Advice for a natural submissive

[Tcuster]

Sub girl seeking advice and people to talk with

I've been a submissive girl as long as I can remember. It's just kinda natural for me. I've been on lit for quite some time however this is my first forum. I am excited and hoping to meet some new people but I'm Also seeking advise. See I'm running into some problems with my husband. He was much more dominate when we married and over the years it's just kinda tapered off. Not fully but still, it's been a big difference. I'm just wondering if anyone had any ideas of things I can do to help bring out his more dominate side when we're at home... And I look forward to talking with anyone who chooses to talk with me.

 

[subwannabe]

Have you had a nice honest direct talk with him? Sometimes you just need to lay it out on the line. Sometimes life just catches up with you and you don't have time to smell the roses anymore. Did he actually enjoy it in the past or was he just doing it for you? I have absolutely no idea what your situation is but I will say that I'm married for the second time now and both wives claimed to be submissive and wanting to be my slave (I personally like the reverse also). While I realize that everyone has their limits, likes and dislikes I personally lost interest as they both told me I don't do that, I don't do this, I don't like that and I don't like this. It got to the point where it seemed to me like all I could order them to do was let me fuck them missionary style and I just kind of felt in my own mind, "What was the point?". This probably isn't your problem but the only way to improve your sex life is to talk to him about it honestly and frankly. Do you have any kids? A lot of people lose their kinkiness after having children. Hard to explain to them why they woke up to mommy screaming from being spanked. Another point is there has to be something in it for him. I'm going to just assume that he only does it to please you and doesn't really enjoy it himself so to get him more into it there has to be some kind of reward for him, other than what he is doing to you. Maybe he's got some fantasies of his own that aren't getting fulfilled and wouldn't mind trading your fantasy for experiencing some of his own.

 

[CutieMouse]

Define "natural submissive". What's that look like [to you]?

Define "much more dominant when we were first married" and what "tapered off" means..

Where's the disconnect? What would it take from him, for your to feel more submissive? What would it take from you, for him to feel more dominant? Does he WANT to carry that [dominant] water, or is it something you feel more strongly about than he does? Is it possible that you might have fallen into the (very common, btw) trap that dominants shoulder the burdens, and submissives do what they're told (instead of carrying their own responsibilities)? Sometimes people who appear dominant, seem less so over time because there's too much pressure to live up to the submissive's expectations, and not as much partnership as someone might feel to keep the relationship strong.

(I'm not saying that's what's happened here, just that it happens.)