adequate lover needs womens advice

[portal65]

I'm a mature male and feel I'm at least an adequate lover since I've never had any complaints. I know the difference between a grope and a caress, and the importance of going slowly. I can bring a woman to orgasm, no problem. But I want to know how to keep her right on the edge of orgasm. Making her pleasure last as long as possible. I'd appreciate any advice, comments, or techniques from the sexually adept women on this forum.

Post so all us guys can learn or email me privately.
portal65@yahoo.com

 

[LedAstray]

Take ALLLL day

For one thing, start in the morning while you're still in bed. Kiss her, caress her, but nothing else. If you don't live with a woman, give her a sensual wake up phone call and talk in a soft voice. Call her off and on throughout the day, send a sexy e-mail, stimulate her mind. Give her a preview of things to come -- build up the anticipation.

When you're together again, gaze into her eyes. Don't go to her -- make her come to you. Tease her. Once you're in bed (or on the floor or on the kitchen counter, or in the shower LOL), gently touch her everywhere, except where she wants it most. Give her an erotic massage. When you finally do touch her pussy, only do it when she asks (or begs and pleads). Bring her to the point of orgasm, then back off. Do that a couple of times and when she finally does have one, it'll be a doozy.

Works for me

 

[cyndiesweet]

Re: Take ALLLL day

For one thing, start in the morning while you're still in bed. Kiss her, caress her, but nothing else. If you don't live with a woman, give her a sensual wake up phone call and talk in a soft voice. Call her off and on throughout the day, send a sexy e-mail, stimulate her mind. Give her a preview of things to come -- build up the anticipation.

When you're together again, gaze into her eyes. Don't go to her -- make her come to you. Tease her. Once you're in bed (or on the floor or on the kitchen counter, or in the shower LOL), gently touch her everywhere, except where she wants it most. Give her an erotic massage. When you finally do touch her pussy, only do it when she asks (or begs and pleads). Bring her to the point of orgasm, then back off. Do that a couple of times and when she finally does have one, it'll be a doozy.

Works for me

I second that.

 

[LadyTabitha]

I third the motion.......anticipation is one of the best aphrodisiacs.

 

[Guest]

Thanks ladies...
I know slow is best, but while being attentive to my partners needs I become so aroused it's difficult to maintain my calm demeanor without exploding.

portal65

 

[HiJincs]

I just read this somewhere recently.

"Men want sex to feel intimacy, women want intimacy to feel sexy"

It's true, while there are grls out there that like rough and tumble sex, it's your ability to show and convey a true sense of intimacy that makes them feel sexy and trust you. Trust is the key to a women's ability to feel and act sexy. If the they feel and act sexy, they will be open towards letting themselves go. If they let themselves go, then it's "Katie, bar the door"

I can talk all day about this, but I realize I have drifted away from the topic.

LedAstray offered some pretty good advice.

 

[cyndiesweet]

I just read this somewhere recently.

"Men want sex to feel intimacy, women want intimacy to feel sexy"

It's true. Kind of a cruel joke huh?

 

[HiJincs]

Nah, not really. It's similar to another one I heard.

"women choose men hoping to change them and they can't,
Men choose women hoping they never change and they always do"

I think it all just means that we need to understand what drives the other sex and try to satisfy that desire. If both people in a relationship do that, then we all live happily every after.

Too often, we give the other person what we think they want based on what we need and expect them to be happy. We never try to find out what they want or need.

They toughest part of it all is many people will say one thing and actually mean something else. Or worse, they don't know what they want.

 

[cyndiesweet]

They toughest part of it all is many people will say one thing and actually mean something else.

I do this all the time but not on purpose. I just talk from my frame of reference and don't realize how it comes out until I have already pissed someone off. I don't mean to piss them off at all.

I think women speak in a diffeent language sometimes too. I can say to my HB if he is really late getting home "why didn't you call me to tell me you were late" and be pissy the rest of the night to him. I really mean I was worrried about you and you scared me . Stupid huh?

 

[Lorindellia]

Thanks ladies...
I know slow is best, but while being attentive to my partners needs I become so aroused it's difficult to maintain my calm demeanor without exploding.

portal65

Ahh, see my other post under "Need advice from happily married men"

This is a serious issue. When the act of pleasuring your woman, is such a turn on to you, guys, what do you do? What can we ladies do, to prevent that explosion from happening before we are ready for it?

