RemainingAnon
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Hi everyone, just signed up but I've lurked here on and off for years. When I first started dating I actually came here for gspot fingering tutorials and I think that skill is why I can proudly boast that my girlfriend wants sex as badly if not more so than myself, so big thanks to this forum for that years ago!
Fast forward many many years later and I'm still happily with that same girl but we're going through something of a sexual renaissance and I'm getting kind of lost so I could really use some help. It's a lot of stuff in a lot of different directions so I wasn't sure where to post. Any advice on the topics themselves or what forum I should go to post about it would be very helpful!
Soooooo... here goes, question dump!
1) I've had a great sex life with my girlfriend for years but in the last year or so she's started expressing more and more interest in things that sound like they are leading to mild bdsm stuff. I'm guessing I haven't learned this stuff until now since she's very shy. These things include, in order, spanking, holding her down, holding her throat while having sex, being tied down to the bed, being blindfolded, talking dirty (calling herself my personal slut/slave/whore/etc). She tells me she wants me to take more charge and dominate her and she seems to want to have as little control or pressure to perform as possible. This all honestly came down really fast and I'm not naturally a dominant personality so I'm not sure what to do. I'm expected to lead and control but I don't quite know what I'm doing. She keeps telling me I can do whatever I want to her but I know for a fact that she's not cool with what I want to do (anal) so that sort of breaks the illusion of being the "master." I'm fine that she doesn't want anal, I can suppress my curiosity, but like I said it feels weird to be the "master" with restrictions.
2) In line with the above, she's interested in me purchasing a gag, new lingerie (never bought before), and a dildo for her. The gag seems straight forward, lingerie seems challenging since she has very small breasts and she's told me it can be hard to find stuff that fits, and the dildo I'm all kinds of lost about. I've read around that when buying a dildo for your gf/wife you want to make sure it's smaller than you are, is that a concern? Maybe a small egg vibrator or one of those straight cylindrical dildos would be best?
3) Overall I'm excited and she seems like she's opening up more to new sex stuff faster than ever before. Based on what I've said, anything you might suggest I try?
I don't really have anyone else to talk to about this stuff so it feels really good to get all this off my chest. It all feels a bit overwhelming. Thank you!
Fast forward many many years later and I'm still happily with that same girl but we're going through something of a sexual renaissance and I'm getting kind of lost so I could really use some help. It's a lot of stuff in a lot of different directions so I wasn't sure where to post. Any advice on the topics themselves or what forum I should go to post about it would be very helpful!
Soooooo... here goes, question dump!
1) I've had a great sex life with my girlfriend for years but in the last year or so she's started expressing more and more interest in things that sound like they are leading to mild bdsm stuff. I'm guessing I haven't learned this stuff until now since she's very shy. These things include, in order, spanking, holding her down, holding her throat while having sex, being tied down to the bed, being blindfolded, talking dirty (calling herself my personal slut/slave/whore/etc). She tells me she wants me to take more charge and dominate her and she seems to want to have as little control or pressure to perform as possible. This all honestly came down really fast and I'm not naturally a dominant personality so I'm not sure what to do. I'm expected to lead and control but I don't quite know what I'm doing. She keeps telling me I can do whatever I want to her but I know for a fact that she's not cool with what I want to do (anal) so that sort of breaks the illusion of being the "master." I'm fine that she doesn't want anal, I can suppress my curiosity, but like I said it feels weird to be the "master" with restrictions.
2) In line with the above, she's interested in me purchasing a gag, new lingerie (never bought before), and a dildo for her. The gag seems straight forward, lingerie seems challenging since she has very small breasts and she's told me it can be hard to find stuff that fits, and the dildo I'm all kinds of lost about. I've read around that when buying a dildo for your gf/wife you want to make sure it's smaller than you are, is that a concern? Maybe a small egg vibrator or one of those straight cylindrical dildos would be best?
3) Overall I'm excited and she seems like she's opening up more to new sex stuff faster than ever before. Based on what I've said, anything you might suggest I try?
I don't really have anyone else to talk to about this stuff so it feels really good to get all this off my chest. It all feels a bit overwhelming. Thank you!
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