iceprincess
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All About Anal
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Grrrrrreat!!!!
Anal sex is a great experience, but you have to make sure you are preped for it, you cant just go for it. Make sure you have some good lube, possibly even a desensitizing one. Also get some anal toys, then you can use those to help loosen you up, lots of foreplay and then you are ready to go. I cum the hardest when I have anal!
Anal sex is a great experience, but you have to make sure you are preped for it, you cant just go for it. Make sure you have some good lube, possibly even a desensitizing one. Also get some anal toys, then you can use those to help loosen you up, lots of foreplay and then you are ready to go. I cum the hardest when I have anal!
Violette
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Oh, yes, baby YES!
Anal sex can be (and is!) a very pleasurable experience. But you need to be more aroused than you would be for "front door" entries! Also, be aware of how much you can take in at once. The first inch is going to hurt, that's a given. So to prep yourself, use a butt plug, or two of his fingers...and lube, definitely have LOTS of lube handy! One more tip, when he pushes, inhale and push toward him. It actually lessens the pain; just a little, but it helps!
BTW, princess, on a personal note, don't let the pain keep you from finding the pleasure. Anal sex can create some HOT sensations you don't want to miss! Good luck!
Anal sex can be (and is!) a very pleasurable experience. But you need to be more aroused than you would be for "front door" entries! Also, be aware of how much you can take in at once. The first inch is going to hurt, that's a given. So to prep yourself, use a butt plug, or two of his fingers...and lube, definitely have LOTS of lube handy! One more tip, when he pushes, inhale and push toward him. It actually lessens the pain; just a little, but it helps!
BTW, princess, on a personal note, don't let the pain keep you from finding the pleasure. Anal sex can create some HOT sensations you don't want to miss! Good luck!
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i like 2 give anal sex... but i sure cant help u out wit ne "pleasures" from reciving it. *LoL*
missbehavin_badly
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Violettes advice was right on the money!!
The first time for me was terrible and I swore I would never do that again!
Needless to say, I had a very hot young man show me the merits of anal, and very much enjoy as a result
The first time for me was terrible and I swore I would never do that again!
Needless to say, I had a very hot young man show me the merits of anal, and very much enjoy as a result
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Not sure if this is what violette meant but from what I understand, in addition to all the other great advice you should 'push' like you are try to have a bowel movement.
This was addressed completely and in a very clinical manner on another thread but seemed to clear up some problems for some of the posters.
Nic,
This was addressed completely and in a very clinical manner on another thread but seemed to clear up some problems for some of the posters.
Nic,
Count me among those who really love anal! But there are some definite tips to help you really get into the experience.
1. Most important than anything else: a man who knows what the f**k he is doing!!! So many men want anal, but are absolutely clueless when it comes to actually doing it. Most think the anus is just a tighter version of a vagina - and treat it as such. OUCH!!!! If a man does not have experience, or is not willing to learn BEFORE using you as his guinea pig, do not let him anywhere NEAR your "back door"!
2. Lube, lube, lube - and when you think you might have enough lube - even more. Ah....now you just might have it - except? Use more lube!! The anus is NOT self-lubricating like a vagina. And (sorry, guys) spit just doesn't cut it, unless you are very experienced in this. Invest in a large tube of KY or other water soluble lube - you will probably use most of it the first time out. And never, never, NEVER use petroleum jelly! It is, as expected, petroleum based and can actually harm the delicate tissue of the anus.
3. Work up to it - lots of foreplay. It truly helps if you are to the point where you are practically begging him to take you! Also, a big help is if he has already had an orgasm. Most men are so eager when they are about to have their first orgasm that they react too quickly. If he is building up to his second orgasm, he is likely to move to your pace.
4. Go SLOW!! If your man is in a hurry, or pushing you, tell him to back off! Slower is better, and let him put you in control. A good way to start is with a tongue bath (him to you), after which introducing a finger or two, and maybe an anal plug, are all ways to help build up tolerance.
