A Virgin's Fears

[Desert Rat]

...and a question in prefrence.

I've heard from a lot of different people, a lot of different things about having sex for the first time. I'm a normal guy with normal interests, but I'm also somewhat of an introvert, so I never get the chance to meet girls. In the past few months, I've lost a good amount of weight, and gained a good amount of muscle. I also start college next month.

I'm pretty sure I'll be hooking up with someone in the following months, I'm a pretty nice guy. The only questions I have are on performance. For me, sex seems like something I want to make the woman enjoy more, seeing as self-gratification is something I can do if I'm not satisfied. I get the feeling i'll enjoy seeing her content, then I will seeing myself get off, and I want to make it a rule never to end a session of passion before she gets off at least twice.

I have a lot of questions about oral sex in general. I've been told by some guys that everything I need to know, I can learn from porn, but I've seen a few, and it looks so fake.

I've heard that covering her mound with your mouth, and humming is something women enjoy, but how is it done? Do I use my tougne while humming?

I've heard that women enjoy having a mate draw the alphabet with thier tounge, but is this done inside the vagaia, or outside around the labia?

Do women really enjoy it when men flick their tounge across the lips like they always do in porn?

Also, what are some other erogenous zones other than the genitals, nipples, breasts, and face? What are some techniques on manipulating those zones?

Last but not least, does anyone know of a website, or literature where I can go to read about this stuff? I really want to be able to make the girl moan, and make it as enjoyable as ever for her, becuase that's something that I think would make me happy.

What do you guys think?

 

[metal_minx]

i have a similar question..only sexes reverse..how do guys like blowjobs?

 

[madelaine angel]

IMHO don't hum cos i'd start laughing.
start off gently round the clit cos they're very sensitive,
and i reckon that once you;ve got your face buried down their for the first time the last thing that you'll want to think about is which letter of the alphabet that you've got to!

Have you tried searching the how to board for answers, ive occasionally found that helpful.

 

[mistressastra]

Hopefully you'll find a woman who is willing to tell you what SHE likes. Lucky her since you sound like a generous lover.

 

[J.B.]

...and a question in prefrence.

I've heard from a lot of different people, a lot of different things about having sex for the first time. I'm a normal guy with normal interests, but I'm also somewhat of an introvert, so I never get the chance to meet girls. In the past few months, I've lost a good amount of weight, and gained a good amount of muscle. I also start college next month.

Dude with this. just have faith in your self. But please don't go & act all fake. Be yourself if you're by nature an introvert then be one. you have no idea how many of us find that sexy.

<snip>For me, sex seems like something I want to make the woman enjoy more, seeing as self-gratification is something I can do if I'm not satisfied. I get the feeling i'll enjoy seeing her content, then I will seeing myself get off, and I want to make it a rule never to end a session of passion before she gets off at least twice.

If you do this yo won't be alone for long.

I have a lot of questions about oral sex in general. I've been told by some guys that everything I need to know, I can learn from porn, but I've seen a few, and it looks so fake.

F.Y.I. porn is fake. Asking question is a good start, but every girl is different. So find out from her too about what she likes. Personally like a lot of attention & the unexpected. a nibble here. a kiss there. a light scrape of the teeth.

The humming & alphabet thing. Sounds a bit juvinile to me. but like I said everyone has different tastes

Do women really enjoy it when men flick their tounge across the lips like they always do in porn?

Yes! especially over the clit.

Also, what are some other erogenous zones other than the genitals, nipples, breasts, and face? What are some techniques on manipulating those zones?

The entire body is our erogenous zone. it's all in how you touch. If you want to make an impression don't head straight for the ovious ones. (breast, mound, etc) try the neck, shoulders, lips, fingers, the palm of her hand (a very sensitive area), her wrist, any place unexpected.

Last but not least, does anyone know of a website, or literature where I can go to read about this stuff? I really want to be able to make the girl moan, and make it as enjoyable as ever for her, becuase that's something that I think would make me happy.
What do you guys think?

Lit. oh & Romance novels, hey they're written by horny women for horny romantic women. you do the math.
If you want to talk or have questions just PM me.
Good luck!
JB

 

[Private Vasquez]

hold your tongue and say 'purse' you shoud do alright

 

[YogiBare]

Rat, we have definitely got to talk!

I appreciate your openness and your honesty.

I'll give you a proper response here after I've slept.

 

[Desert Rat]

Thanks for the great replies, everyone.

I'm still a newbie here, but I'm looking forward to getting into some trouble. *Grins*

 

[DéjàNu]

have you try the How to board?

they gives a lot of informations down there.

