Advice??

[FurryFury]

Oh it can be great with the right person and for the right reasons but we've had the whole "real life is 'real' online is not" debate already.

I've never really understood this whole online dom/sub relationship thing. I've never done it. My only experiences have been in person only. I just don't see how you can have a dom/sub relationship online with anyone unless you really, really, trust this person. It just doesn't seem like there is much you can possibily do unless you do things that really wouldn't be smart to do with a stranger over the internet. Like I said, the only way I could see a successful online dom/sub relationship thing would be to do it with someone you knew implicity you could trust - and that wouldn't be a stranger. Oh, I forgot to give advice. Get out of this relationship!!!!!! Don't let him force you to do something that any smart person would realize shouldn't be done.

 

[LittleOne19]

Im not in the relationship anymore

 

[FurryFury]

Im not in the relationship anymore

*hugs* I know it's hard.

Good for you.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Im not in the relationship anymore

That sucks.

But it's probably for the best.

Hopefully you can find a Dom that fits you better.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Im not in the relationship anymore

Good start.

Now, go check your facebook privacy settings. Protect your privacy. This guy has pics of your face.

seriously, it would be safer and more private for you to give someone a cam shot of your pussy or your tit, than of your face. And BDSM is about sex anyways...

 

[LittleOne19]

Good start.

Now, go check your facebook privacy settings. Protect your privacy. This guy has pics of your face.

seriously, it would be safer and more private for you to give someone a cam shot of your pussy or your tit, than of your face. And BDSM is about sex anyways...

ok, will do

 

[roomfor1more]

Simple, if you are not comfortable sending the pic then do not send it. Maybe the dom is not the right person for you?

 

[cgraven]

I've recently started online role playing with a Dom. Its been a few weeks and he keeps pressuring me into sending him a dirty pic. I've told him before that i wasnt comfortable with that and yet he is still pressuring me...im starting to get uncomfortable. What should i do"?

It is simple do not do anything you are uncomfortable with. If he is a real Dom and not a want-to-be Dom he will understand. for your needs and desires are of great concern to him.

 

[LittleOne19]

okay then

 

[Stella_Omega]

okay then

LOL yeah.

Three years from now someone will dredge this thread up from the archives to give you the exact same advice...

 

[LittleOne19]

ooooh...joy

 

[Adakgirl]

Ahhhhh but I have some further advice.
In your OP, you said:

.im starting to get uncomfortable.

then a few post later you said:

the whole point of this was that i am not comfortable with him. Under any circumstances i will not cam or mic with him. Im just not comfortable.

There ya go. Even if he hadn't asked you to send dirty pics of yourself. If he doesn't use gentlemanly manners towards you (politeness) and he doesn't impress you with his humor and good personality and doesn't have the verbal ability that it takes, in order for you to start to relax and feel fairly comfortable with him, after two weeks... then he won't. So ya don't give out any personal information that HE says he needs to feel comfortable with YOU. A name, e-mail addy, a face pic IS personal information.

You do not have to "prove" you are a female by sending him a pic of your face, you don't have to prove jackshit to any stranger. Don't ever send anybody anything unless you're ready to do so.
Trust must be built up, that takes time and effort. If he hasn't the patience for that, then tuff shit, he's a pretend Dominant, a fake, he's all about manipulating you into getting him off. It's simple, if your gut feeling tells you that you're uncomfortable then stop right there and do not pass go.

 

[SirLeo]

Ditto on all of the above, and in addition:
Listen to your heart and inner voice, usually they give the best advice. Also, don't let anyone bully you into anything, ever.

Wishing you all the best!

 

[DVS]

OK, now that we've got all of this info drummed into your head, I've got just one question for you. I need to make sure you are a woman. I'm a very visual kind of guy and to get off, I need a naked picture of the woman I'm talking to to tape on my monitor. I'm sorry if it seems sick or perverted, but it's just how I am.

So, if you could pose for a few pictures for me, I'll give you an email address to send them to. No, there's no need to worry about me. I'm your basic sane dominant male, and although I will definitely benefit from your naked pictures, you will also benefit, because I will be more aroused, by looking at your naked body while we chat.

If you really want to arouse me, one of the poses I'd like to recommend would be bending over with your ass pointing at the camera. You could enhance that shot by looking behind you, into the camera with a cute little pout on your face. If you want to really make me happy, a ball gag in your mouth and your wrists handcuffed behind your back would be ideal.

Of course, none of these pictures will ever leave my computer. You can trust me to tell you the truth. I'm a nice guy...really I am. No, really! Just let me know and I'll send my email address

 

[LittleOne19]

OK, now that we've got all of this info drummed into your head, I've got just one question for you. I need to make sure you are a woman. I'm a very visual kind of guy and to get off, I need a naked picture of the woman I'm talking to to tape on my monitor. I'm sorry if it seems sick or perverted, but it's just how I am.

So, if you could pose for a few pictures for me, I'll give you an email address to send them to. No, there's no need to worry about me. I'm your basic sane dominant male, and although I will definitely benefit from your naked pictures, you will also benefit, because I will be more aroused, by looking at your naked body while we chat.

If you really want to arouse me, one of the poses I'd like to recommend would be bending over with your ass pointing at the camera. You could enhance that shot by looking behind you, into the camera with a cute little pout on your face. If you want to really make me happy, a ball gag in your mouth and your wrists handcuffed behind your back would be ideal.

Of course, none of these pictures will ever leave my computer. You can trust me to tell you the truth. I'm a nice guy...really I am. No, really! Just let me know and I'll send my email address

creeeeeepy lol

 

[DVS]

creeeeeepy lol

Good answer!



And sadly, you're far from the first to call me creepy, but you ARE the first to add so many "e"s to the spelling.

 

[redheadedtxn]

Following what furryfury said,

the whole point of this was that i am not comfortable with him. Under any circumstances i will not cam or mic with him. Im just not comfortable.

I've never really understood this whole online dom/sub relationship thing. I've never done it. My only experiences have been in person only. I just don't see how you can have a dom/sub relationship online with anyone unless you really, really, trust this person. It just doesn't seem like there is much you can possibily do unless you do things that really wouldn't be smart to do with a stranger over the internet. Like I said, the only way I could see a successful online dom/sub relationship thing would be to do it with someone you knew implicity you could trust - and that wouldn't be a stranger. Oh, I forgot to give advice. Get out of this relationship!!!!!! Don't let him force you to do something that any smart person would realize shouldn't be done.

Glad you're out of that situation. Find someone to have a real relationship with in person.

Online, you only know what a person wants you to know of them.