Advice: Would you go out with someone you dont have feelings for?

[CraZy HaHa]

To make a long story short, this women has feelings for me...and i'm not to sure if i feel the same way about her. She's had feelings for me for quite some time, which really amounted to nothing until last weekend when we both got a little to drunk...
and now she wants a relationship.

If you were in this situation, would you risk continuing on with the relationship and make it more....or break her heart and leave it as a friendship.

thnx in advance for the advice

 

[Purrde Flower]

Personaly I wouldn't.. just cause it might make a mess knowing me.

but as long as you are completely upfront about everything and make sure everything is understood then I dont see why not..

 

[lavender]

 

[patient1]

I've always been of the opinion that people lose inhibitions when drunk, and say & do things they've always secretly wanted too, as opposed to getting ideas from nowhere.

 

[red_rose]

Honesty is the best policy.

I 2nd that.

 

[Diablogrl]

if this woman is really your friend and you want her to stay that way, I'd tell you to get out and break it up immediately. The more intimate time you spend with her, the more she's going to be attached, and if you have no feelings for her at all, its very cruel for you to carry on the facade of a relationship.

sorry for the run-on sentence...I feel very strongly about situations like this.

 

[Ransom]

Be upfront with her by letting her know you are not looking for any long term relationship. However, if she is interested in having her brains fucked out you are the man. A woman who wants sex as much as you do is difficult to find. Too many of them want a total committment before you are allowed in their pants. Women control sex, if that is what you are most interested in.

 

[Nicki19]

To make a long story short, this women has feelings for me...and i'm not to sure if i feel the same way about her. She's had feelings for me for quite some time, which really amounted to nothing until last weekend when we both got a little to drunk...
and now she wants a relationship.

If you were in this situation, would you risk continuing on with the relationship and make it more....or break her heart and leave it as a friendship.

thnx in advance for the advice

I've been in a relationship where I didn't really care about the person. In the beginning, it was ok. It got progressively worse. I tried to be honest, but I didn't want to hurt him, and he wouldn't/couldn't understand when I said I didnt feel so strongly about him after a while. It eventually got ugly and it ended, badly.

Don't know if that helps at all, but that's my experience...

 

[hogjack]

Yes

if this woman is really your friend and you want her to stay that way, I'd tell you to get out and break it up immediately. The more intimate time you spend with her, the more she's going to be attached, and if you have no feelings for her at all, its very cruel for you to carry on the facade of a relationship.

sorry for the run-on sentence...I feel very strongly about situations like this.

A run-on sentence but there's wisdom in them thar hills. Good point.

 

[Devilish1]

I've been in a realtionship like this. It was so stressful!!!!
He fell for me after we had gone out less than a month.
Before X-mas( last yr) he was telling me he loved me.
My god ! We just started dating in November!

He maded it hard for me to tell him no. He was good at giving me a guilt trip. And stupid me fell for it everytime.

We got along good as far as being friends goes, I couldn't look at him even as a F-buddie. Just someone i could talk to, go out with.... etc

We broke up so many times i lost count!!!! I finally just told him i couldn't keep this up with him and i said my good byes to him.
He is STILLl calling me... thinking i will give him a 2nd chance just because he thinks we had more good than bad between us.

I've learn my lesson from this never again.
My advise to you on this subject is to tell her before you are shopping for wedding rings.

No one should go through this. Tell her your feelings aren't the same as her... even if you had sex with her.. that doesn't mean your in love with her.
Talk to her before its to late. She will be pissed off but she will come to terms with it sooner or later.

 

[CraZy HaHa]

I've been in a realtionship like this. It was so stressful!!!!
He fell for me after we had gone out less than a month.
Before X-mas( last yr) he was telling me he loved me.
My god ! We just started dating in November!

He maded it hard for me to tell him no. He was good at giving me a guilt trip. And stupid me fell for it everytime.

We got along good as far as being friends goes, I couldn't look at him even as a F-buddie. Just someone i could talk to, go out with.... etc

We broke up so many times i lost count!!!! I finally just told him i couldn't keep this up with him and i said my good byes to him.
He is STILLl calling me... thinking i will give him a 2nd chance just because he thinks we had more good than bad between us.

I've learn my lesson from this never again.
My advise to you on this subject is to tell her before you are shopping for wedding rings.

No one should go through this. Tell her your feelings aren't the same as her... even if you had sex with her.. that doesn't mean your in love with her.
Talk to her before its to late. She will be pissed off but she will come to terms with it sooner or later.

Thnx for the advice, and i agree with the majority of you that this is just a lose-lose situation for the both of us. I think it all boils down to the fact I was interested in just some fun and didn't quite realize what I was getting me into. Sure it will start off alright, but it will definelty end in a disaster.

I'll just have to keep repeating the above and hopefully not get suckered into the relationship. I'm sure its happened to everybody, and what i'm afraid of.

 

[Devilish1]

Crazy Ha Ha, Good luck. I just pray she takes the news better than my guy did.
Just make sure when you say its over, ITS OVER! Otherwise you wont get rid of her.

 

[Lancecastor]

In the interests of having a variety of opinions to choose from, I think you should consider fucking her for as long as you want.

Maybe she's asking people the same question you are right now at a bar somewhere.

Maybe it's meant to be this way....

God...isn't it romantic?

 

[Phoenyx]

Does she have big Tits?

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Don't do it. Better for her to know you don't have feelings for her now and for her to get over you than to let her feelings deepen by a relationship.

 

[Lancecastor]

Oh, he has feelings for her.

Why shouldn't he validate his feelings in a positive way?

Each can be responsible for their own feelings.

Who knows where it could lead?

 

[luv2cook]

You should clear the air between the two of you. If you don't, you risk losing a friendship. Honesty is always better than trying to hide behind excuses.

 

[penguindance]

 

[gina3]

figure it out!

The first thing you need to do is figure out exactly what your feelings ARE for this woman. You said you're not sure that you feel the same way- but how DO you feel about her? Figure it out and let her know EXACTLY how you feel. Don't leave her hanging or twisting in the wind- that's not cool. ...

 

[Guest]

To make a long story short, this women has feelings for me...and i'm not to sure if i feel the same way about her. She's had feelings for me for quite some time, which really amounted to nothing until last weekend when we both got a little to drunk...
and now she wants a relationship.

If you were in this situation, would you risk continuing on with the relationship and make it more....or break her heart and leave it as a friendship.

thnx in advance for the advice

If I were you, I'd be honest and ask her if we could be fuck buddies.

You never know, ''the feeling'' might come to you.