Alaskan Winter

[Genrus]

*blushes*

Thank you kindly. I'm glad you enjoyed it. We've had other couple nights out since then. Two a year is what we try to do, around valentines and our anni. It really helps to take us out of our familiar routines as much as we love our work, home and family.

Our last few couples night outs were more like three nights!!! I strongly recommend date nights and couple nights out to get back to the romance and eroticism that couples sometimes forget in the grind of our busy day to day existence. It really helps so much to reconnect on a couple or erotic level.

Fury

I really like this idea alot. How do you put these trips together? Are they elaborate plans that you work on together or is it the kind of thing that you awaken one morning and decide to do together. I would imagine with kids that some planning is critical, but how much is left to chance? Spontaneous sex is certainly great, but I'm beginning to realize that, especially with kids, we just need to make some time to plan some more romantic time away together. after all, it is anticipation that truly creates a sense of arousal, right

 

[Genrus]

It is not very unusual for women to begin menopause as early as 35. Sometimes there is no diagnosable reason for it to begin early - just a woman's particular biology. Are her periods a little erratic? A common sign of perimenopause is sometimes skipping a period, and then perhaps having two in the same month...another very common cause is tubal ligation. I had my tubes tied the year I turned 33, and by the year I turned 35 I was diagnosed as perimenopausal, as a result of the surgery disrupting blood flow to the ovaries, causing them to atrophy and slowly stop working....

I'm affraid that this is a bit more gynegology than I could really speak to! But I suspect that to some degree you may be right - bottom line is that, after several kids and fourty around the corner, both of our bodies continue to change.

 

[FurryFury]

I really like this idea alot. How do you put these trips together? Are they elaborate plans that you work on together or is it the kind of thing that you awaken one morning and decide to do together. I would imagine with kids that some planning is critical, but how much is left to chance? Spontaneous sex is certainly great, but I'm beginning to realize that, especially with kids, we just need to make some time to plan some more romantic time away together. after all, it is anticipation that truly creates a sense of arousal, right

I had fantasied about something like this for some time but my husband never plans anything. I wish he would. What I really wanted was a sexy picnic and fuck in nature but I couldn't figure out a private spot to do that so I got a hotel suite and began to embroider my ideas.

The first one is the one I wrote about. My husband was mostly surprised by it. In the story and in RL I simply told him what I wanted to do sexually the next night with him. Since I rarely speak about things in a sexually explicit manner and since he was trying NOT to come at the time it was quite shocking for him and gratifying for me.

The suite cost was something like $120. I got some stuff, roses, bread, fruit, whipped cream and so on, at walmart. Anything else we already had, like sex toys.

The place was about 5-10 minutes away from our house which was comforting since we'd never left the kids alone before overnight. I felt they were old enough to be trusted alone.

The kids knew more about it than my husband. My son helped me prep the suite to a certain extent when I took him up there early to swim. He was about to bust a gut to go swimming in February.

Anyone hung up on spontaneous sex probably shouldn't have kids IMO. This is real life and we have to make things happen or watch it all go to shit.

And btw, date nights should not be about sex but about reconnecting to you two as a couple. Why did we find each other attractive? Feeling that magic again.

Whereas couple nights out are about both romance and sex. At least for us.

The second one, he helped plan a little. He picked out the bottle of wine. He wanted to eat out at a particular restaurant before hand.

The third one we went an hour and a half away and spent the night in a honeymoon suite I've been fantasizing about for a long time.

The fourth one we went to New Orleans. There is a suite there I've been wanting to stay in with him and alone, without the kids for 15 years. We spent three nights. It was glorious!

The fifth one we took a cabin in Gatlinburg, TN for three nights.

The sixth one is coming up in June. I was going to go to Southeast Leatherfest in ATL but lately I'm so tired, I'm reconsidering that idea.

I do 95% of the planning period. If not more. I would give a great deal of HE would ever plan something. However I do know that some women might feel pressured for sex if something were sprung on her.

In order to plan this right, you might have to hire a sitter depending on the age of your kids. You'd have to know your wife's schedule very well to make sure it would be able to accommodate it.

You can surprise her, as I would dearly love, but I would highly recommend that you talk over the general concept with her in a wouldn't this be great, would you like this sort of way without telling her you are actually planning it. If she likes the idea and has given it some thought, she is less likely to feel pressured IMO.

One of my bf's requires at least on night away from the kids to even turn on sexually. So their trips must be at least two nights.

Everyone is different.

Fury

 

[Mazuri]

Just my two cents

My hubby and I have done a bit of both, date nights and couple's nights. The date nights we have both discussed and, though he's away on a remote assignment for a year, have decided that they will be at minimum once every other week. We had started them before he left and were amazed at how close just going out and spending relaxation time together brought us. We've done dinner and a movie (both silly and scary), hiking, shopping trips, disc golf games, anything we can do together really. It's been one of the best things we ever started.

We sort of had a couple's night, only instead of leaving, we kicked the kid out of the house We sent her to a friend's house for the day and lit incense and candles and bought a soft-porn video to watch, broke out the wine and the toys, and just spent the day talking and making love. It was the best day we'd had in a long time. Though it was a day we'd planned for sex, we ended up cuddling a good part of it and shared our first shower together in a while (our bathroom shower isn't big enough but we got to use the guest shower since we were alone in the house). It was like putting jumper cables onto our marriage.

While he left not long after we started, he's not much of a planner either, though he's very excited about making the smaller couple's nights (either at home or a 1-day thing at a local hotel) a once a month thing. I'd love to surprise him with an extended weekend away, though.

 

[Genrus]

I'm not sure what happened but I missed these last two posts until today - I am very sorry for not getting back sooner.

"Anyone hung up on spontaneous sex probably shouldn't have kids IMO. This is real life and we have to make things happen or watch it all go to shit."

Amen Sister! Ya gotta get what you can!

"And btw, date nights should not be about sex but about reconnecting to you two as a couple. Why did we find each other attractive? Feeling that magic again."

Again - more great insight and right on the mark. I think what I have neglected was to show her just how much I think of her. In planning an event together, she sees me spending time on her. I think that this is what she values.

 

[Genrus]

My hubby and I have done a bit of both, date nights and couple's nights. The date nights we have both discussed and, though he's away on a remote assignment for a year, have decided that they will be at minimum once every other week. We had started them before he left and were amazed at how close just going out and spending relaxation time together brought us. We've done dinner and a movie (both silly and scary), hiking, shopping trips, disc golf games, anything we can do together really. It's been one of the best things we ever started.

We have a sailboat - now that spring is upon us, I plan to make better use of it to go off together for a few days away from the kids. This will be the summer of us!

 

[Genrus]

By the way, while I was out travelling last week, I wrote her two letters. Nothing overtly sexy, but just reminiscing about all of our old romantic hideouts that I was seeing in my visit.

 

[FurryFury]

By the way, while I was out travelling last week, I wrote her two letters. Nothing overtly sexy, but just reminiscing about all of our old romantic hideouts that I was seeing in my visit.

I'd LOVE something like that!

Fury

 

[AlaskanM4]

If you use your imagination....the possibilities are unlimited....

Keep up the letters and see what kind of fire you can build....