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[77Cobra]

I have a question for the ladies or guys.The wife and I been married 13 years,last year we were having threesomes MMF with a friend of mine.She was the one who had pursued it.We did this for several months and she absolutely loved it and so did I.Then suddenly she decided no more.We still have great sexWe watch porno's and she really gets HOT watching gang bangs etc.,anything to do with more than one man having sex with a woman gets her hot.Anyway when we are watching she makes comments like God I wish that was me,so I say it could be and I start to describe what I would like to do to her and even say when I would like to do it,like I'd say next weekend I will take you to a bar and get a couple guys to go to a room and we will all fill you up at once etc. and she say's oh yes and gets super hot.She makes comments like I wish I had that now.Then after we have wild sex sometimes she say's I don't want that to happen really.But the other night I told her I know she wants it and I would set it up and no matter what she said it was going to happen cause I know deep down she wants it,this was as we had sex and she said Oh yes you really know me don't you.Then afterwards she said no I don't want to do it for real.My question is this.I know deep down she would love it but after sex she say's no it is just a fantasy.I don't want to force her to do this or do anything to jeapordize our marraige cause this woman is everything to me.But in you folks opinion should I surprise her with it and see what happens or forget about it.

 

[shannon893]

You should wait until she's ready. For now that's what it is, a fantasy. She isn't ready to make it a reality yet. She was probably okay with MMF before because, as you said, it was one of your friends, not just some guys from a bar. Just wait until she's ready.

Shannon

 

[Guest]

Dont force her, just let her take time to decide what she wants.
Keep watching gang bang videos and dropping hints that you'd like to do that. And when the time comes when you guys do it, post pics here afterwards

 

[Noor]

friends are much nicer than strangers. strangers are nice in fantasy but not always reality. wait until she asks you, until she is totally ready.
She may have other reasons for not wanting to do this too that maybe very serious. Don't force her, you may lose her.

 

[peachykeen]

There a loads of things that are really really great and exciting to think about as fantasies, but that I wouldn't neccessarily want actually do in real life. Sure, the idea of picking up a bunch of men in a bar and taking them home for some raunchy gangbang thrills seems great, when it's all in your mind and you have control over the whole thing.

In reality, though, things are more complicated. What if your wife catches some sort of icky horrible venereal disease from one of these guys? What if she gets pregnant by someone, but y'all can't be sure who? What if one of these guys turns out to be some sort of serial whacko who, after you guys decide you don't want to 'party' with him anymore, stalks you down and kills you? I know I'm pitching some fairly far-out scenarios at you, but you know, one does have to think about these things.

You say you know that deep down she 'wants' it, but I tell you, really, you don't know what she wants. And frankly she might not either. Just enjoy it with her as part of your shared fantasy life. If she actually does really want to try it, she'll let you know.

 

[SexyChele]

Yeah, what Peachy said.

 

[DuckLover]

One key piece of advice I keep seeing on very diverse threads, and with which I totally agree, is to base your opinion and decision on what is said OUTSIDE of a sexual context. As PeachyKeen said, when totally aroused and fantasizing, a lot more seems desirable than in the "light of day."

Keep the FANTASY of the gangbang alive, as suggested, but DO NOT force the issue. That would constitute rape. When she starts agreeing she's interesting over Wheaties in the morning, THEN you can start planning the big event.

Especially if you're thinking about doing it "no matter what she said ... cause [you] know deep down she wants it", then take a lesson from the BDSM crowd-- talk about and agree to it beforehand AND have a "safe word." [A safe word means she can resist and say "No" but the scene continues UNTIL she says the safe word-- "RED" is a common one-- at which point it STOPS. IMMEDIATELY. NO QUESTIONS ASKED.] Trust is a HUGE component in this kind of situation, and it is critical that you both explicitly agree to the scenario before it even comes close to starting.

That said, I still think your best route is to keep the FANTASY going and save reality until she's asks for it outside of the bedroom.

 

[Lady Tango]

Yeah, what Peachy said.

I totally agree as well - be very, very careful.

 

[Lady Tango]

There a loads of things that are really really great and exciting to think about as fantasies, but that I wouldn't neccessarily want actually do in real life. Sure, the idea of picking up a bunch of men in a bar and taking them home for some raunchy gangbang thrills seems great, when it's all in your mind and you have control over the whole thing.

In reality, though, things are more complicated. What if your wife catches some sort of icky horrible venereal disease from one of these guys? What if she gets pregnant by someone, but y'all can't be sure who? What if one of these guys turns out to be some sort of serial whacko who, after you guys decide you don't want to 'party' with him anymore, stalks you down and kills you? I know I'm pitching some fairly far-out scenarios at you, but you know, one does have to think about these things.

You say you know that deep down she 'wants' it, but I tell you, really, you don't know what she wants. And frankly she might not either. Just enjoy it with her as part of your shared fantasy life. If she actually does really want to try it, she'll let you know.

I totally agree as well - be very, very careful. (sorry, but used wrong quote - how silly!)

 

[Guest]

something about the moment

 

[James MacGregor]

I would have to agree with the general consensus on this one. The fantasy is one thing, but reality is another matter entirely. Let her be the one to initiate it. If you're at a party and the stars are in alignment, the tides are right and she wants to try on a couple strangers, then go with it. But forcing it is gonna end up in a divorce court.

 

[Lust Engine]

Surprises such as this can be playing with dynamite. If it works, it's a blast- if it doesn't fare well then it's a disaster! I personally wouldn't take a chance & just spring it on her. I'd have much MUCH more open & frank discussions with her long before I'd initiate.

 

[77Cobra]

Thanks to everyone for their input.Yes I do agree with you all also.Just wanted some other peoples views on this and I definitely don't want to ruin our marraige.Thanks everyone.

 

[litdude]

fantasy is one thing..

...reality is another, so take the other people's advice.

Now if she wants to have perhaps some of the same excitement, get 2 dildo's and with you as a third---she can have all holes filled.

Personally, if I were you, I'd take the mouth, and then she gets the two artificial probes for down below. Perfect.

 

[Lust Engine]

Thanks to everyone for their input.Yes I do agree with you all also.Just wanted some other peoples views on this and I definitely don't want to ruin our marraige.Thanks everyone.

It's nice to know you're open to our ideas and yet still have enough respect for your vows. Bravo!

 

[Lust Engine]

Let us know if things do progress BEYOND though!