Almost three years

[rikaaim]

Wow. I just looked at my join date. It's been a long while. I can't believe it's been almost three years. Sheesh. My life has changed so much. This seems to be perfect for what I was thinking about posting for a while.

I always felt that in order for me to write something, I think it should be something that I feel others need to know. I don't know. I guess it's my delusional way of trying to help others, or at least appear less intelligent than I really am. Lately I just don't seem to have any advice or age old wisdom that's not already known to everyone else. Which brought me to a question. What have I learned?

This sorta stems from a movie I was watching yesterday as well. And now three years are going to be coming around. I can tell you that I've learned a lot in three years. Better grammer is not one of those things. Honestly, if anyone knew me three years ago, and they met me again today, totally different person. Everyone talks about how short life is, but it's amazing how a life can be completly changed in such a short time.

Three years ago I was in the middle of a marriage I wanted out of. I just didn't have the guts to say it. I was also in a job that I wasn't really happy with.

I guess I learned how to change what makes me unhappy. That's thanks to the current love of my life. I've also learned that sometimes love changes into something equally beautiful, but different. I never lost my love, it just changed to what I always wanted it to be, a great friendship. I'm less passive now. I'm still trying to please everyone, but that's changing. I've learned to believe in something. I never really cared about anything. Maybe that's why I haven't been around in a while. I could go on, but I'd rather throw this out there.

What have you learned? It doesn't have to be in the past three years, but in general.

If there is one thing in your life that you didn't know, or didn't treasure, but now you can't live your life any other what, what was it?

 

[matriarch]

I've learned that no matter how much you have in material possessions, it matters not one jot if you have no-one to share it with.

I have the love of my life, my beautiful, wonderful wife, who makes every day a blessing, fills every day, every moment with her love for me, and my love for her.

Without her, I have no life.

 

[cloudy]

I've learned that sometimes all you can do is deal with what you've been handed, and not to stress over it too much.

 

[rikaaim]

I've learned that no matter how much you have in material possessions, it matters not one jot if you have no-one to share it with.

I have the love of my life, my beautiful, wonderful wife, who makes every day a blessing, fills every day, every moment with her love for me, and my love for her.

Without her, I have no life.

Yeah. That's a good thing to learn. It's easy to say it, but to live it is one thing. Usually one learns that after loosing the person special in their life. I'm glad that you share that love and that specialness everyday. It's always a joy to see genuine love.

I've learned that sometimes all you can do is deal with what you've been handed, and not to stress over it too much.

I'm still learning that one; somedays are better than others though. I'm trying to teach this lesson to someone important in my life. I fear that my methods can be a bit harsh though. I need to learn to lightening up some. I'm doing better. I think a lot of people should learn this lesson. It's a tough one though, isn't it? It's taken me over 25 years, and I'm still trying to get it right. Friends help though.

 

[joeys-game]

I've learned that i am a person with many sides.
Im capable of much more than I thought I was capable of.
I've learned that I can sometimes allow myself to actually 'feel'
what I may be feeling and its okay that , that may not be happiness.
Ive learned that I would easily die for my children.
Ive learned that people have very few 'true' friends, lots say they are, but thats just not true.
Ive learned that sometimes I care too much and at other times I don't experience what I could because i;'m unwilling or scared to care enough.
I've learned to curb my anger.
I've learned that I can actually write..lol

 

[Guest]

I'm still learning.

Congratulations on your 3 years, rik!

 

[Macro7]

Congrats on your 3 years

Life changes quick. I learned a lot in three years. I learned you always have a choice in what you do and everything you do can be a learning experience.
Not so many years ago I was faced with a very difficult choice. I decided to jump off the cliff and start anew. So the most valuable thing I learned is that if there is a will, you can do it. Good luck on your next 3 years.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I've learned that love's a lot more than friendship with sex.

I've also learned that the truth is inevitable.

--Zoot

 

[carsonshepherd]

Inner peace is the most important thing in the world to me.

I used to compromise to get it - I gave in to what everyone else demanded of me so I could be left in peace. I compromised everything I believed in.

I've learned to create peace for myself, instead of trying to get it from others. I've learned to do what I need to do, and let other people take care of themselves.

I've learned to love myself enough not to compromise what I need.

 

[impressive]

I've learned not to expect anything from anyone. (That's not as cynical as it sounds, really.) Life is less painful when I depend on the most reliable person I know: myself.

There are wonderful people in the world -- and they tend to stay wonderful when I don't hang any expectations on them. They can surprise & delight me -- but without expectations, they cannot disappoint me.

It's my personal flavor of agape, I suppose.

 

[rikaaim]

Inner peace is the most important thing in the world to me.

I used to compromise to get it - I gave in to what everyone else demanded of me so I could be left in peace. I compromised everything I believed in.

I've learned to create peace for myself, instead of trying to get it from others. I've learned to do what I need to do, and let other people take care of themselves.

I've learned to love myself enough not to compromise what I need.

That's what I'm in the middle of learning right now. It's not an easy lesson. I do think it is a very valuable one. I think that after I learn this lesson, I'll be ready to learn so many others without fear. I too compromised too much. It's even harder to stand up for what I believe in when the person I love wants me to compromise. Not change, just compromise. I'm learning not to let that happen if I truly believe in something. And I'm starting to get the hang of it. That doesn't mean that I put the other person down either. Simply that I stand firm and resolute, without being a condescending ass. I'm learning to love myself. It's nice.

 

[carsonshepherd]

That's what I'm in the middle of learning right now. It's not an easy lesson. I do think it is a very valuable one. I think that after I learn this lesson, I'll be ready to learn so many others without fear. I too compromised too much. It's even harder to stand up for what I believe in when the person I love wants me to compromise. Not change, just compromise. I'm learning not to let that happen if I truly believe in something. And I'm starting to get the hang of it. That doesn't mean that I put the other person down either. Simply that I stand firm and resolute, without being a condescending ass. I'm learning to love myself. It's nice.

To know that you can be yourself without fear and without apology is very liberating.

 

[Rumple Foreskin]

Never eat in a place named Mom's, play poker with a man named Doc, or buy a used car from someone named Frenchy.

Rumple Foreskin

 

[rikaaim]

Never eat in a place named Mom's, play poker with a man named Doc, or buy a used car from someone named Frenchy.

Rumple Foreskin

And now I know. Thank you for saving me a world experience learned the hard way. *tips hat You are a kind and wise soul.