 

[Desert Rat]

Thanks for the great replies, everyone.

I'm still a newbie here, but I'm looking forward to getting into some trouble. *Grins*

I'll give that a shot.

 

[APhil]

i have a similar question..only sexes reverse..how do guys like blowjobs?

Personally, I like slow, luxurious oral sex. Gentle sucking, sliding the tongue around the head, kisses down the side...
It's not all about deep throating. I mean, yeah it's a great party trick, but it's useless otherwise (for me anyway). There has to be some motion to stimulate the nerve endings.


Dammit, I need one.

 

[dreamer]

Ahhh, back to my How To board standard reply:

Talk to her!! Hopefully you can find someone that you'll be comfortable with and she you. If not it's just about a quicky anyhow so technique probably doesn't matter as much (never been in that position myself.) I'm personally a big proponent of the 'longer' relationship. It really gives an oportunity to add emotion to sex, and communication to sex, and basically has more pros to cons in my mind.

Women are all so gloriously different. Talk to her, share with her, and 'listen' to her actions, sounds, movements.

Good luck, and enjoy college. Stay safe.

 

[juicygirl]

Dear Sir,

Listen to Jailbait she obviously knows where of she speaks. I personally like to start with the thighs, a nibble here a nibble there. Make your approach slow and steady and drive her nuts. Lick and nibble all the way up and besides the clit be sure to penetrate and get the inside of the lips. You may also wish to engage her breasts while you do this . . . mostly just ask her.


On the subject of blowjobs, do you prefer if the girl swallows or you spurt on her face?

 

[Private Vasquez]

say mother may I, and then spell cup...that'll get her right in the sack

 

[RhumbRunner13]

Desert Rat....

IMHO all your instincts are right!

Find a lady you truely respect and can love. Be honest, open, gentel, and take your time. As JailBait says, the entire female body is an erogenous zone, but none so much as the mind! Gain trust, comfort and desire before the first touch, let her lead the touching but follow closely. Don't get caught up in numbers, I've known women who might only come once, and some who come once every ten seconds!

If you go down to the U of A, expect them to "Mooo" more than "Moan"!

Go Devils

RhumbRunner
BS '70

 

[Cirrus]

There are so few guys like you around, you should make some lucky lady a fine lover. Here's a few pointers on what I personally like....but keep in mind every woman's body is different.

There are some women like me with hyper-sensitive clits. While this may sound like a great thing, it isn't always. Too much stimulation can and does hurt. In fact, I almost can't stand to have my clit touched directly. So start out very VERY softly, almost so that your tongue isn't touching her at all. She WILL feel it. If she's a little less sensitive and wants more pressure, rest assured she'll let you know somehow.

I don't like my partner to cover my vagina or clit with is mouth entirely...for me it kills the sensation.

Hopefully you'll be with someone as open as you are, and you can always ask. Tell her to let you know what she likes, verbally or non-verbally. Some people, men and women, don't like to "give instructions" to their lovers, and would rather just guide them to what feels the best. But definitely let her know that you want to please her and are open to suggestions. If you feel comfortable enough to tell her that you're not very experienced, that might help out too. But that's not necessary...

 

[gridiron]

Desert Rat..

Well.. As the women have kindly pointed out, you're well on your way to learning what it takes to please a woman by means other than intercourse..

A few tips & pointers..

In my previous experiences with women, I have found that you can't spend enough time kissing.. It's a great way to build the fire.. Even better, while you're kissing her, gently trace your fingertips over her soft skin.. If you do it right, you might feel her shiver slightly.. Also, try cupping, massaging, or caressing her breasts while you kiss her.. Be nice to her nipples, as they tend to become quite tender when she's aroused.. Lastly, experiment with running a single finger along the length of her pussy lips, intermittently dipping the digit into the first or second knuckle.. Don't be afraid to use your fingers.. They possess a great range of motion, and once you discover the spots inside the vagina where she responds the most, alternate your attack - intensity, speed, etc.

When it comes to oral sex, you can never go wrong by paying attention to the clit.. Gently swipe the tip of your tongue over the hood, coaxing the sensitive nub out of hiding.. I guarantee she'll go ecstatic from that maneuver alone.. After you've targeted her clitoris, spend some time dipping your tongue into her slit.. Stiffen it slightly so you can achieve penetration, then once inside, curl it upward so as you can seek out her G-spot.. Once you find it, try fluttering the tip against the G-spot.. Better yet, gently massage her clit with your fingers as you do this.. I can almost guarantee she'll be putty in your hands afterwards..

