Age Conflict

[TimeCrisis]

Ive notice an emergence of new threads of younger guys looking for older women for a "good time" I know I'm one of them. But not one of them seem to get any response and this bring up a few questions to my mind.

1. Are there any women on this board that are interested in us younger guys and they are just using PMs instead of posting on the threads? Or is there just a total lack of these type of women?

2. Why do guys tend to go after older women? I think it goes back to high school when girls dismissed us for older guys. As I always say to my friends, "Now that Im in college I can get high school girls." Are we compensating and getting sometype of unspoken revenge at these girls that dissed up before?

Well there is my quick 5 minute rant...and older women are free to PM me

 

[MissTaken]

Speaking for myself....

1) I am not interested in younger men. There are a number of reasons that I won't get into here as I wouldn't want anyone to personalize my response.

2) I think younger men like older women because "they know what they want and aren't afraid to say so." That is what I have been told by every younger man that has pm'ed me or otherwise contacted me. (I always ask as at first I just didn't understand what the attraction was.)

Take care and Happy Holidays.

 

[cymbidia]

I have to ask: what do you mean by an "older woman"?

Are you 19 and looking for a 26 year old?
Are you 19 and looking for a 56 year old?
Are you already 20 and looking for a 23 year old?


A truth:
As you mature, chronological age becomes relatively less important and shared interests and dreams begin to occupy center stage.


And no, just to be clear, i'm not interested in a 20 year old, no matter how studly.

 

[Debbie]

Quite often I get emails from young guys, telling me they loved my stories in the mature category and they tell me that they hope I will email them back. (cough, hint, "I love older woman. Do you like younger men?"hint) I do email them back, just to say thanks for the feedback but no thanks on the do I like younger men.

There are probably a lot of women who are into younger men. Try the personals forum. It always pays to advertise.

As to your question, why do guys tend to go after older women? Experience? An older womans sense of knowing who she is and what she wants? Maturity? *shrug* Some guys like older women, some don't.
Each to their own. Good luck to you. May happiness be with you wherever you go, whatever you do.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I have to ask: what do you mean by an "older woman"?

So true.... hell, you go to the 'mature' websites of porn and the women don't look over 30. Maybe you need to state what age group you are looking for when you post.

 

[TimeCrisis]

Thank you ladies you all have good points.

And to answer the age range question I'm 18 looking for women 28-40 to fullfil the older woman status. (Please no kill me for saying 28 is old cause im not Im saying its older then me) but even 23-45 would be fine with me. Right now I'm talking to a 24 yr old and a 28 yr old online. So who knows, except the 28 yr old seems to have esteem issues.

Well I would love to hear others opinions on the subject, Im sure WildRose will find this sooner or later.

 

[Debbie]

Im sure WildRose will find this sooner or later.

PM her and she will find it even quicker

 

[Angelus]

Well then I must be one of the weird ones.... I don't want to go out with an older woman. I'm getting married to a woman that is three and a half years younger than I am..... and she will live longer than I will too.

 

[AusTess]

Younger men,and by younger i mean in the 18 to 25 bracket,are like puppies.
Cute,cuddly,playful.



but i wouldn't wanna sleep with one.

 

[Guest]

Whew.... lucky for me I am older than that.

 

[Angelus]

*shrugs shoulders*

I haven't got a clue anymore.

 

[Desdemona]

Speaking for me....

Its really difficult to become aroused by the thought of having sex with a guy who is young enough to be my son. God, that makes me sound older than dirt, doesn't it?

At any rate, the "Mrs. Robinson" thing generally leaves me feeling cold. There is, however, a slightly younger man who has caught my attention.... its all about maturity, common interests and all the other intangibles. Its not about some age fetish.

 

[sch00lteacher]

Younger men,and by younger i mean in the 18 to 25 bracket,are like puppies.
Cute,cuddly,playful.



but i wouldn't wanna sleep with one.

Why? Because they keep you up all night?


I remember my puppy days. Long gone though they are.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

And no, just to be clear, i'm not interested in a 20 year old, no matter how studly.

I'm 22 cym.

Have you already passed me up?

 

[lovetoread]

I have never thought about a younger guy. I think,and this is only my opinion,that guys who want women old enough to be their mother,then its really a whole other thang they are looking for.

I like older men. I want someone who is settled and knows what they want from life.

But to answer his question about pm's....yes women are more likely to use the pm's than post an answer to the ad on the board.

 

[Feelin' Naughty]

Re: Speaking for me....

Its really difficult to become aroused by the thought of having sex with a guy who is young enough to be my son. God, that makes me sound older than dirt, doesn't it?

At any rate, the "Mrs. Robinson" thing generally leaves me feeling cold. There is, however, a slightly younger man who has caught my attention.... its all about maturity, common interests and all the other intangibles. Its not about some age fetish.

What Des said! I have 4 children, the youngest of which is 20.

