After First Wife Sharing

[Donovan7777]

I’d like to hear about the talk or discussion that a husband and wife have after she has been shared with another guy for the very first time. What are the important things they need to talk about? What are the important questions to be answered? How is the relationship changed? IS the relationship changed? What assurances need to be made. Where do they go if she liked it and he doesn’t or vice versa? Even though they both wanted it to happen, is there resentment or hostility or jealousy?What it really like after all is said and done?

 

[Carnevil9]

I think this is a great theme for a story idea. Lots of psychological depths to be plumbed. Many different story plots could be applied to the same theme. I sort of explored it in my "Midnight Confessions" stories, but there are many, many more issues that could be explored.

 

[tomlitilia]

Yeah, that would be a great way of telling a story. The sharing event could gradually be revealed through the post-sharing conversation, creating suspension for the reader about what the spouses are discussing. If I'd write a story like this, I think I'd aim for a situation where either the husband feels guilty about pushing the wife into doing it, thinking she wasn't really into sleeping with someone else, or the wife feeling guilty for going further than what they had agreed on, thinking the husband is resentful. In either case, it would be revealed towards the end that the spouse is actually grateful that their husband/wife took the necessary steps. That way there is a clear cause for tension in the story.

 

[AvroAnsonXIX]

Similar but not the same dynamic.

I grew up in a place that had probably twice as many men as women. My parents had two girls and no sons. They always treated us as if we were equal or superior (because we were their children) to any male. When we were young women, we were working at jobs dominated by men. Except for my sister and one or two other young women pretty much all of my friends were male. We had a great time, I worked with them. Then I started a business and hired many of my best friends.

And I do mean “best” friends, feminists will hate me, but I was having a great time having sex with all the guys who wanted to reciprocate. I had sex with nearly all of the guys I worked with and I had sex with most of the guys who worked for me. I eventually ended up marrying the alpha in that pack of guys. Someone significantly older than me who ran his own business that materially supported mine.

With me it all developed very organically. There wasn't really any talking about it in the sense of a debriefing. He'd been married before. One of the things that we discussed early on was that there was no expectation of monogamy between us, only complete honesty. Cheating is a betrayal of trust, not the act of having sex with somebody else. Most but not all of the times that I had sex during our marriage (which lasted to the end of his life) he was there. He usually acted as the Director, deciding who I was having what type of sex with in what order.

Most of the times when he wasn't there he was still the Director, having set up the scene beforehand. It was more fun, less work for me and he enjoyed it too. He would have been a most welcome participant at any of the sessions. He didn’t get “most” although he always got “more than anyone else.” But, as I said earlier we each had a business to run. We talked a lot about our experiences, expectations, and desires.