So there you have it.. There really aren't any set routines that apply to oral sex - for the most part, it's just improvisation.. Gives you a chance to create your own style.. Just take things slow, enjoy her body, and don't be afraid to experiment..

-Grid

 

[MechaBlade]

Re: Re: A Virgin's Fears

Dude with this. just have faith in your self. But please don't go & act all fake. Be yourself if you're by nature an introvert then be one. you have no idea how many of us find that sexy.

Nah, you'll do better in college and in obtaining women if you try and come out of your shell and become social. Very few find the introvert sexy, and I'm just being real. As for being fake? Whatever works.


Most of jail's other info was right.

 

[metal_minx]

Personally, I like slow, luxurious oral sex. Gentle sucking, sliding the tongue around the head, kisses down the side...
It's not all about deep throating. I mean, yeah it's a great party trick, but it's useless otherwise (for me anyway). There has to be some motion to stimulate the nerve endings.


Dammit, I need one.

thanks for the info...

 

[Ballboy]

Desert Rat

A few suggestions for a virgin:

Always start out slowly. Women will generally give out signals when they are ready to progress.

Examples:

When you are kissing softly, she may bring you in further by grabbing your neck or hair. This is a signal for a more passionate kiss and, perhaps, indicates her desire for you to begin kissing her neck/ears/shoulders.

When performing oral sex: Stay away from direct pressure on the clitoris until she begins to grind her hips into you or comes right out and tells you to.

Don't get fancy with the tricks (humming, etc). Having a sexual relationship with a new partner is a mutual exploration. Remember, the first time, she doesn't know what you enjoy either (granted guys are easier to please).

Initially, take it slow and easy. You will be able to read signals better with experience. I don't believe any woman is expecting a porn star the first time. As you continue to mutually explore with a partner, the sex will become exponentially better.

Porn may become instructive as you gain in experience and are ready to take off the training wheels.

Last, but not least..... wear protection !!!!

Good luck

 

[KillerMuffin]

Start with her brain.

Seduction:

When you've gotten to the stage where intimacy is allowed then tell her your fantasies that involve "her." Touch her in places with your fingers while you do. The throat, under the ear, along her wrist, over her feet, her cheek. Follow up the hot and steamy fantasy with a long, hot kiss.

Then leave. Call her the next day and bring her a daisy or something (not a carnation) next time you see her.

Do the fantasy thing again with a new fantasy. Ask her what she likes while you're doing it. Touch her more, shoulders, sides, backs of knees, thighs. Lots of kissing. Compliment her skin, tell her how she makes you feel physically, tell her she's got beautiful fingers or something. Compliments on "boobs" and "body" are usually met with "I need a boob job" and "I'm too fat" thoughts.

Leave. Call her again and bring her a different flower that matches the flower you brought her the time before.

Keep doing this kind of thing until you think you're both past ready for the main event. You'll get to be known as a magnificent lover.

Fucking:

If she possesses it, it's an erogenous zone. All nerves are sensitive. Run your fingers over everything and watch how she reacts. The places that make her react should get licked. Tell her what you like doing to her and ask her what she likes to have done to her.

Hours of powerthrusting are not orgasm-inducing. Keep your attention on her to see if she's reacting well and if she's not, back up and start all over again. Hell, unless she's cumming, do it anyway.

 

[DevilBoy79]

Take things slow kinda , dont worry to much ,and dont be afraid to ask if your doing something right, should be no problems, if she knows that its your first time,

 

[Zamdrist]

hold your tongue and say 'purse' you shoud do alright

LMAO!

I'm starting to look for your posts when I need a smile.

Like, uh...oh nevermind.

 

[J.B.]

Re: Re: Re: A Virgin's Fears

Nah, you'll do better in college and in obtaining women if you try and come out of your shell and become social. Very few find the introvert sexy, and I'm just being real. As for being fake? Whatever works.


Most of jail's other info was right.

Hey I was being romantic here! But yeah if you want just any kind of lay. Go get out there. But to tell you the truth. aways melt for the shy guys. The thought o corrupting them.
I'm trying to be good honest!

 

[Desert Rat]

Re: Re: Re: Re: A Virgin's Fears

Hey I was being romantic here! But yeah if you want just any kind of lay. Go get out there. But to tell you the truth. aways melt for the shy guys. The thought o corrupting them.
I'm trying to be good honest!

Well, I'm not just looking to run out and fuck everything with a hole, although that'd be nice...

I'm looking for a little romance, and a chance to sweep her off her feet. I'd like to lose my viginity gently making love to her as the sun sets, or in a lake deep in the woods.

After that of course, I'll want to fuck everything that moves, I'm sure.