Addicted to sex

[Bigboobbabe]

I struggle with this phrase and I am curious to hear other's comments.

My husband recently discovered my affair and my enjoyment of posts and PM's. I tried to equate it to his DVD's, photo collection, etc.

But he believes I am addicted and it's a bad thing.

Thoughts?

 

[HoldYouDown]

I struggle with this phrase and I am curious to hear other's comments.

My husband recently discovered my affair and my enjoyment of posts and PM's. I tried to equate it to his DVD's, photo collection, etc.

But he believes I am addicted and it's a bad thing.

Thoughts?

I'm no doctor but do you do it for enjoyment or out of compulsion?

Only you know for sure if you're truly addicted.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I'm no doctor but do you do it for enjoyment or out of compulsion?

Only you know for sure if you're truly addicted.

Enjoyment. If a chat or email isn't fun, I drop it.
I love watching men stroke and cum.
He loves watching breasts bounce.

Seems the same to me.

 

[MatureChattyMann]

Enjoyment. If a chat or email isn't fun, I drop it.
I love watching men stroke and cum.
He loves watching breasts bounce.

Seems the same to me.

It does seem comparable.

Just because you enjoy something doesn't make it an addiction does it, even if you enjoy plenty of it!

 

[HoldYouDown]

I love watching men stroke and cum.
He loves watching breasts bounce.

Seems the same to me.

Perhaps you can combine your interests?

 

[Rosa2019]

i wouldn't call it an addiction as long as you feel healthy physically and mentally. Once you feel uncomfortable in anyway you'll need to make an adjustment.

Arguing with him on what he thinks may not do any good for your relationship.

 

[Loveitdady]

Enjoyment. If a chat or email isn't fun, I drop it.
I love watching men stroke and cum.
He loves watching breasts bounce.

Seems the same to me.

It is the same...only problem is you have not caught him... Even though he just watched boobs, I bet he does more than that.. I would be glad to say I was addicted to sex and love seeing a man jacking off...

 

[gregy70]

Addiction or not , he is very lucky to to have a wife with a healthy appetite for sexual things

 

[Wilson Spalding]

Gonna have to face it, you're addicted to...

I struggle with this phrase and I am curious to hear other's comments.

My husband recently discovered my affair and my enjoyment of posts and PM's. I tried to equate it to his DVD's, photo collection, etc.

But he believes I am addicted and it's a bad thing.

Thoughts?

First of all, after you finished laughing in his face, did you do a count on those DVDs, pics and so on? Was he actually serious when he said you were addicted? <drum roll> Are you addicted?

Hey, unless you ask and answer yourself honestly, you just don't know.

If we take it apart, though, there are a couple of things that shove this from a hobby to an addiction:

1. Compulsive participation or engagement, and
2. Doing so despite negative consequences.

So:

1. If you want/need to get something else done, can you put the posts and PMs away until an appropriate time?
2. Are you compelled to engage in [that activity] despite personal and professional risks, especially if those risks are actually realized (like losing a job)?

If you answer yes to one of them, you're at risk. If you answer yes to both of them, call Dr. Palmer, you're addicted to loooooove.

If you're in the clear, is it that he feels threatened or is perhaps projecting his own addiction onto you?

I do hope you clear up the misunderstanding. If you can unpack your respective kinks, you got the possibility of bringing them together a healthy relationship (in a shared-kink sorta fashion).

 

[Ziggins]

You could offer to stop posting here for as long as he stops watching porn. He might last a few days.

 

[Hans101]

The only problem I see is that your sexual interests and activities are focused on strangers instead of each other.

You like watching men masturbate and orgasm? He can give you that anytime you want.

He likes watching breasts bounce? You have two of them.

You're a married couple. You should be fucking each other's brains out every chance you get.

 

[Kitschshaman]

I struggle with this phrase and I am curious to hear other's comments.

My husband recently discovered my affair and my enjoyment of posts and PM's. I tried to equate it to his DVD's, photo collection, etc.

But he believes I am addicted and it's a bad thing.

Thoughts?