5. When the actual moment comes, get into as comfortable position as you can. Typically, this will be on your hands and knees, back straight. Your anus should be WELL lubed, as should he. As he pushes against your anus (which he should do SLOWLY, allowing YOU to back up against him), push out as though you are having a bowel movement. Yeah, I know. Gross - but this is the BIG trick with anal that most women don't know, and almost every man is clueless about. As you push out, it sort of relaxes the sphincter muscles which is what causes the "pain". If he and you are well lubed, and you push out at entry, and he is going slow, you may be surprised that, while you feel a certain fullness, you will not feel pain.
6. When he gets the head in, tell him to STOP! If he doesn't, get away from him. He should allow you to get used to him. You will experience a certain "stretching" sensation. It helps to keep pushing the muscles out every so often. Yes, you will have the same feeling as though you are about to have a bowel movement - very typical and normal. And the sensation will pass as you grow used to it.
7. Once YOU feel comfortable, push against him SLOWLY, stopping when you feel you need to to rest and get used to the feel of him. Slowly, you should be able to take in most of him. (unless he is extra long, in which case you might not be - this is a time when guys with average sized dicks FAR outweigh those who have 8 or 9 inchers!
8. When YOU feel comfortable, begin to move against him. As you do this, it is very helpful if you finger your clit (or he does), or even use a vibrator. The combination of feelings is intense! Eventually, as you become more comfortable, he can move as he normally would, and as the anus stretches slightly, things will become more comfortable and pleasurable.
9. Never, EVER remove his penis from your anus and insert it into your vagina. This can cause infection. Likewise, you should never take his penis orally right after it has been in your anus. Even if you use an enema, there are still trace amounts of bacteria that can cause disease and infection. This is a common fantasy among men: having anal sex and then having a woman suck them off. It is all well as a fantasy, but reality is much different. Even if he wears a condom, they can still tear or break. A man should always excuse himself to wash thoroughly before coming back to play.
Hope this helps. I know how one or two bad experiences with anal can turn you off to the whole thing! But an patient, understanding, knowledgable man can be the clue to the whole thign! Good luck and enjoy!
1. Most important than anything else: a man who knows what the f**k he is doing!!! So many men want anal, but are absolutely clueless when it comes to actually doing it. Most think the anus is just a tighter version of a vagina - and treat it as such. OUCH!!!! If a man does not have experience, or is not willing to learn BEFORE using you as his guinea pig, do not let him anywhere NEAR your "back door"!
2. Lube, lube, lube - and when you think you might have enough lube - even more. Ah....now you just might have it - except? Use more lube!! The anus is NOT self-lubricating like a vagina. And (sorry, guys) spit just doesn't cut it, unless you are very experienced in this. Invest in a large tube of KY or other water soluble lube - you will probably use most of it the first time out. And never, never, NEVER use petroleum jelly! It is, as expected, petroleum based and can actually harm the delicate tissue of the anus.
3. Work up to it - lots of foreplay. It truly helps if you are to the point where you are practically begging him to take you! Also, a big help is if he has already had an orgasm. Most men are so eager when they are about to have their first orgasm that they react too quickly. If he is building up to his second orgasm, he is likely to move to your pace.
4. Go SLOW!! If your man is in a hurry, or pushing you, tell him to back off! Slower is better, and let him put you in control. A good way to start is with a tongue bath (him to you), after which introducing a finger or two, and maybe an anal plug, are all ways to help build up tolerance.
5. When the actual moment comes, get into as comfortable position as you can. Typically, this will be on your hands and knees, back straight. Your anus should be WELL lubed, as should he. As he pushes against your anus (which he should do SLOWLY, allowing YOU to back up against him), push out as though you are having a bowel movement. Yeah, I know. Gross - but this is the BIG trick with anal that most women don't know, and almost every man is clueless about. As you push out, it sort of relaxes the sphincter muscles which is what causes the "pain". If he and you are well lubed, and you push out at entry, and he is going slow, you may be surprised that, while you feel a certain fullness, you will not feel pain.
6. When he gets the head in, tell him to STOP! If he doesn't, get away from him. He should allow you to get used to him. You will experience a certain "stretching" sensation. It helps to keep pushing the muscles out every so often. Yes, you will have the same feeling as though you are about to have a bowel movement - very typical and normal. And the sensation will pass as you grow used to it.
