Advice Please

[Twas_Brillig]

An Erotic Letter

So, I have a boyfriend of one very very close to one year now, but due to circimstances we've only been really "sexualy active" for a few months. Okay, and I admit, he's my first boyfriend. (It's not that I'm socially inept or couldn't get someone or anything, it's just that I really haven't had time for it in the past) Anyway, I wanted to write him an erotic love letter, but I'm not really positive how to go about it. I'm a long time Literotica reader ,(you know, since my 18th birthday *cough*) and so I have vauge idea of what I should do, but I'm realy lacking in the confidince. Could someone give me some advice on what to do?

 

[SweetErika]

Maybe you could start by writing down the points you want to include - a little outline, if you will. This may help you ensure you include what you want to say and make it seem like a more manageable task.

Then, take each point separately. Think about how what he does, or you do together, touches your senses: sight, hearing, taste, smell, and feeling (both in your body and mind/heart/soul). Description that paints a picture is a good thing, IMO.

Speak from the heart. Don't get so caught up in how it 'should' read that it's not a true expression of what you think and feel. If you express yourself honestly, and he's worth your affection, he'll love your letter, no matter how good or bad it might read to someone else.

Does that help some? I guess I'm not sure what you're really looking for, or if anyone can give it to you. While positive reinforcement helps, confidence comes from within - that place where we can see, and focus on our good qualities.

 

[breezyblue]

perhaps you could find examples of the type of letter you would like to write if you are not confident enough to begin writing it from scratch so to speak- i mean of course dont copy it because its got to come from you and how you feel or it wont be as meaningful but mabey it could give you a sort of out line to work from.

 

[SweetErika]

perhaps you could find examples of the type of letter you would like to write if you are not confident enough to begin writing it from scratch so to speak- i mean of course dont copy it because its got to come from you and how you feel or it wont be as meaningful but mabey it could give you a sort of out line to work from.

That's a great idea, Breezy.

There are some excellent letters in the Letters & Transcripts story section that might provide you with some inspiration. Keep in mind they can be over the top, overly focused on sex and tangible things, and are usually aimed at the erotica reader's (instead of the writer's lover's/partner's enjoyment) pleasure, but it may help you get started, allow you to see both how description can make the recipient feel and how ideas can be linked to form a fluid letter, and know you're on the right track with your own letter.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

Having been a writer, editor and corporate publishing hack for much of the past 30 years, the best writing advice I could give anyone is: You don't have to get it right the first time. Nor should you expect to.

Good writing has more to do with good editing than it does your uncertain attempts at a first draft. Put something down on paper. Anything. The fact that your first draft (or even your second or third) sounds thoroughly ridiculous does not mean you cannot write. It only means you're not done yet. And, yes, the outline idea is a good one, but you may even find yourself revising the order of subjects in the outline.

After you write a draft, go back and play with it. Try different words. See if you can eliminate extra words and still keep your intended meaning. Vary the length and rhythm of your sentences.

Eventually, you will have said just what you want to say in exactly the mood in which you want to say it. That's the one you address, seal and sprinkle with your fragrance.

 

[alaskabibear]

A small WARNING

Don't mean to dampen your thoughts of love...But, do keep in mind that "Love Letters" (and for that matter, anything written) last forever...and can be read by people who you never intended. Soooo, since this is your first love relationship and it's still kind of in the trial phase and we are talking about an "erotic letter" - what do you think about signing it with something like; "Your only true love" or some such sentiment so that "just in case" someone else ever did lay their eyes on it your name wouldn't be written at the bottom? But given that warning, I think you have a great idea and one that would be appreciated by most people.

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

Alaska, that is a DANG FINE POINT!!!!!!!!!

Honestly, an extremely valuable point too! I had a situation early on in my relationships that ended very badly because of a signature.