My own thought?...an affair is one thing and that's so individual that a reasonable answer cannot be given without being given particulars of whether you're in love, etc. As to posts and pms and sex chat vs DVD's and porn collections, pm's and sex chat are, when you think of of realistically, are a sort of interactive erotica. It's not a threat to your relationship with your hubby, it's just fun...
that's my two cents, anyway.

 

[dave's thing]

Enjoyment. If a chat or email isn't fun, I drop it.
I love watching men stroke and cum.
He loves watching breasts bounce.

Seems the same to me.

Seems totally the same to me and very contracting of anyone who thinks not

 

[Carnevil9]

You've been a bad girl. Go to my room.

 

[TheShez]

I struggle with this phrase and I am curious to hear other's comments.

My husband recently discovered my affair and my enjoyment of posts and PM's. I tried to equate it to his DVD's, photo collection, etc.

But he believes I am addicted and it's a bad thing.

Thoughts?

Most men are grotesque things. Full of hypocrisy. If you had no interest in sex he would whine about that also.
You do you gorgeous. Be happy!

 

[FGB]

I struggle with this phrase and I am curious to hear other's comments.

My husband recently discovered my affair and my enjoyment of posts and PM's. I tried to equate it to his DVD's, photo collection, etc.

But he believes I am addicted and it's a bad thing.

Thoughts?

Well, I am a Sexaholic so...

A person who is addicted to sex.

https://www.sa.org/

 

[ApprehensiveSon]

It seems like it’s all been said already but I don’t think your husband is telling you what he really thinks. I suspect he may have something he is hiding that he doesn’t like about what you are doing, whether it’s jealousy or just generally being uncomfortable. If you can step away then you are not addicted. However maybe he thinks it’s an addiction because he doesn’t feel like he is getting enough attention?

 

[30bandits]

join the club...

 

[fuckkeds]

Well, I am a Sexaholic so...

A person who is addicted to sex.

https://www.sa.org/

I'm glad .FGB posted the SA link. That was going to be my comment. Look over what SA describes as Sex Addiction anf compare. I am a proud participant in SA. IMHO, your hubby is being a hypocrite

 

[TheUmp]

The yardstick for addiction,
Have you ever sucked cock to get what your addicted to?
Oh wait, that might not be the yardstick in this case.
Sorry

 

[WatchedBeth]

Affair?

Strikes me that your biggest issue is not whether your addicted or not. You had an affair. You got caught. Sounds like trouble ahead to me.

 

[JenniferSimms]

I don't know if I'm a sex addict or just someone who loves sex. I spend way too much time masturbating and thinking about sex. Before all this COVID shit I fucked a lot of guys but it never seemed to be enough. Now I'm going crazy. Thank god for sex toys, porn, and the building super!

 

[CuttingEdge]

There is a huge difference between sex addiction and the consequences for getting caught for cheating, and I am sorry you reached the point in your marriage where you were isolated enough so you felt cheating was best, and wish you all the best as you navigate the waters ahead, whether it be through reconciliation with your husband, or divorce.

I am not sure us men really know the damage we do to our wives and marriage regarding looking at pornography, as I am sure it is demoralizing for a wife.

I know having a wife that cheated on me, hurt as well, but I also understand how I could have been a much better husband.

But I did read an article once on a woman that was addicted to sex, and maybe it was just over the top, but it took a lot of therapy for her to overcome it.

Again, I wish you the best on whatever avenue you take.

 

[Ironfan]

I struggle with this phrase and I am curious to hear other's comments.

My husband recently discovered my affair and my enjoyment of posts and PM's. I tried to equate it to his DVD's, photo collection, etc.

But he believes I am addicted and it's a bad thing.

Thoughts?

I wonder if part of his problem is that yours is a bit more personal, you're actually intereact with a person. His collection of dvd's/photos etc is purely a passive thing?

 

[davenjenn]

I don't know if I'm a sex addict or just someone who loves sex. I spend way too much time masturbating and thinking about sex. Before all this COVID shit I fucked a lot of guys but it never seemed to be enough. Now I'm going crazy. Thank god for sex toys, porn, and the building super!

You can never have enough dear. I have a hubby, but need plenty of others too -- it's not an addiction, it's fun.

Greetings from one Jennifer to another