7. Once YOU feel comfortable, push against him SLOWLY, stopping when you feel you need to to rest and get used to the feel of him. Slowly, you should be able to take in most of him. (unless he is extra long, in which case you might not be - this is a time when guys with average sized dicks FAR outweigh those who have 8 or 9 inchers!
8. When YOU feel comfortable, begin to move against him. As you do this, it is very helpful if you finger your clit (or he does), or even use a vibrator. The combination of feelings is intense! Eventually, as you become more comfortable, he can move as he normally would, and as the anus stretches slightly, things will become more comfortable and pleasurable.
9. Never, EVER remove his penis from your anus and insert it into your vagina. This can cause infection. Likewise, you should never take his penis orally right after it has been in your anus. Even if you use an enema, there are still trace amounts of bacteria that can cause disease and infection. This is a common fantasy among men: having anal sex and then having a woman suck them off. It is all well as a fantasy, but reality is much different. Even if he wears a condom, they can still tear or break. A man should always excuse himself to wash thoroughly before coming back to play.
Hope this helps. I know how one or two bad experiences with anal can turn you off to the whole thing! But an patient, understanding, knowledgable man can be the clue to the whole thign! Good luck and enjoy!
iceprincess
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Violette
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Princess?!
(Note to Nicodemus, Chele and Missbehavin: Thanks for the good words! You just gave me some great ideas on how to enjoy my next anal encounter even MORE!)
But getting back to you, Ice honey...what do you mean he can't handle the "front door" right yet?! Is he new at this or just a little too eager to please?
Not to get in your business or anything, but is he eager to please YOU? You have to tell him to take his time so you can both enjoy the experience together!
(Note to Nicodemus, Chele and Missbehavin: Thanks for the good words! You just gave me some great ideas on how to enjoy my next anal encounter even MORE!)
But getting back to you, Ice honey...what do you mean he can't handle the "front door" right yet?! Is he new at this or just a little too eager to please?
Not to get in your business or anything, but is he eager to please YOU? You have to tell him to take his time so you can both enjoy the experience together!
This is how we like to do it.
First we make sure that my wife is very excited. Then we lube her and myself up. She lies on her side and I get in behind her on my side as well. I have her take control of my penis and she rubs her anus with it until she is ready(this way she has total control of the situation). While she's doing this I play with her clitoris. When she tells me she is ready I push forward very slowly and keep playing with her clitoris. When I feel that the head is in, I stop and keep playing with her clitoris. When she starts to moan with pleasure I push in slowly until I'm all the way in. Then I keep playing with her until she's almost ready to come, thats when I start to move back and forth. She usually comes first and really likes it. Sometimes when she's in the mood for it, she inserts a vibrator in her vigina at the same time.
It all boils down to taking your time and respecting your partner.
Enjoy!
First we make sure that my wife is very excited. Then we lube her and myself up. She lies on her side and I get in behind her on my side as well. I have her take control of my penis and she rubs her anus with it until she is ready(this way she has total control of the situation). While she's doing this I play with her clitoris. When she tells me she is ready I push forward very slowly and keep playing with her clitoris. When I feel that the head is in, I stop and keep playing with her clitoris. When she starts to moan with pleasure I push in slowly until I'm all the way in. Then I keep playing with her until she's almost ready to come, thats when I start to move back and forth. She usually comes first and really likes it. Sometimes when she's in the mood for it, she inserts a vibrator in her vigina at the same time.
It all boils down to taking your time and respecting your partner.
Enjoy!
Mrs_Jeep25
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The frist time my husband tried to get in "the back door" it was horrible. But after almost a year of finger play there, he just kinda slipped it in one day, just the head for the first few times. But now I can take more of him depending on the day.
My advice is, RELAX, if you are expecting it to hurt, it will. If you relax and trust him it can be the start of some wonderful times(orgasms) for you!
My advice is, RELAX, if you are expecting it to hurt, it will. If you relax and trust him it can be the start of some wonderful times(orgasms) for you!
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Great answers nad helpful hints SexyChele!
I enjoy anal, but not all the time...its more like the special treat when everything is really hitting! Its like the ice-cream WITH with cake & frosting
Sorry to hear about your dilemma Iceprincess, I hope you find a solution soon, but anal can be great. Remember, anal can be bad for a guy also, because if the female is not relaxed or into it, "tight" turns into "strangulation"...also, a non-responsive partner (responsive in a GOOD way not "TAKE IT OUT! THAT HURTS!") makes the experience suck.
