Accepted -- Tolerated -- Rejected

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Whatever you do, wherever you go, do people:

Accept and welcome you?

Tolerate you and respond only in a way they are somehow required or obligated to?

Reject and/or ignore you?
 
It depends on the role you adopt in particular situations.

One individual could encounter all three attitudes within a single day - e.g. accepted as a parent; tolerated as a relation; rejected as a person seeking credit...

You can add - vilified as a white patriarchal male and oppressor for refusing to buy his granddaughter a pink doll. :rolleyes:
 
I am generally accepted and welcomed. But then I am generally accepting and welcoming. I typically have a smile on my face when dealing with people in the public sphere. I speak directly to them, make eye contact and make it a point to be pleasant.

Of course this isn't 100%, but probably easily 85-90%.

However if I want to be left alone - and sometimes I do - the best way is to act as if other people don't exist. No eye contact, have my resting bitch face and no engagement with them.

I have found for the most part it is how I act that determines how I am received. Sometimes it doesn't matter, but that is limited to a few circumstances. And most of the time, on the other person's mood, personality, situation etc. - things I am not in control of.
 
I can't say whether or not other people accept me. I always have a hard time believing they do.
 
Frequently accepted. Occasionally tolerated. Rarely rejected. Or so it seems.
 
None of that ever occurs to me. Professionally and socially I treat people with respect, if it isn't reciprocated I have nothing more to do with those people or organizations. I only cultivate personal relationships with people I want to be around. I don't much care what other people think or do. Everyone is different with their own points of view and characteristics. This simple knowledge keeps me from living my life worried about the kinds of concerns mentioned in the OP.
 
Whatever you do, wherever you go, do people:

Accept and welcome you?

Tolerate you and respond only in a way they are somehow required or obligated to?

Reject and/or ignore you?

Most don't pay no never mind to me until I open my mouth. Then half accept and welcome me while the other half boo's and throws rocks. A smile and a pat from one side and venom and eyeball daggers from the other. Aw well, so it is and so it goes.


Comshaw
 
I've had this thing where I'll ask somebody a legitimate question and I'll just get no response. Nothing. As if I'm not even in the same room. Not even a 'fuck off and die'.
 
Did it sound as rehearsed as that, when you were being interviewed about the findings in your MMPI?

That's funny.

You don't seem to have an easy time with other people. No reason for you to feel jealous of those of us who do. Just do you.
 
I've had this thing where I'll ask somebody a legitimate question and I'll just get no response. Nothing. As if I'm not even in the same room. Not even a 'fuck off and die'.

Sometimes that has happened to me. I usually make it a point to repeat myself, more clearly and with a bit more volume and presence. Some people are either morons or assholes.
 
I think in most circles I was/am, Id like to think because I was generally accepting of other people regardless of who they were , their background, story ect was, i took them at face value of what they were as a person.
Of course, not everybody is going to like you and some people seem to dislike you for no reason whatsoever..
 
That's funny.

You don't seem to have an easy time with other people. No reason for you to feel jealous of those of us who do. Just do you.

It is funny. It is almost word-for-word the phrasing from an MMPI. Such phrasing was not invented in a vacumn. Someone, somewhere expressed that sentiment and the phrase was picked up by the developers of the MMPI.

Somewhere, someone feels just as Stuart Smalley's affirmations, as well.

Sounds healthy. Enjoy.
 
It is funny. It is almost word-for-word the phrasing from an MMPI. Such phrasing was not invented in a vacumn. Someone, somewhere expressed that sentiment and the phrase was picked up by the developers of the MMPI.

Somewhere, someone feels just as Stuart Smalley's affirmations, as well.

Sounds healthy. Enjoy.

I googled MMPI after seeing your last post although it was obviously some sort of personality inventory. Relax with your insinuations. Does trolling strangers on this site make you feel like a big man? Do what you need to do. No sweat off my back.

What is a vacumn?
 
I googled MMPI after seeing your last post although it was obviously some sort of personality inventory. Relax with your insinuations. Does trolling strangers on this site make you feel like a big man? Do what you need to do. No sweat off my back.

What is a vacumn?

Insinuations?

"Sounds healthy, enjoy."

Do you often have these feelings of persecution?
 
I have outlived most of those in positions to accept, tolerate, or reject me.

And I really don't give a rat's ass about who may now react to me.

So there.
 
Almost always, people accept me. It often becomes an issue because people want way more interaction and contact than I am willing to give..... I am a bit of a loner, happy in my own company, and a lot of people seem to think I must be lonely or bored and become a bit intrusive in their desire to see me interact more.
I have far more acceptance in r/l than I do here.
 
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