Agony Aunt Letters

[Elliefree]

New to this site, so not sure if I am in the right section.
However, I work as what is generally known as an "Agony Aunt" for various publications. I was wondering whether anyone would be interested in reading some of the letters I receive. Incognito of course. In the main they are invariably about sex. Some are funny, some are sad and some are just about the daft situations people get into.
As a taster I offer the following letter. The amount of detail is not unusual as this is an attempt to justify the situation.
Dear xxxx
A friend of my husband had been making it clear for ages that he fancied me. I just took it as a joke. One day he came around to our house when he knew my husband was away at a football match. We was sitting on the couch drinking tea. He pressed closer to me saying how much he fancied me and started kissing my neck and ears. He began rubbing my leg and I suppose I should have stopped him. He put his hand under my skirt and to my private parts. I have to admit it did turn me on. He pulled me to the floor and we began having sex. It wasn't very comfortable so we then went to the bedroom. We had fantastic full sex twice. It was so much better than sex with my husband. I'm now finding it difficult letting my husband do sex to me and I think he may be getting suspicious about the amount of time his friend is at our place. The friend still has sex with me but I know it should stop. I've tried to say no but always give in because it is so enjoyable. How can I get my husband to do sex with me like his friend does so I can stop cheating on him?
My reply was:
As you are concerned it is obvious you love your husband and don't want him to know about sex with his friend. Firstly, however reluctant you maybe, intercourse with the friend has to stop. Try to ensure someone else is with you when the friend is likely to visit as this will help curtail his opportunities of having sex with you. Consider what the friend does that has such an affect on you. You could then gradually introduce it when having sex with your husband. You will need to be forceful in saying no to the friend.

 

[JamesRTickit]

Wonderfully English problem

I love my husband but sex with his mate is better.

Not exactly the most complex issue in life.

 

[glBock]

my comments to Elliefree

My goodness, am I glad you publish your "advice" somewhere in the US of A, and not anywhere near where real people live. Of course sensible advice would be the exact opposite: maximize sex with your friend and minimize it with your husband. I wonder whoever taught you advice giving?

When a woman finally runs into a man not as bumbling as her husband, she ought to hang on to him, not turn him away.

But I believe your story was a hoax anyway. It did not sound particularly believable, and you probably invented it as instructional material for religious housewives, who might run into temptation now and then. Are you writing for a church publication?

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

My goodness, am I glad you publish your "advice" somewhere in the US of A, and not anywhere near where real people live. Of course sensible advice would be the exact opposite: maximize sex with your friend and minimize it with your husband. I wonder whoever taught you advice giving?

When a woman finally runs into a man not as bumbling as her husband, she ought to hang on to him, not turn him away.

But I believe your story was a hoax anyway. It did not sound particularly believable, and you probably invented it as instructional material for religious housewives, who might run into temptation now and then. Are you writing for a church publication?

Ignore this asshole.
Regardless of whether the story is true, I love your post and hope you continue.
(P.S., he has me on "ignore," so he cannot see my insults.

 

[Kinkishaz]

Yes, unfortunately he is the one out of touch with real life. I have seen a councillor for many years. It is a fact that probably 85 percent of her correspondents are are about sex problems with a similar thread. People can love a partner dearly and still get tempted from the straight and narrow with regrets or worries afterwards. It is those that usually seek advice and do not want to lose what they have.

 

[glBock]

Yes, unfortunately he is the one out of touch with real life. I have been a councillor for many years. It is a fact that probably 85 percent of my correspondents are are about sex problems with a similar thread. People can love a partner dearly and still get tempted from the straight and narrow with regrets or worries afterwards. It is those that usually seek advice and do not want to lose what they have.

What the hell is she having? No satisfactory sex in her marriage, and her friend is offering her a chance for it, which she finally grasped. Why the hell should she not jump at the chance, I ask you?

Have you ever tried to understand the difference between good sex and mediocre sex?

Did it not occur to you that nowhere in that letter of the poor woman did she mentioned that she loved her husband? her concern was good sex, can't you understand that?