Advice - public Humiliation

[ShiralLena]

I am new to this and my Master asked me to look for some public humiliation and ask at some forums for advices.
For me are some ideas Ok but my Master I guess want somethink like drinking his urine at public and I am afraid that this and similary thinks i can bear psychicly fine. Something more intim would be for me much worse than humiliation and could marked me.
So I am looking for somethink what he can do to me among friends and even among people at training. And when he takes me at music club or for a walk.
Sorry for my English if is there some mistakes I am really new to this and he is my first experience and I just don´t know what...

 

[seela]

I think this is a question you two have to figure out together. Only you know your limits and what you are into, so it's difficult for outsiders to give many ideas suitable to your specific requirements. Besides what's humiliating to one person is business as usual to another.

The first thing to keep in mind when doing public humiliation is, well, the public. Unless you are in a fetish club, the people around you aren't really expecting to see you to drink anybody's urine or walk around braless with your shirt open and I doubt many people would like to see that when going about their daily life. Keep it very discreet, most people don't want to be involved in other people's humiliation games.

If you want to play with overtly sexual humiliation, maybe going to a fetish club would be a good idea. There you can express yourself more freely.

Humiliation doesn't necessarily have to be sexual. You could wear a completely mismatching outfit or an outfit that sticks out like a sore thumb in the club you're going. Shoes with different heights of heels. Smeared lipstick. But all this really depends on you as a person, maybe things like that don't bother you in the slightest. Like I pointed out in the beginning, humiliation really is such a personal thing that it's very difficult for outsiders to give you any pointers without knowing anything about your limits, likes or personality.

Also, remember that you are entitled to your limits even (especially?) when playing with humiliation.

Welcome to Lit!

 

[ShiralLena]

Thanks, more than glad to hear, that it should or have to be discret, for short time it was hard with him. Your reply helps me to figure out something. Hope it will be ok, thanks again

 

[SlutAddicted]

I think that it is worth noting that humiliation is something that you feel as opposed to something that is put upon you. Other people may find it embarrassing or humiliating to bare their breasts but if you are entirely comfortable with it then it isn't humiliating. So by definition humiliation involves pushing you outside your comfort zone.

Public humiliation therefore involves letting other people see you doing something that you find embarrassing or humiliating as opposed to what other people will think of it. Personally I think drinking urine in public is a huge step to take if you are new to this. Your master should focus on baby steps as seen through your eyes rather than indulging some silly scene he saw on the internet.

One of the obvious ones is to have you go out in an outfit that is much more revealing or slutty than you would normally wear in the circumstance. I don't mean raise your hemline by 1" but wear something that you think is completely inappropriate (but still legal and not offensive). Or have your master give you direct orders that seem overbearing and sexist and obey happily. Or approach a man you would normally never approach and ask him for his number for a casual sexual encounter (you don't have to go through with the sex, just the request).

INMHO it is best done in baby steps with a clear focus on what will push you a bit at a time. Jumping right into drinking urine in public doesn't sound like something a master who wants his sub to enjoy herself would ask in my opinion. While a master has great latitude to enjoy a sub at his discretion he needs to be aware of her enjoyment too.

 

[Anonymaso]

My partner would never be rude to me in front of people we know or places we regularly go to but he has been known to verbally abuse me in 'safer' places that we'll probably never go back to and where he doesn't care about appearing to be an abusive chauvinist. I tried on a dress in a shop once and he said in a loud voice that I looked 'fucking awful' in it. Adult/lingerie shops can be fun, because the people that work there are usually pretty hard to shock or appal. Just be respectful of the fact they're running a business and actually buy something.

For me though, if it's something planned or that I can see coming, it has less of an impact on me. All he really has to do is hiss 'you are fucking useless' with that curl of the lip when I can't find something at the supermarket. It's the sharp shock of it, like an unexpected slap to the face that makes me wet, weak at the knees and blushing like a schoolgirl.