Advice

[WanderingGator]

Hello, Folks...

I'm sure a post like this has been published many a time, but...

I recently enjoyed my first few BDSM encounters and have found that I want to explore this world further. Where can I go to A) learn more about the lifestyle and B) meet like minded adults doing the same...

I've researched this topic to death but need some advice as to which sites are better than others.

Many thanks and I will be writing about this topic soon!

Wanderinggator

 

[DVS]

Google is your friend. That's how I found this stuff. The BDSM library is full of threads that you can read. All of them are about various parts of the BDSM experience.

BDSM 101- attending your first munch and what a munch is explained

The BDSM Events Page- find your state and seek out a munch group

BDSM forum library

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Hello, Folks...

I'm sure a post like this has been published many a time, but...

I recently enjoyed my first few BDSM encounters and have found that I want to explore this world further. Where can I go to A) learn more about the lifestyle and

You'll find a large number of informative, interesting, and often hilarious conversations about various BDSM-related topics in the BDSM Library (<--- click me!).

B) meet like minded adults doing the same...

Google is your friend. Enter "munch" and your city or state as your search term. Then go back to the Library and check out the "Events/Locales (BDSM)" (<--- click me!) thread(s) there, which cover munches.

I've researched this topic to death but need some advice as to which sites are better than others.

Many thanks and I will be writing about this topic soon!

Wanderinggator

Good luck, and welcome to the BDSM Talk forum (at least semi-serious discussion of BDSM topics) and BDSM Café forum (You guessed it: <--- Click me!) (more lighthearted discussion of both BDSM and non-BDSM topics, though often with a BDSM twist on the latter).

ETA: Geeze, DVS! Just cuz I'm not all the way awake and fully functional yet, did you have to jump in there and put the same stuff I was putting, plus some more?

 

[DVS]

Well, we both forgot a link to Fetlife.

Join Fetlife dot com. There's bound to be folks in your area there.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Well, we both forgot a link to Fetlife.

Join Fetlife dot com. There's bond to be folks in your area there.

*I* didn't forget Fetlife. I just didn't include it. Because I don't go there much. Or something.

 

[His_pet_slut]

hmmmm, I 'knew' a person that had the moniker 'gatttor' on another adult oriented site some years back. He was rather fond of the use of ... if you perhaps are the same person and were a denizen of the 'Mansion', shoot me a PM. I perhaps know your 'wifey'.

If not...never mind.

 

[WanderingGator]

hmmmm, I 'knew' a person that had the moniker 'gatttor' on another adult oriented site some years back. He was rather fond of the use of ... if you perhaps are the same person and were a denizen of the 'Mansion', shoot me a PM. I perhaps know your 'wifey'.

If not...never mind.

I'm sad to say that I have no clue what the "Mansion" is but it sounds like I should!

 

[His_pet_slut]

I'm sad to say that I have no clue what the "Mansion" is but it sounds like I should!

Ah well, I had thought I perhaps stumbled across an acquaintance I lost track of. However, I look forward to getting to know you here on these boards.

 

[WanderingGator]

Ah well, I had thought I perhaps stumbled across an acquaintance I lost track of. However, I look forward to getting to know you here on these boards.

As will I. Can you suggest any resources that might be of benefit?

 

[WanderingGator]

Google is your friend. That's how I found this stuff. The BDSM library is full of threads that you can read. All of them are about various parts of the BDSM experience.

BDSM 101- attending your first munch and what a munch is explained

The BDSM Events Page- find your state and seek out a munch group

BDSM forum library

Excellent suggestion. Alas, the Munch in my area is no longer active.

 

[WanderingGator]

Well, we both forgot a link to Fetlife.

Join Fetlife dot com. There's bound to be folks in your area there.

Looks good! Thank you!

 

[Stella_Omega]

http://fetlife.com

Look for your area and look for groups that meet in your area.

