Advice for newbie shopping for vibrator

[sibergal]

Hi -

Sorry if this appears twice, but the other message never seemed to show up.

I'm seeking advice for the purchase of my first vibrator (my first sex toy of any type in fact). I have been looking on the shopping link connected to this literotica site. First, what is the difference between a "vibrating dildo" and "conventional vibrator?" I see that the vibrating dildos seem to be more expensive, what are their advantages?

I am leaning towards the purchase of the G-spot stimulating type. The Hypersonic G (74.95), but the G-spot Hyper Massager is only 12.95. The main difference seems to be number of settings. Is that something that is likely to be important??

Also, I have questions about the differences between hard materials as both of the above seem to be and the ones described as jelly-like. It seems that jelly like would be more comfortable? However I suppose a harder material is neccessary for the purpose of some?

Also, I may like to purchase a waterproof tradional (clitoral) vibrator as well. Any recommendations here, too? Maybe the Waterproof Rabbit for 34.99? Any advice is appreciated as I am new not only to vibrators, but to masturbating as well.

Thanks

 

[cymbidia]

you go, girl!

Masturbation is one of our inalienable rights as humans, babe, and necessary for a more complete understanding of what makes us tick sexually. You go!

Good questions. I'll do my bit to answer them.

1. "vibrating dildo" vs. "conventional vibrator?"

Anything that has the word "dildo" attached to it in any way means it's designed to be inserted into your vagina or your anus in order to help you get excited and come to orgasm. You don't *have* to insert it to get the thing to work, but you can choose to.
- vs. -
Anything that has the word "vibrator" or "vibrating" (or any takeoff of that) means that the thing buzzes and vibrates and wiggles around a little. This is most often because you insert batteries into some part of the thing but sometimes you plug them into the wall.

2. "I see that the vibrating dildos seem to be more expensive, what are their advantages?"

They do more. Not only can you make them buzz and wiggle deliciously against your tender parts, you can also make them do so while they are inside your body - presto! They're more expensive.

3. "I am leaning towards the purchase of the G-spot stimulating type. The Hypersonic G (74.95), but the G-spot Hyper Massager is only 12.95. The main difference seems to be number of settings. Is that something that is likely to be important?? "

Depends on what you want, darlin'. Finding and stimulating one's G-spot is something some of us get around to, eventually. It's sort of a lofty goal for someone new to masturbatory pleasures, to be honest. A more realistic goal might be for you to use toys and get yourself off, for you to use a vibrator on your clit and find satisfaction that way. Do you know what/where your G-spot is?

Don't get suckered into buying expensive sex toys that you won't really use. Buy what you need for the level of your expertise... and then buy more later. Trust me when i say that it's not a bad thing to have a few spare vibrators and dildos lying round the place, okay?

4. "It seems that jelly like would be more comfortable? However I suppose a harder material is necessary for the purpose of some?"

Ahhh... the eternal conundrum! Hard materials or jellylike? Depends, to my mind, on what you find most appealing, to be honest (with one small caveat that we'll get to).

Jellylike insertables are warmer from first touch, come in a dizzying array of colors, and (stay with me here) taste a little better, too.

I prefer them, across the table, for all vaginal play.

However, (here's that caveat) jellylike dildos will (not may) slip out of your anus during ass play. No matter how pretty and/or friendly and/or enticing anal toys made of jellylike materials are, and unless they're held inside you manually or by some kinda belt apparatus, they will slip out during anal play. Don't waste your money on jellylike toys designed for that kinda play.

Think about it: lots of lube + a lubelike exterior + the natural and rhythmic contractions of your anus = toys that go POP right out onto the bed.

5. "Also, I may like to purchase a waterproof traditional (clitoral) vibrator as well. Any recommendations here, too? Maybe the Waterproof Rabbit for 34.99?"

For my money, for a good time, i always head straight for my clit. All those other places are fun, yeh, and when i'm with another person, they get to be even more fun, but for solitary pleasures, nothing can beat (little masturbation joke there!) some quality time with my clit.

There's one vibrator that does the job far far better than any i've ever encountered. I, personally, have used this particular vibrator for at least 10 years, and am on my third one now. They used to come in a striking shade of pale pink but now you only get white or... white. ~s~

I'd be completely remiss in not giving you this link to the best vibrator in the world, the G-2 Mini Massager, sometimes known as the Pocket Rocket.
http://www.stockroom.com/a491.htm

It's about the size and shape and heft of a big tube of lipstick. You can easily carry it around in your purse. It offers WAY more incredible vibration, and more quietly, than anything else like it.

It's NOT, however, waterproof. If you want that, you'll have to get a different product. (Water tends to wash away our natural lubricants, did you know that? All that sex-in-the-water stuff we see in the movies is mostly just for the movies. Sex in the water, even with oneself, without liberal and repeated applications of artificial lubricant can be more irritating than pleasurable.)

A small suggestion?

Forget spending so much money on toys right now.
Get one inexpensive clitoral vibrator and one inexpensive dildo, vibrating if you think the extra expense is worth it.
Spend some time exploring your body, masturbating touching yourself, coming to know your own pleasure points and needs.
THEN go buy the place out in toys cuz you'll know what you want.


cym

 

[Coggie]

Hi Sibergal

<nods at cym>

Just in case you are in any doubt you could visit: http://clitical.com/showarticle.php?id=15

Its a brief article on the subject by a member here, you may well have seen the post but you may find the site useful so I thought I'd point it out just the same.

Good luck, happy hunting )

 

[Wizard]

Not much to add after that list.........................But you did ask..........

 

[EducateMe]

Hello. Everyone ure has the right thigs to say...I'll be taking tips too.

New to toys I have discovered 5 things.

