to find them

 

[Debbie]

So i was supposed to go go out tonight with some work friends tonight but the one i feel most close to cancelled today which annoyed me because its the second time she done this last minute to me.
So i get home & think to myself actually do you know what? I've worked hard all week it's a Friday night maybe i will still go out without my bestie! So something i forgot to mention earlier is that the ones who i am meant to meet have already been out all day with a company related to work, so anyways i go home, put make up on, put on the new top I've bought, have some prosecco.....9 o'clock waiting on a phone call....9.30....10....10.15.... i decide if theres no message by 10.30 im out meanwhile i throw some hints on snapchat "heyyyy ive made myself all pretty can yous call me plz?" 1030 nothing! so i tect saying ok im done
10.45 i get texts saying come on whats 15 minutes? well 15minutes is my mascara running all over my face from crying because this is 2 times this has happened today!!
im 29 i have nothing! no friends, no partner, no house....work is my social life & i feel so let down! am i over reacting thinking these people should have loyalties to me? i feel so fucking lonely!

I'm sorry you feel lonely and sad.


To be fair sometimes people aren't punctual. I have a friend who I love dearly but she is never on time. Used to drive me nuts. lol She was even late to my wedding. But for the most part she's a darling and I've learnt that I think it's a bit rude but she's a day dreamer and doesn't like to wear a watch. One of her quirks and I'm sure I have idiosyncrasies that can drive her a bit bonkers too.


Perhaps you could sit down with her and tell her how you're feeling but maybe you could try meeting and making new friends so you don't feel so alone and sad. Sure sometimes making new friends isn't easy when you're busy etc but it's no good spending your life feeling miserable.

You could join a gym, find places in your community to meet people like the local library or a book club.

I hope things get better and welcome to the madness that is the gb

 

[dastar]

It must be hard...meeting people...in Bangladesh.

i don't even know what this is? is it a post to take the piss? i don't what this is supposed to mean, i'm from Northern Ireland if we really need to get that deep into it, if it's about my typing i did mention the bottle of prosecco i've had so that could be where i've went wrong
where you went wrong was making a joke out of a vulnerable person

 

[Ms_Ann]

i don't even know what this is? is it a post to take the piss? i don't what this is supposed to mean, i'm from Northern Ireland if we really need to get that deep into it, if it's about my typing i did mention the bottle of prosecco i've had so that could be where i've went wrong
where you went wrong was making a joke out of a vulnerable person

I went wrong way before that, sister.

 

[dastar]

I'm sorry you feel lonely and sad.


To be fair sometimes people aren't punctual. I have a friend who I love dearly but she is never on time. Used to drive me nuts. lol She was even late to my wedding. But for the most part she's a darling and I've learnt that I think it's a bit rude but she's a day dreamer and doesn't like to wear a watch. One of her quirks and I'm sure I have idiosyncrasies that can drive her a bit bonkers too.


Perhaps you could sit down with her and tell her how you're feeling but maybe you could try meeting and making new friends so you don't feel so alone and sad. Sure sometimes making new friends isn't easy when you're busy etc but it's no good spending your life feeling miserable.

You could join a gym, find places in your community to meet people like the local library or a book club.

I hope things get better and welcome to the madness that is the gb

thanks for your reply! i understand some people arent punctual i cant believe she was late to your wedding lol
maybe i need to stop being friends with these types of people because it causes me serious stress! & thanks for the suggestion of how to meet new people a hobby would def be a good star

 

[dastar]

I went wrong way before that, sister.

whatever

 

[Ms_Ann]

whatever

So...what do you want to talk about?

 

[Lancecastor]

You sound like Sam Cooke... another saturday nite and i aint got nobody, i got some money cuz i just got paid....

 

[tallladiesman]

i don't even know what this is? is it a post to take the piss? i don't what this is supposed to mean, i'm from Northern Ireland if we really need to get that deep into it, if it's about my typing i did mention the bottle of prosecco i've had so that could be where i've went wrong
where you went wrong was making a joke out of a vulnerable person

Work friends are not real friends. Because you spend all week it people you grow close and treat them as friends. However if you change jobs you will be amazed how few of these people are still in contact with you six months later. Find interests outside work and make friends through this. People may change jobs but you don't change your love of art, dance, sport or whatever you are into.. Jobs change however home family and passions do not. Find your passion and connect with people with a similar passion and you will have friends for life.