Of course the worst thing to do is to not enjoy yourself fully, or not let him know how good he is making you feel, whith his hands or his face where you like it most... (or whatever turns you on)... I think though we are often tricked into holding ourselves back because we do not want to do anything to make him cum, after all, if we do he might stop doing that thing that we love and are so into at the moment. Almost a catch 22.

We got a prescription for Viagra and yes, that helped. However I'd like to think that we can enjoy ourselves spontainously without having to remember to take a pill an hour before, not to mention what if something happens and we are unable to get together??? Does he have to run around with a hard on all evening?

There has to be a technique that men can use, women can use to prevent premature ejaculation, (premature in that we both want to keep on for a while). Tell us. What is that techinque?

Yours for the Moment,
Lorin'

 

[portal65]

Thanks Lorin'
You hit it right on the head. Nothing excites me more than to see my partner becoming excited by what I am doing to her. I try to pay close attention to all the signals. Her breathing, muscular twitches and spasms, flushed skin, etc. As I become aroused to the point of orgasm it's difficult to focus on Baseball scores, the multiplication tables or other mental distractions and still keep my partner at the level of sexual excitement I've worked to get her to.

portal65

 

[cyndiesweet]

Here's something that works for us but you have to do it very carefully. When he is about to cum hold firmly to the base of his shaft and use your thumb to compress the underside of his penis. It is probably better if he does it. He will know how hard to compress better than you. Don't stimulate him at all during this time or fow a few minutes after he finally releases his penis or it won't work. If you do it right he will orgasm but he won't ejaculate and his penis will stay erect. It isn't fail proof but it does work most of the time.

 

[Lorindellia]

Another Question

Here's something that works for us but you have to do it very carefully. When he is about to cum hold firmly to the base of his shaft and use your thumb to compress the underside of his penis. It is probably better if he does it. He will know how hard to compress better than you. Don't stimulate him at all during this time or fow a few minutes after he finally releases his penis or it won't work. If you do it right he will orgasm but he won't ejaculate and his penis will stay erect. It isn't fail proof but it does work most of the time.

Okay any Med types know why this works? and also, is that the same thing a cock ring does?

Yours for the Moment,
Lorin'

 

[sweetpeaz321]

Making her pleasure last as long as possible.

Seduce her body AND mind.
A hot bubble bath, sensuous massage, stawberries....
Silk scarves gently binding her wrists and trailing over her whole body.
A warm liquid slowly poured over her.
Running your body over hers, barely touching...
Enter her just slightly, pulling away as she lifts her pelvis towards you. Lots of deep french kisses, nibbles.
Oh yeah, if cumming too soon is a problem, you could masterbate an hour or two before hand.
AND- while I 2nd, 3rd and 4th the advice on bringing her to an orgasmic peak and stopping, I have found that if that goes on for too long she'll 'misfire' and end up with a crappy orgasm.

 

[cyndiesweet]

Okay any Med types know why this works? and also, is that the same thing a cock ring does?

I don't know either but I would like to. Anyone?

 

[LedAstray]

True!

while I 2nd, 3rd and 4th the advice on bringing her to an orgasmic peak and stopping, I have found that if that goes on for too long she'll 'misfire' and end up with a crappy orgasm.

Or even worse than a crappy orgasm, there have been times where it's just pretty frustrating and I lose interest altogether and have no orgasm at all.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Re: Take ALLLL day

For one thing, start in the morning while you're still in bed. Kiss her, caress her, but nothing else. If you don't live with a woman, give her a sensual wake up phone call and talk in a soft voice. Call her off and on throughout the day, send a sexy e-mail, stimulate her mind. Give her a preview of things to come -- build up the anticipation.

When you're together again, gaze into her eyes. Don't go to her -- make her come to you. Tease her. Once you're in bed (or on the floor or on the kitchen counter, or in the shower LOL), gently touch her everywhere, except where she wants it most. Give her an erotic massage. When you finally do touch her pussy, only do it when she asks (or begs and pleads). Bring her to the point of orgasm, then back off. Do that a couple of times and when she finally does have one, it'll be a doozy.

Works for me

ooooo stop!