My "slightly younger man" is my hubby, he is 3 1/2 years younger than me.

 

[Cheyenne]

I've gotten a few emails from younger guys interested in older women. Because I don't know how they define "older" I usually tell them my age. If that doesn't scare them, I ask why they are interested? The "experience" thing comes up- they are looking for a teacher. I'm not a teacher.

For me, ten years younger maybe, okay. Older by 10 to 20 years, no problem. But guys in their teens and 20's? I don't think so. I'd feel like "mom" and that is not a fetish of mine. Actually, I had one guy send me an introductory email and sign it something like "Your loving son." EWWWWWW!

 

[Simply Me]

To quote a very wise lady here on the board...


"Age is in the mind

In the Heart

Sometimes in the body

But age is the least of your worries

Grab love, it doesn't happen very often." Thanks...

Love is love, regardless of the age. Dragon and I are different ages, with me being the oldest. It's funny. When you meet online, you get to know the other person, their personality, their humor, their intelligence, their dreams. It's not about age, it's about coming together with that person, in a way you never have with anyone else. By the time we met, I would not have cared if he was 60, I love the person he is. So with us, there is no conflict. I guess we are lucky..

 

[Scabbers]

The actual age isn't important

but shared experiences are going to mean a lot, over time. On the other hand, time is going to provide a couple with thier own share experiences.
Life's too short and love's too precious to eliminate anyone out of hand.
(Getting all sappy today--must be a cold coming on)

 

[cymbidia]

I'm 22 cym.
Have you already passed me up?

You're in a special group, Cheffie. Always.

 

[Ladybird]

eek!

I spend a bit of time in lit chat, and am constantly receiving pm's from men wanting an 'older woman'.

I hate these pm's. If someone wants to chat to me, then let it be because they like me, are interested in my profile, etc. Not just because of my age!

I am a woman.

Please... don't get hung up by my age and overlook the woman in side.

And like some of the others here, I'm not interested in someone young enough to be my son... personally it reeks of incest, and the thought of that sickens me.

 

[alltherage]

If I met an 18 year old who was mature emotionally and had intellectual depth I might be interested. The things I find attractive in a man have been lacking in most of the younger men I have met. I do not say this to put a group down in any way. Time is a great teacher and really young men simply have not had enough time to ripen.

 

[daughter]

lack of interest mutual

Funny, my experience has been the most young men don't look at me twice. Could it be I have kids?

I have slept with men younger, but never been involved with one long-term. Honestly, what we would talk about? Our experiences are too different for my taste. I have never thought of being with a younger man, principally, because I've likely done a lot of things he will go through. I don't want more kids. A younger man is more likely to want one. I don't want to be with someone who is likely to change considerably more as he matures. Most of us can think of significant changes in our thinking and experiences between 18-30. Incredibly snobbish, I'll admit, but I'm willing to be real here.

I realize folks say age doesn't matter. Bonk. Everything is relative. How many 16-year-old girls will date a 13-year-old boy? Who wants their 18- year-old daughter dating a 40 year-old-man? The closer you are in terms of stages in life, the less years matter.

A woman in her 40s might fall for a guy in his 20s. I doubt that same woman is going to actively seek a out a teenager. Woman in her 50s and a man in his 30s are closer in peer groups. They've both have lived some years independently. They'll likely have more in common.

My friends and I have joked about sleeping with the stud, but not being committed to one. No thanks. Let him go through his major growing pains first. If he's still interested in me when he could have someone willing to give him babies and doesn't have any age lines, okie dokie.


Peace,

daughter

 

[Feelin' Naughty]

I married very young and had 4 children, very close together. When I divorced that butthead I finally got to have my time as a young adult, partying and all the wild times that goes with it.

When I began dating after the divorce, I wanted someone completely opposite my ex. I kind of went to the extreme, he was 10 years younger than me and as different from the ex as was humanly possible. (He was human, that was one big difference)

We were lovers and the best of friends. We had a lot more in common than you would think with such an age difference. It was just understood that our relationship would never lead to anything serious. When I met my husband and fell in love, he was happy for me.

We are still good friends. He has been to our home, met and "approved of" my husband. He dedicated "Separate Ways" by Journey to me. That is our song now.

I love the man, he will always hold a special place in my heart, but it couldn't have worked as a long term relationship, and we both knew that. Age does make a difference.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I can't believe I fall into an 'older woman' category!

I'm 28, and am rarely interested in men in my own age group, never mind younger. I look for intelligence, wit, maturity, and someone with direction in their life. That's rare to find in someone younger than me. I don't want a guy who's biggest worry is whether or not he's going to pass his algebra exam. Not when i sometimes wonder if I can clothe my children.

As so many others have said, more than age, the connection is based on shared experience, life paths and choices, and common goals. That's rare to get when one partner is an adult who has 'been there' and one is just figuring out that 'there' might actually exist.