Advice from women on relationships with crossdressers?

[peter690]

Hi all, I'll get straight to the point. I'm married and I like to crossdress. My wife isn't into it though. She lets me do it, but only if she's not around. She has gone so far as to pick out some panties for me in the store and we've had foot baths and toenail painting evening, but that's it.

I'm not transgender, I know I'm a male. This is just a fetish that I enjoy.

I'm not expecting an answer to ever single question here but; what experience have you had with guys who crossdress? What did you think about it? If you met a guy who liked to do it, how would you react? Could anything be done that would open you up to it more?

Also, are there any good stories on this site about feminization from the female perspective? I may try to get my wife to read them.

Any other advise on the situation? I do realize that it wouldn't be fair for me to force the issue on her if it makes her uncomfortable, so I'm trying to be sensitive to that.

Thanks!

 

[eyer]

Hi all, I'll get straight to the point. I'm married and I like to crossdress. My wife isn't into it though. She lets me do it, but only if she's not around. She has gone so far as to pick out some panties for me in the store and we've had foot baths and toenail painting evening, but that's it.

I'm not transgender, I know I'm a male. This is just a fetish that I enjoy.

I'm not expecting an answer to ever single question here but; what experience have you had with guys who crossdress? What did you think about it? If you met a guy who liked to do it, how would you react? Could anything be done that would open you up to it more?

Also, are there any good stories on this site about feminization from the female perspective? I may try to get my wife to read them.

Any other advise on the situation? I do realize that it wouldn't be fair for me to force the issue on her if it makes her uncomfortable, so I'm trying to be sensitive to that.

Thanks!

Put your wife on, sissyboy.

 

[peter690]

Put your wife on, sissyboy.

I used to lol, but her clothes are way too small. I have some of my own now for when she's out of the house.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Are you looking for fashion tips? PM Queersetti. Just because it looks good on the rack doesn't mean it looks good on you.

 

[Queersetti]

Are you looking for fashion tips? PM Queersetti. Just because it looks good on the rack doesn't mean it looks good on you.

Bitch, I haven't done drag since the 70's.

 

[peter690]

Are you looking for fashion tips? PM Queersetti. Just because it looks good on the rack doesn't mean it looks good on you.

Looking for answers to the questions in the OP

Any advice for getting my wife to warm up to my fetish?

Any good stories you've read about it from the female perspective that I could get her to read?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Bitch, I haven't done drag since the 70's.

It's like riding a bike.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Looking for answers to the questions in the OP

Any advice for getting my wife to warm up to my fetish?

Any good stories you've read about it from the female perspective that I could get her to read?

The best stories are personal experiences. Go make some.

 

[dolf]

turn off. it never used to be, but betty put me off for life.

 

[pointless]

not a fan of cross dressing, because oy, the shoes, but i totally get skirts. it'd be nice to feel a breeze on my balls without worrying about my zipper or fabric binding at my crotch. be kind of a pain in the ass to take a piss or shit while holding all that fabric, but everything has its good points and bad.

 

[lovetoread]

Its a turn off for me.

If a partner told me this after being married, I would seriously think about getting out of the relationship.

 

[pointless]

also bras just don't look that comfy to me. underwires no thank you.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I'd look seriously good in Armani and a Dali mustache.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Look, you can either accept the person's quirks because you love him or her, or not. It's really that simple. If the quirk doesn't involve something that's a dealbreaker for you, I say, just go with it and accept and love that person for who and what they are. Period.

Everything else is bullshit.

 

[eyer]

Look, you can either accept the person's quirks because you love him or her, or not. It's really that simple.

In your fortune cookie at the $3.99-all-you-can-eat buffet last night?

 

[eyer]

I used to lol, but her clothes are way too small.

I didn't post put your wife's clothes on...

...I posted to put her on, like let her post.

I'm assuming she at least has milkbags...

...which, alone, makes her the only one in your marriage with anything to offer the world at all.

 

[CandiCame]

not a fan of cross dressing, because oy, the shoes, but i totally get skirts. it'd be nice to feel a breeze on my balls without worrying about my zipper or fabric binding at my crotch. be kind of a pain in the ass to take a piss or shit while holding all that fabric, but everything has its good points and bad.

Plus it's cute when you're wearing a miniskirt and you get a hard-on, and your dick's just like, peeking out like, "What's going on out there? Something good? Can I come out?"

Lots of fucking fashion police in this thread.

 

[Que]

Your question speaks to the relationship side of this. I think you will get the best help on that in the how-to section even from those that perhaps haven't experienced that particular kink themselves or with a loved one.

Looks like so far the GB is being more helpful than usual, so that is well.

The fetishy aspects of it in the fetish section. I'd avoid that in the sense that you already know what you like, and are out enough not to feel closed in. Since your relationship's health is your primary expressed concern, I think avoiding over-sexualizing the experience is probably going to feel safer and easier to support for your spouse.

The GBLT section will be supportive, but (generalizing) they are unlikely to "get" where you are coming from.

Corssdressers dot com is a better place to find people experienced in handling family issues with the kink.

Best wishes.

 

[Sean]

what experience have you had with guys who crossdress?

Oy vey, did you pick the wrong forum for that particular question.

 

[lovetoread]

Oy vey, did you pick the wrong forum for that particular question.

BTW, a kilt is not a skirt, so go put one on.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

When I leaked the pics to Kyle, I honestly thought it would be good for laughs for a few weeks and that would be it. I had no idea it would have legs for years and years and years... Why can't everyone give it a rest? I regret it for that reason alone.

 

[Que]

When I leaked the pics to Kyle, I honestly thought it would be good for laughs for a few weeks and that would be it. I had no idea it would have legs for years and years and years... Why can't everyone give it a rest? I regret it for that reason alone.

I have always found you to be a very passable tranny.

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