 

[satindesire]

Also:

Go to Amazon and buy "The New Topping Book" and "The New Bottoming Book". They're cheap, I promise!

Regulars are rolling their eyes right now, because I always suggest those books, but really they are wonderful "why for" books (as opposed to "how to") and are crammed with so much information and experiences that you'll wonder how you ever lived without the education within their hallowed texts.

Maybe I'm slightly exaggerating.

 

[midwestyankee]

Don't forget to discover your inner chewing-gum lover. It will help you with the surveys here.

 

[satindesire]

Don't forget to discover your inner chewing-gum lover. It will help you with the surveys here.

If you let him in on any more of my secrets, I'm going to have to confiscate your satindesire secret decoder ring.

 

[midwestyankee]

If you let him in on any more of my secrets, I'm going to have to confiscate your satindesire secret decoder ring.

Sweetheart, I hate to break it to you, but that ring is being guarded by a black ops team that would make Seal Team Six look like a bunch of spastic cub scouts. Good luck with the whole confiscation thing.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Also:

Go to Amazon and buy "The New Topping Book" and "The New Bottoming Book". They're cheap, I promise!

Regulars are rolling their eyes right now, because I always suggest those books, but really they are wonderful "why for" books (as opposed to "how to") and are crammed with so much information and experiences that you'll wonder how you ever lived without the education within their hallowed texts.

Maybe I'm slightly exaggerating.

No, you are really not. They are great books, both of them.

Also "Come Hither"
http://www.amazon.com/Come-Hither-Commonsense-Guide-Kinky/dp/0684854627/

 

[His_pet_slut]

As will I. Can you suggest any resources that might be of benefit?

The BDSM forum library linked above.
The two books Satindesire mentions.
If you are a book person, Screw the Roses Send Me The Thorns is also a good one.
When you run across things you don't quite understand, go ahead and post here. If you are respectful in your questions, these folks are more than helpful and a wealth of information.

http://fetlife.com

Look for your area and look for groups that meet in your area.

This.

Best of luck in your search for information. For me, it has been an amazing journey thus far.

 

[satindesire]

Sweetheart, I hate to break it to you, but that ring is being guarded by a black ops team that would make Seal Team Six look like a bunch of spastic cub scouts. Good luck with the whole confiscation thing.

Ve haff our vays.

No, you are really not. They are great books, both of them.

Also "Come Hither"
http://www.amazon.com/Come-Hither-Commonsense-Guide-Kinky/dp/0684854627/

I haven't read that one yet. If it's as good as the others, I must immediately.

 

[midwestyankee]

Ve haff our vays.

If they were to involve a certain now-famous ass av, they might prove to be persuasive.

 

[Stella_Omega]

If they were to involve a certain now-famous ass av, they might prove to be persuasive.

catch more flies with honey-- and all that.

*nods*

 

[DVS]

http://fetlife.com

Look for your area and look for groups that meet in your area.

Didn't know we could actually put full blown addresses to the opposition in threads. If I'd known that, I wouldn't have gone through the "dot" crap. That's something you are forced to do so the "bots" won't find it. I don't think Lit has bots. Lit has mods.

 

[satindesire]

If they were to involve a certain now-famous ass av, they might prove to be persuasive.

catch more flies with honey-- and all that.

*nods*

Unless one of you lovely people have it saved to your computer, the ass av will never be again. My computer caught fire yesterday.

Minor property damage, no one was hurt, but the PC is toast. Literally and figuratively speaking.

ETA: I wonder if Rosco saved it? He seemed to like the picture.

 

[midwestyankee]

Unless one of you lovely people have it saved to your computer, the ass av will never be again. My computer caught fire yesterday.

Minor property damage, no one was hurt, but the PC is toast. Literally and figuratively speaking.

ETA: I wonder if Rosco saved it? He seemed to like the picture.

Well, damn. This may be the end of civilization as we know it.

To the OP: /hijack

 

[infinity706]

Here's the ass avatar. I kind of like the picture, too.