Lube! Use a something with a desensitizing action if you're new to anal action.
Responsive motion...start slow, let him know you DO NOT want him hitting it like its the kitty. You have to work into it, and keep yourself lubed all the way.
Also...just remember all the common-sense sanitary deals.
Great answers nad helpful hints SexyChele!
I enjoy anal, but not all the time...its more like the special treat when everything is really hitting! Its like the ice-cream WITH with cake & frosting
Sorry to hear about your dilemma Iceprincess, I hope you find a solution soon, but anal can be great. Remember, anal can be bad for a guy also, because if the female is not relaxed or into it, "tight" turns into "strangulation"...also, a non-responsive partner (responsive in a GOOD way not "TAKE IT OUT! THAT HURTS!") makes the experience suck.
Lube! Use a something with a desensitizing action if you're new to anal action.
Responsive motion...start slow, let him know you DO NOT want him hitting it like its the kitty. You have to work into it, and keep yourself lubed all the way.
Also...just remember all the common-sense sanitary deals.
RedJ
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Try this too
I'm a guy with a big dick and have no problems heading for the back door but getting in can and still is difficult for me and my g/f of three years. In fact, I have never fucked her ass in the very real sense and spirit of the term (anyone up for the challenge please p.m. *S*). But when she orgasms with my cock buried in her ass she loves it and it is super intense for her. What everyone else has written is bang on but I thought you might want to try orgasming with something in your ass or even his dick with out movement. Work on cumming with something stationary in your bum first before moving on to having something moving. Also, if he is into it, try some bum play with him to help give him the idea of what it is like. Some guys need to think about how much they want to have their ass fucked before going balls out on their g/f's. He might even like it and so may you.
RedJ
I'm a guy with a big dick and have no problems heading for the back door but getting in can and still is difficult for me and my g/f of three years. In fact, I have never fucked her ass in the very real sense and spirit of the term (anyone up for the challenge please p.m. *S*). But when she orgasms with my cock buried in her ass she loves it and it is super intense for her. What everyone else has written is bang on but I thought you might want to try orgasming with something in your ass or even his dick with out movement. Work on cumming with something stationary in your bum first before moving on to having something moving. Also, if he is into it, try some bum play with him to help give him the idea of what it is like. Some guys need to think about how much they want to have their ass fucked before going balls out on their g/f's. He might even like it and so may you.
RedJ
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Hello, I just have one word, CRISCO, and lots of it, if it hurts it isn't being done right. If you would like a link that could help just send me a message and I will get the link to you! or if you are on aol my s/n is LoveAdvocate1@aol.com. Anal is a wonderful way to play if it is done right and can heighten are orgasm wonderfully. don't discount it just yet!
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Sorry about the Male/Female thing, but yes crisco! Is just as good for the guy as it is the girl. <wink> Men like anal too, and if you have and don't like it, might want to try it again with Crisco
Re: Oh, yes, baby YES!
I've tried anal sex with several lovers {with a lot of pain}. Then I discovered the secret for me... lots of lube and when he's first entering me {doggie style}, instead of him pushing into me, I ease back onto him. That allows me to control the pace until I'm past the "pain" stage... then he can take the lead and have his way with me...
Violette said:
I've tried anal sex with several lovers {with a lot of pain}. Then I discovered the secret for me... lots of lube and when he's first entering me {doggie style}, instead of him pushing into me, I ease back onto him. That allows me to control the pace until I'm past the "pain" stage... then he can take the lead and have his way with me...
Hmmm....CRISCO??
Well, yes, I suppose you could use that - and olive oil as well. But that would beg the question....
WHY?
Don't know about anyone else, but I'm thinking real hard clean up here. Using water soluble lube is much easier to clean up afterwards. But, it all depends on what you're into, I suppose.
Well, yes, I suppose you could use that - and olive oil as well. But that would beg the question....
WHY?
Don't know about anyone else, but I'm thinking real hard clean up here. Using water soluble lube is much easier to clean up afterwards. But, it all depends on what you're into, I suppose.
