Aaaaaaarrrrggggh!!!

[warrior queen]

Mama arrived on Saturday.
Today is Wednesday.
EVERY SINGLE FLAT SURFACE OF MY HOME HAS LITLE PILES OF CRAP ON IT!!!

I have a deep brain ache.

 

[Hard_Rom]

Staying long?

 

[warrior queen]

Staying long?

My dear Mama is here for a month.
A MONTH!!!

It has been 5 days, and I am well on my way to kicking puppies

 

[nerfhearder]

I'd give my left nut for my mother to stay one night. Don't complain.

 

[warrior queen]

I'd give my left nut for my mother to stay one night. Don't complain.

Your mother likely wasn't a hoarder.

P.S. I am sorry for your loss

 

[Colonel Hogan]

What would happen if you threw the piles out? It's your house. You're "just cleaning up." If there are things SHE wants to keep, what is wrong with insisting that she keep them in whatever room she is staying? Why not designate a place for her obsession and make HER responsible for maintaining it? If you continue to ALLOW her to disrespect YOUR home, you only have yourself to blame.

 

[warrior queen]

What would happen if you threw the piles out? It's your house. You're "just cleaning up." If there are things SHE wants to keep, what is wrong with insisting that she keep them in whatever room she is staying? Why not designate a place for her obsession and make HER responsible for maintaining it? If you continue to ALLOW her to disrespect YOUR home, you only have yourself to blame.

I have said exactly that from minute one since she arrived.
Unfortunately, you don't know my Mama
I threw out one small pile of stuff on Sunday.
She hasn't finished telling me off yet.

I may start drinking.
That way, I won't give a shit.

 

[warrior queen]

Oops, double post.

See? The madness has begun to manifest itself

 

[nerfhearder]

Your mother likely wasn't a hoarder.

P.S. I am sorry for your loss

No she was a mean old bat that most times I didn't want in my house. Now I do.
See what I mean?

 

[Hard_Rom]

You can chose your friends...

And what nerf said.

Me and my brother would bicker and argue much of the time. Fuck I miss him.

Think of it as a character building exercise. Every 5 seconds.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

I have said exactly that from minute one since she arrived.
Unfortunately, you don't know my Mama
I threw out one small pile of stuff on Sunday.
She hasn't finished telling me off yet.

I may start drinking.
That way, I won't give a shit.

I would love to hear that argument. Was it that you threw away HER stuff? YOU don't know HOW to live, therefore SHE has the right to come in every few years and right YOUR ship?

I'm not ignorant of the volatility of family dynamics, therefore if I can assume you are not persuaded by her rationale, I have to assume you are knuckling under to the volume or the simple fact that the bully in this scenario just happens to be your mother.

I don't have to know her. But I kind of know you, and this doesn't sound like the Taz bitch I know who flings venomous snakes out of her backyard with her bare hands or kicks roos in the nuts who dare raid her garden.

What's really going on here, though I sort of get the idea?

 

[neci]

i leave piles everywhere. if it bothers you either create a box for her, where you can deposit her crap when it gets to you, or talk to her about your "house rules." i say, give the mama a break and put her name on a box.

 

[Noor]

i leave piles everywhere. if it bothers you either create a box for her, where you can deposit her crap when it gets to you, or talk to her about your "house rules." i say, give the mama a break and put her name on a box.

Boxes or bags. Bag it and label it and put them in her room.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Let's put a positive spin on it! She's only visiting for a month, and five of those days are already gone!!!

Quit worrying about the piles, try to enjoy the time. Take her out on day trips if you can, then she won't be home to make piles.

Remember that the piles can be removed after she is gone. Don't allow the little things to steal your joy.

One thing I did to improve my relationship with my mother was grab her and hug her everyday when she least expected it and told her, 'I love you'. You will see a difference in both of you at the end of her short stay.

 

[Christobal]

I can't help but wonder. Did you know how long she would stay? Did you know she was messy?

 

[OldJourno]

Had a hoarding relative. She had a three-room apartment I helped clean up.
We had to get an offloaded container about three times the size of a dumpster from the city. We didn't fill it, but we did go through two big boxes of Glad bags, about 150 of them, to empty the place out.

 

[warrior queen]

I can't help but wonder. Did you know how long she would stay? Did you know she was messy?

Yes to both.
But as I am the only surviving child, and my kids are her only grandkids (plus the 2 great-grandkids!) I have to let this happen at least once a year because Mama lives on the other side of Australia.

I love her dearly.
Doesn't mean I enjoy the clutter!

 

[pensivepoet]

A month, eh?
Lol
How many years did she put up with your piles of crap, when she wasn't feeding you and changing your diaper?
You'll survive and may even miss her when she's gone.
Good luck

 

[Christobal]

Yes to both.
But as I am the only surviving child, and my kids are her only grandkids (plus the 2 great-grandkids!) I have to let this happen at least once a year because Mama lives on the other side of Australia.

I love her dearly.
Doesn't mean I enjoy the clutter!

I will explain my annoying zen to you. If you know what you are getting into relax and enjoy it. For me it only makes it much worse when I know what a person will do and the get frustrated about it anyway. That makes it about me and not them. It's my problem and I am inflicting it on myself.

 

[warrior queen]

I will explain my annoying zen to you. If you know what you are getting into relax and enjoy it. For me it only makes it much worse when I know what a person will do and the get frustrated about it anyway. That makes it about me and not them. It's my problem and I am inflicting it on myself.

Well, duh
But it just so happens that I have OCD about STUFF, and she has a hoarding problem that compells her to collect stuff.
Between the two of us this creates issues - despite the love.

 

[Christobal]

Well, duh
But it just so happens that I have OCD about STUFF, and she has a hoarding problem that compells her to collect stuff.
Between the two of us this creates issues - despite the love.

well duh. I get it. Do want to be happy or right? The situation has come to pass by your own decision. I know it's hard but the more you let it get to you the harder it will be. I have my own mental problems. I have to decide my battles.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

i leave piles everywhere. if it bothers you either create a box for her, where you can deposit her crap when it gets to you, or talk to her about your "house rules." i say, give the mama a break and put her name on a box.

a coffin?

 

[neci]

a coffin?

i wouldn't trust her near the cubans.

 

[Que]

i leave piles everywhere. if it bothers you either create a box for her, where you can deposit her crap when it gets to you, or talk to her about your "house rules." i say, give the mama a break and put her name on a box.

"We're gonna need a bigger box." -Jaws

 

[jaF0]

Find a plot in the yard.

Dig a hole.

Stack the dirt neatly on top

Of 'Mama'

and put her name on a box.

Or on a plaque.

On top of the dirt.