After the break up, being released...

[MissTaken]

in your experience, how long have you been "between" Doms?

Do you take a break from the search?

Do you continue you on?

I realize the answers will depend on many different issues, but thought we could have a bit of a discussion.

 

[bunny bondage]

i think it's healthy to wait. infact, i've always been involved with a person for a while before completly entering the bdsm thing. it's good to get to know someone before giving yourself to them in such a complete way. so i'd say that patience, both in finding a new relationship AND in entering bdsm with that person is a good idea.

 

[lovetoread]

Personally, I thought that since I am new to this, I would just give up all thought about having one.

 

[MissTaken]

Thanks, bunni.

You make an excellent point concerning building the relationship before the BDSM comes into full swing. That is a mistake I, myself have made.

LTR <hugs>

After the first major D.s breakage, I did decide to stop my involvement in D/s or anything of that nature. I really felt like the "adventure" was nothing more than a waste of my time and energy.

Then, I slid back into it and now, as bunni said, I am more interested in being with someone I care about and who cares about me than I am in finding a Dom. If he turns out to be a Dom, that would be icing.

Just take your time, hon.
You may or may not chose to venture back into D/s.
However, it isn't a decision that has to be made today.

<hugs>

 

[Lancecastor]

I'd rather be single than compromise on what I'm looking for.

Lance

 

[Ebonyfire]

I'd rather be single than compromise on what I'm looking for.

Lance

That is exactly why I have never married. I have been engaged 4 times though.

I am my own best friend, and as a consequence I am always in good company. So, there is no rush to mate.

Eb