 

[Ms_Ann]

You sound like Sam Cooke... another saturday nite and i aint got nobody, i got some money cuz i just got paid....

I think she just needs to work on her communication skills. At least she came to the right forum.

 

[dastar]

Work friends are not real friends. Because you spend all week it people you grow close and treat them as friends. However if you change jobs you will be amazed how few of these people are still in contact with you six months later. Find interests outside work and make friends through this. People may change jobs but you don't change your love of art, dance, sport or whatever you are into.. Jobs change however home family and passions do not. Find your passion and connect with people with a similar passion and you will have friends for life.

Yea I'm starting to see that's the way forward, I just need to get out of my comfort zone & make other friends
Thanks for the genuine reply it's made me feel a tiny bit better

 

[tallladiesman]

Yea I'm starting to see that's the way forward, I just need to get out of my comfort zone & make other friends
Thanks for the genuine reply it's made me feel a tiny bit better

Glad to be of service. Keep your chin up.

 

[dastar]

You sound like Sam Cooke... another saturday nite and i aint got nobody, i got some money cuz i just got paid....

You sound like....a troll

 

[Lancecastor]

You sound like....a troll

Speak for yourself, loser.

"Wonewy, i'm so wonewy..."
Kim jong il
Southpark

 

[Ms_Ann]

11 "pists" since 2008?

 

[Hard_Rom]

You sound like....a troll

The GB is full of them. If you want abuse this board is better than any fetish board.

Sorry to say but crying over work friends cancelling out or being unreliable is over reacting.

Go out anyways. The only way to get a social life is to be social. If you frequent an establishment long enough, you get to know people who also frequent the place.

Work is a very small circle of acquaintances. Expand your circle beyond work. It takes a bit of effort and can be awkward but it can be done.

If you get stood up, fuck 'em, go out anyways. No sense in wasting getting all dolled up for nothing.

 

[Conager]

11 "pists" since 2008?

I did not notice that until you pointed it out. We're talking some hardcore lurking.

To the original poster:

I wonder if you don't do the same thing in life work watch listen but not jump in and participate. You have to get over whatever shyness you have and just open your mouth and start talking to people don't take it personally when conversations don't go anywhere just speak.

Not everyone is a good fit with everyone else. The more people you talk to just minor casual chit-chat it doesn't matter what it's about the more chances you're going to have to run into somebody that you are compatible with you won't know who that is until you have had a conversation.

don't go someplace specific with the idea that you're going to check people out just do it. Everywhere you go. don't be results oriented. Don't even feel like you have to carry the conversation. Just give people an opening and see if they run with it you don't have to say much at all. if you give them an opening and they don't take it no problem..give the next person an opening, just keep doing it.

I think that truly gregrious people are rare, most people have to actually think about it and make a little bit of an effort you just can't let your fear control you.

 

[Conjugal]

So i was supposed to go go out tonight with some work friends tonight but the one i feel most close to cancelled today which annoyed me because its the second time she done this last minute to me.
So i get home & think to myself actually do you know what? I've worked hard all week it's a Friday night maybe i will still go out without my bestie! So something i forgot to mention earlier is that the ones who i am meant to meet have already been out all day with a company related to work, so anyways i go home, put make up on, put on the new top I've bought, have some prosecco.....9 o'clock waiting on a phone call....9.30....10....10.15.... i decide if theres no message by 10.30 im out meanwhile i throw some hints on snapchat "heyyyy ive made myself all pretty can yous call me plz?" 1030 nothing! so i tect saying ok im done
10.45 i get texts saying come on whats 15 minutes? well 15minutes is my mascara running all over my face from crying because this is 2 times this has happened today!!
im 29 i have nothing! no friends, no partner, no house....work is my social life & i feel so let down! am i over reacting thinking these people should have loyalties to me? i feel so fucking lonely!

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[DumpTrump]

Show us your tits.

 

[Debbie]

You sound like....a troll

Don't mind him - he took a bitter pill awhile back and it still hasn't worn off

 

[Nezhul]

The best advice is already given - broaden your social circle. Start going t gym, meet people there. Or maybe get another hobby that will get you going.
Try clubbing? Maybe. I don't know.
Try to find people online (that live close to you) - but that almost never works great.

Any way, I hope you will do fine! Keep your chin up