Advice for a young male sub and older Dom woman

[smexygirl]

So, I have a young lover who really wants me to be Dom to his Sub. I know what turns him on, wanting to be gagged, blindfolded and restrained. I am quite turned on by this but I have never really been Dominant. My experience is mostly in reading and watching erotica or porn. However, I would love to please him and I think this would be a lot of fun. I am not really sure ow to go about this, so any advice you'd be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!

 

[subwannabe]

Hmmmmmmmmm. Difficult but I'll give it a shot since I am a male who has a lot of sub tendancies. This is kind of like trying to figure out what a kindegardner wants to be when they grow up. Since everyone is so different I'll try to make it simple, based on the very little you have given us. I have never really understood the gagged thing unless it is temporary only. It seems like an open mouth on him would be so useful to a Dom. Maybe he would like to be gagged with a fake cock in his mouth or maybe he wants the gag to keep him quiet while you whip or paddle him. Blindfolded is a nice touch but, in my mind anyway, maybe the main fetish is mostly about the thought that someone else may in the room. Maybe while he is blindfolded you could try convincing him that you have brought in someone else to watch and that he will always be wondering who it was. Maybe you could pre-record someone saying something or making a noise (away from you). He will always wonder if someone else was really there or not and, if so, every time he sees one of your friends, relatives, or co-workers whether that was the one or if it was someone else. Very hot. He may want to be restrained for a variety of reasons. One of them could go along with the gag as a means to keep him quiet and restrained while you whip his ass, or whatever. I would also use the restraints to keep him in place while you keep him hard and begging for relief for as long as time as possible (even a few hours). Of course make sure you use the situation to your advantage to have as many orgasms as you wish. The only other suggestion I can give you is to bark orders out in a sexy manner or tell him in a sexy manner what you are going to do to him. You could also have him tied up, ride him on top until he cums in your pussy, and then move up and make him suck his cum out of you. Have fun.

 

[smexygirl]

Thank you! That is helpful. I really think he just wants someone else to control him and be told what to do. I would love to make him cum in me and make him cum as fast as I could as well as make him wait. I don't know that I'm ready to pretend there is someone else there, and I don't know that he would like that. He probably would but I would be traveling to visit him, so that would be incredibly awkward. I am glad to have a place where I can ask questions. I think the desire for a blindfold is so that he does not know what is going to happen next.

If you have any questions, please ask. The more I learn about this, the better. I want to make sure I am making a responsible decision.

How young is too young? Obviously under 18 isn't ok. Is 18 ok??

 

[Stella_Omega]

I am of two minds on what age is okay.

On the one hand, I knew good and goddamn well what I wanted, long before 18-- and it was a trial and a sorrow to me that I couldn't figure out how to get it.

On the other hand, teens need to learn to make love first, in my humble. It may be that the kind of love they make includes some kinky shit, but you gotta bake the cake before you frost it. Teach your boy how to listen to a woman, how to encourage her to give him clear signs in bed-- and some lucky girl will thank you from the bottom of her heart.

On that note, are you sure that "Dom and sub" are really what you two want? Many guys-- many of all of us-- want to be bottoms, and most of us have never heard of that term. Topping and bottoming are the activities and play that we do together-- Dom and sub are, for some people the personality that goes along with things.

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