Advice about new younger lover, please.

[oldmaidlily]

This place (Lit.) is somewhere were you can ask difficult question but it did take some finding. Anyway I finally got here and my apologies if this is not the appropriate forum but fetish and sexuality sounded the most appropriate to me.

I'm in my early sixties and my friend is in his forties. Since we have both had our Covid jabs he's been coming round once or twice a week and we fuck and, after four years with no sex at all, this is simply amazing. What he likes is to have me sit with my legs spread wide, he undresses in front of me, kneels, buries his head under my skirt and then licks me for ages before we go up to bed and I'm definitely not complaining about that.

First he suggested I wear stockings and suspenders to make things easier for him and I didn't mind that at all. Then he asked if I'd mind not showering just before he arrived. I did think it a bit odd, especially as he also wanted me to wear really boring soft cotton panties instead of something sexy. Still, I only showered to be sure I was all clean and fresh for him so if that's what he wanted! Anyway I stopped showering.

Now he's asked if I'd mind skipping my morning shower too, he say he really likes my smell and taste. I'm a bit concerned because I'm no skinny Lizzy and I'm going to be a bit rank and sweaty by then. So, to be blunt, are there other men out there who are into licking an old lady's hairy beaver when it's a bit ripe and sweaty? He's a wonderful lover but I do worry where this is going.

 

[dannyboy1958]

not old

early sixties isnt old, youre at a prime time in your life, learnt a lot about life and know what you like and dislike, as good as the sex is, stick with what you like, if you want to wash, wash, shower, shower, if it makes you feel odd, then it probably is.
Im in my early sixties too and the times that ive had sex "unclean", wasnt pleasant and i remember it for all the wrong reasons.
Remember Lit is place where there are lots of different opinions and people will express them, often very vocally.
As some one said to me once, opinions are like arses, every has one ad there all different.
Stick with what you want, its your life and sex, is sex, someone like you sound will be able to find that anywhere, on your terms.

 

[Jada59]

I'm in my 60's. I've found that most men prefer cotton panties to sexy ones.

 

[ElectricBlue]

First he suggested I wear stockings and suspenders to make things easier for him and I didn't mind that at all. Then he asked if I'd mind not showering just before he arrived. I did think it a bit odd, especially as he also wanted me to wear really boring soft cotton panties instead of something sexy. Still, I only showered to be sure I was all clean and fresh for him so if that's what he wanted! Anyway I stopped showering.

Now he's asked if I'd mind skipping my morning shower too, he say he really likes my smell and taste. I'm a bit concerned because I'm no skinny Lizzy and I'm going to be a bit rank and sweaty by then. So, to be blunt, are there other men out there who are into licking an old lady's hairy beaver when it's a bit ripe and sweaty? He's a wonderful lover but I do worry where this is going.

Go with him until you feel uncomfortable, then stop. And talk to him to establish limits. Surely you've figured that out by now? Communicate, for goodness sake!

 

[oldmaidlily]

Thank you all for all your replies, both here and as messages.

Communication is a good idea in theory, though in practice communicating about sex is not always that straightforward. Embarrassment often results in misunderstandings so it's often very easy to make things worse and relatively difficult to make things better. I did also wonder about what my new partner might be too shy to ask of me. Which leads me to a thank you to the people who sent me personal messages, you have certainly given me food for thought. Some are well worth trying out, others made me realise that not showering for a day could be considered pure vanilla.

Finally, thank you Jada for that reassurance because my bum positively eats thongs which soon feel as if they are flossing all my bits

 

[ishtat]

Your young man is in good company. Napoleon Bonaparte is known to have written to both of his wives, Josephine and Marie Louise, specifically asking them not to wash when he returned home from battle.

That might be a fun introduction to the topic without causing embarrassment.

 

[Sassyunicorn]

As some one said to me once, opinions are like arses, every has one ad there all different.

I always heard this as "opinions are like assholes (American), everyone has one and they all stink.

OP has received some good advice, so all I'll say is don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. Your body, your rules.

 

[gregy70]

I can understand him liking the smell and taste when you arn’t so freshly showered as I too like the scent and taste in the same way.