1. Jelly-like ones are not good for anal play and often absorb a lot of the vibration. Most common when the bullet is in the base and the jelly-part is designed for insertion. Supposed to be for clit stimulation, but it isn't enough. Also, they tend to egt dirty fast...some sort of static cling. LOL In my house, that means from the time I clean it, walk to the bed, get comfy, it has cat hair on it. Easily fixed with a condom, while I use on all "dildos" so I can do anal play, take the condom of and do vaginal play without risk of infection.

2. So far cheaper ones have lasted better. One was a common rocket style I got for less than $10 and the other the Lady Finger, that I got for less than $15. Both are "hard". While the Lady Finger looks curved for G-spot use, it isn't! Took me month to get that to work. Lesson #3 is why.

3. Aside from needing new batteries for every use...I have also burned out one vibe and have a seeking suspicion another will go. At least I got a warranty this time! The smell of burning wires followed by sparks is a major turn off!! I'd have been in trouble if I weren't shaved. Think careful.

4. Depnding on how wet you get or your choice in lubes...think about waterproof.

5. I prefer to use eggs over dildos. You can instert them, though not as deep...and the vibrations are pure. Also, they come in duel systems...so you can use both in various places.

GL. I needed it and still have questions!

 

[Closet Desire]

You really must...

...go all the way! (sorry for the pun)

Save your nickels and buy one of these. It looks scary, but there is no better way to go through the roof!

http://www.sybian.com/sybianindex.htm

I won't even tell you how much they are...I'll warn you to be sitting down though!

Oh yeah (bashfully), we've got one...

 

[EducateMe]

Re: Sybian.

Save your nickels and buy one of these.

Sitting down wasn't enough!

This thing is awsome. Between the power and warranty at least I know I wouldn't burn it out.

One problem...nickles are not what I'd need to be saving. Without adding anything, not even the s/h...this thing cost more than I make in a year.


I'd have one fabulous orgasm (okay, more than one) with this thing, esp. if I have to wait until I can afford it!

Women in their eighties probably shouldn't have that much excitement. LOL

 

[cymbidia]

Re: You really must...

Oh yeah (bashfully), we've got one...

Can i come visit? I'll try to be quiet... amuse myself...

 

[sibergal]

Thanks

Thanks to everyone for their replies to my question. With my new information I'm off to look at the online catalog again and make a purchasing decision.

 

[Closet Desire]

cym...

LMAO

I read some of the posts on the Sybian site and it appears that the women are inclined to "pass it around" to their friends. There's gotta be a great story in that. We men always wondered what women get up to when their alone. I can see it now. The men all stand around in the locker room farting and sweatings while the women ride the orgasmatron and go home with glowing skin and cherub smiles...

 

[sibergal]

Just waiting on the mailman

Thanks again for everyone's advice. Now I'm waiting for my unmarked boxes to arrive. I ordered the 'lil one with the recommended link. And from here, the jelly one that was on sale for only 9.95 and a G-Spot fantasy massager for only 12.95. I guess I am going a little overboard for someone who just tried masterbating for the first time a week ago, but I want an orgasm dammit! I am way over-stressed and think that getting off is the only thing that is going to relax me.

I have had sex with a boyfriend in a long-term relationship, who is now an ex, but I don't think I ever had one. The sex was always felt very good, but I never quite got 'there' before it was over so I am anxously awaiting what an actual mind-blowing orgasm might be like. Also hoping that if I learn with a vibrator that I'll be able to have one the next time I have a partner I just hope my super goal oriented self doesn't try too hard which won't help me to succeed.

I read the web-page on the Sybian and I want one of those too! Who knows maybe I'll plunk down the 1300 - and see it as money better spent on an orgasm nightly than the occasional expensive back massage as my stress reducer. Isn't there some statistic/saying that women who orgasim are less tense, happier more productive people?

Gosh, I sound psycotic - I'm really just an overachiving young women who needs to get off!

 

[sibergal]

Oops forgot to answer...

I just realized I didn't anwer any of cymbidia's questions.

About the G-spot, I, in theory know where it should be - from reading not experience. However what things I have read saying about intially touching it resulting in an urget feeling of needing to pee and of it's location - line up with why I have prefered to be fingered by guys than actually have sex. I think the only times that I have come close to orgasm have been the result of g-spot touching. Very intense, very good feelings, but never any 'explosion' like "oh, there was the orgasm."

I hope that I am not over-estimating the orgasm. I would be disappointed to learn that I have actually had one and that there isn't something estatically better. I have never been to the point where more would not have been better, but when more kept coming it never got better - if that makes sense?

Like maybe I get right to the edge and then something needs to change to go the rest of the way, but I need to figure that out. With guys I escalate to a certain place, then will plateau, after being at the plateu for a while I start to honestly, get bored, and just want to finish him off so he will go away. I am hoping that I can learn, with my new purchases, how to get past the platau in a situation where I don't feel I need to be 'entertaining' another person and can keep going, or where I won't hurt anyone's feelings whenever I do decide to give up for the evening.

 

[Son of a Sailor]

Re: Oops forgot to answer...

I hope that I am not over-estimating the orgasm.

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Honey, don't underestimate the orgasm.

But seriously, now you have some fun toys don't be embarassed to incorporate them into sex with the boyfriend. Some guy's are a little intimidated by them at first, a good tip is don't bring out one that is bigger than he is, we have fragile and delicate egos and may feel a little inadequate. While most guy's may not welcome a buzzing toy up the path less travelled, we are all voyeurs and love to watch a sexy woman pleasure herself, or if he gets there before you he could use it on you to assuage his conscience.

 

[Guest]

Would you like assistance in using the vibrator/dildo.
The market has new products. I recently purchased 3 vibrating dildos. 2 Rubber and 1 cyberskin.
The cyberskin feels so much like the real thing and has variable speed.