advice....

[dalesgirl86]

i don't know if this is the right place to post this but i need some advice.... i am 19 and i fell in love with a 34 year old... i am so confussed and just need some help

 

[Laughing Tiger]

Is there chemistry? Common interests? Does he feel the same way?

Don't worry about the age difference if the chemistry is there. Life's too short to follow arbitrary rules.

Is he married? That's another story. If so, you'll want to tread lightly until you know which way he's leaning.

 

[easyman67]

Love

Is there chemistry? Common interests? Does he feel the same way?

Don't worry about the age difference if the chemistry is there. Life's too short to follow arbitrary rules.

Is he married? That's another story. If so, you'll want to tread lightly until you know which way he's leaning.

What Tiger said. If he is married and telling you he is going to leave his wife... give it up. 99% chance he won't and if he does he will hold it against you the first time things get rough.

 

[Menthe]

Seems you've been looking for quite a while here for a relationhip like this. Just be careful, at first and make sure people know where you are and when to expect you back. Other than that, married/not married, older, whatever, enjoy it!

 

[My Immortal]

If you both love each other, why let age get in the way?

 

[Pirate_n_VA]

Yep........ I'm 46 and my S.O. is 28.

We knew each other for over a year before we got together and we've been together for almost 2 years now.

She has her interest and I have mine, but we share a lot of common ground. We have a lot of the same likes and dislikes. similar tastes in music, etc....

If you have the common interest it takes to persue what you might consider a normal aged relationship, then the age differences shouldn't make any difference at all.

Lots of luck.......

 

[Guttergoddess]

My BF is 49 to my 31 (oh God, that made me sound old...I rememer when he had a 20-something GF

My advice...same as above...if you love (or for now like) him...and he's NOT married...age is just a number. My BF listens to Gwen Stefani, Black Eyed Peas...and Kelly Clarkson

 

[My Immortal]

My BF is 49 to my 31 (oh God, that made me sound old...I rememer when he had a 20-something GF

My advice...same as above...if you love (or for now like) him...and he's NOT married...age is just a number. My BF listens to Gwen Stefani, Black Eyed Peas...and Kelly Clarkson

Wow that's great to know I'm not the only 40-something guy into Gwen Stefani/No Doubt She's my fav along with Evanescence

 

[dalesgirl86]

thanks so much yall. your advice has been extremly helpful... i have never been in a real relationship before and it terrifies me... i work with him a lot and i am just scared to be around him but he is all that i can think about.... i know for sure that he is not married...

 

[Guttergoddess]

be careful about going after a co-worker..most offices/organizations have rules against fraternizing...plus..it makes life rough if things don't work out the way you hope.