Advice

[Adakgirl]

It's probably his wife...get the fuck outa there!

 

[NomadLady]

It's probably his wife...get the fuck outa there!

Luckily this involves crossing state lines so I hope it stays away from me. Surely two adults can work out a divorce (if its true) without involving others.

 

[musicman77]

He is married outside his interest in BDSM. The "stalker" is supposed to be someone he met through AFF and fucked before we met months ago. Not sure what her motives are from what I get from him but he tells me she is obsessed with both of us and jealous of me.
When the relationship began he suggested and even bought a book for me, since then I've bought others and have been reading a LOT and studying the lifestyle. I emailed him yesterday and told him that this "stalker stuff" sounded like an attempt at a mindfuck.
Of course he claimed I was trying to "top from the bottom"....which I'm not, I just want to protect my safety from what could be a potential problem. After some rather heated exhanges I told him he knew how to reach me....I wouldn't bother him again.
I've learned a good way to piss me off is compare me to your wife.....

Sounds like you have figured out the answer to your own question. I hope it works out for you (personally I say dump the asshole). Besides from your pic in your profile, you seem too pretty and sweet to put up with that shit> I am sure you can find better, no matter what you are looking for. Good Luck

 

[Licia]

I have a suspicion that my Dom is playing mind games with me. It surrounds a supposed yahoo instant messenger unkown female sending him messages about his relationship with me. According to him, she claims to know my name, what I drive, what I do for a living, has pictures of me and knows some men that I've met through AFF. The first contact was about 6 weeks ago and two more since then, the last being yesterday morning.
He won't/hasn't sent me her screen name or copied me on the messages and since I asked him to do that after her first contact, now I'm suspicious. I can't decide if this is real or just a way to feed his ego.

Could use some suggestions on getting to the bottom of this. If this is truely someone he has met and fucked before meeting me I would think he would be more "concerned" about the consequences, considering he is married.

Thanks

D

I play mind games with my hubby; however, one thing I will never do is push the jealousy button. I do keep things mysterious, but I am not so stupid as to do what you're writing about. He knows that eventually, I most likely will invite others into the playground, but I bring those communications to his attention. I let him read the messages I send and receieve. He is finally at the point where he'd rather get caught up in the "magick", and therefore has requested radio silence. Still, I do bring it nakedly to his attention every so often because I fucking know what it's like to be "left in the dark". And if it's your dom's angle to try and build fear so this woman can terrorize you, he needs his dick slapped, methinks.

So... I'd kick him to the curb if he doesn't transform into a window yesterday.