Age differences

[Stormystarr]

I just got home from my Cousin's wedding. Happy event? Hell no! He is 21 years old, good looking, and has had much better than this woman. Oh, did I forget to mention she is 53 YEARS OLD!!! Her daughter is the same age as me (26). What is his problem??? If he wanted a GRANDMOTHER, fine, but he did not have to marry her. And to top it all off, I was asked to be the maid of honor! I didn't want to do it, but to be respectful towards my cousin I did it.

Can anyone tell how upset I am about this?

So now I am drunk, but not wasted, so I am thinking somewhat clearly. I didn't say anything to them about thier age difference this time, but I have in the past. I have no problem with ages, but I think that if the person is more than 20 years older than you, someone needs to think things over. But this is just my opinion, you all may think completely different than me, and thats ok.

So there I was at the reception, and I wasn't the only one against it, there were lots of others too. We all kept talking about it and made bets on exactly how long it will last (cruel, I know). I give them about 1 to 2 years tops!

I did have quite a few sarcastic remarks though, but I don't think anyone else heard them. So if you're still reading this boring ass thread, I applaud you. And would like to ask your opinion on that big of an age difference. Is it ok, or is that to old?

 

[Endlessly]

Ehhh.. A really good friend of mine was 19 and married a 32 year old. I was very much against it, but then, I'd been hoping he'd marry me eventually at the time.

 

[WriterDom]

when she's 103 he'll be 71 then it wont be such a big difference

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

The Hubby and I are 4 years apart, But I have a girlfriend thats back home that is going out with a 40 year old and she is 26, for some reason I think surgar daddy, But then if she is happy fine by me

 

[Cheyenne]

Sounds kind of nutty to me. He obviously wants no children of his own.

 

[FantasyGoddess]

Personally I think it's crazy, but whatever floats his boat.

 

[KillerMuffin]

The thing of it is, darlin, it's their marriage. They have to wake up with each other every morning, they have to fight over what to put on the pizza, they have to be married to each other. You don't live with them. You probably don't see them everyday, nor do you talk to them everyday. You can have a problem with it all you like. In the end you'll just alienate them and put an even bigger strain on a marriage. It's hard enough to start out in married life as it is, but with friends and family against you for something as trivial as an age spread, that just makes things worse. Be happy for them, support them, if you can't handle that, then ignore them. They don't need your help. Yes, the age difference seems to be wildly obscene to you. Why? She's old enough to his mother? Is she his mother? Is he and adult? They are two adults, even though he was in diapers when she was graduating high school. She didn't chase after him then did she? He is old enough to drink, old enough to have a job and pay taxes, he's old enough to die for his country. She is old enough to do the same. In the end, the age difference is a trivial matter that has to be dealt with only by them. Your choice is simple. Accept it and be a part of your cousin's life, or reject it and don't be a part of your cousin's life. In the end who she marries is her choice, not yours.

 

[Stormystarr]

I can accept the fact that some of you agree, and some of you don't. My present b/f is 38 years old, so I don't have to much of a problem with age, but she is 32 years older than him. Perhaps if I give you all some details of thier life it will help.

They argue all the time, she does try to tell him what to do most of the time. Basically when she says jump, she wants him to ask how high. He has had several affairs that she knows about, and he told me once that he would keep doing it because she isn't going to leave him anyway. And they always seem to be unhappy when I see them together.
I do see them about 3 times a week, and have learned to deal with them being together for his sake. Afterall, he is family and he comes first. But I still don't approve of it. I don't throw the age thing up to them anymore, so I guess they think I'm ok with it. Oh well, I'm rambeling here. I'll just let it go for now and see how long they last. They have only been together for 5 months anyway.

 

[CreamyLady]

Well, if the couple involved is happy together, and feel strongly enough about each other to make such a commitment, I don't think it is anybody else's business.

I also don't think you understand the appeal older women have for some younger men, and it has nothing to do with being a grandmother. Much of it has to do with the surge in sexuality a woman experiences in middle age.

Personally, I'd be happy for them, and not dwell on things. If it works, great; if not, well, it's all experience.

 

[Juliangel]

To be honest if I had to choose a new man today I would be hard pressed to decide if I would want an older one or a younger one.

I am 31 and I can see how and older man, 45 plus, with experience is appealing but a younger man, 18-22, with a never stop sex drive would be nice too.

If I could find one that was about 47 with a never stop sex drive that would be PERFECT!!!

 

[christo]

I've written several stories about older women & younger men, so I certainly understand the attraction. Older women are much more aware of what they want from a relationship, they are more open sexually, and they don't play as many bullshit mind games. And I think older men would be the same way.

I have a male friend who is 28 who is very happily involved with a woman in her mid-40's. The prettiest girl I know, I mean she is a honey-babe, married a guy 25 years her senior. Just fell in love with the guy.

Then again, another girl I know met a guy in his 40's who got her pregnant & dumped her. And I was really into this woman in her 40's who REALLY did a job on me, I mean had me banging my head against walls and drinking beer alone in the dark. Age isn't the big factor. It's the person. Age can be a complication, if you want to have children, but if you really love the person, who cares?

 

[Lost Soul]

I have date both older and younger then me, but never more then nine years either way.

I wish them the best but that does seem like a big gap age wise. But it might work out, who knows?

 

[dancinvixen]

I have dated a man who was literally old enough to be my father. At the time, he and my own father where the same age, 40. and I was a tender 20 years old. The reason I dated him???? Hmmm, maybe because the sex was awesome. I wasn't all that interested in finding a man who knew nothing about a woman's body. Heck, my mom is 4 years older than my dad <g> <of course from what I've heard from both of them, my mom is somewhat prudish in the sex dept.> teehee. Yes, I love talking to my parents about their sex lives. drives them nuts too <g>