A thread for Lit's online couples!

[GuyandDoll]

Greetings! We posted a similar thread a few months back in the Playground but it never caught on. We thought we'd try the Personals.

We're an online couple couple and we thought we’d start a thread for other online couples who met on Lit. We’ve often wondered how people found each other out here and how they manage their relationships, especially if they’re married in “real life.” There are so many joys and so many difficulties in having a serious relationship out here.

We’ll start! We met here on Lit over two and a half years ago and have been inseparable ever since. We’re both happily married to wonderful partners but at the same time we are devoted to each other. Our primary challenge, other than the ache of long-distance longing, is finding enough time in our busy lives. We message with our coffee each morning, we often have a Skype lunch together, and we end the day together. Our lives feel wonderfully intertwined.

Early on, we made the decision to be exclusive. What we do out here we do together; we never play or have individual connections with others. Our Lit and Skype accounts are shared. We're guessing this sounds extreme to some of you but it gives us a sense of permanence, security, and intimacy. We joke that we’ve become an old married couple--except that the sex is amazing!! We do enjoy connecting as a couple with men and women every so often, but we also find it difficult to find the time and opportunity to talk or cam with others.

Are there others out here in a similar situation? How long have you been together? What is the secret to your success? What are the challenges you’ve faced? How does your online relationship differ from your real-world ones? Have you ever been busted? Perhaps Lit needs an entire forum for couples!

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Greetings! We posted a similar thread a few months back in the Playground but it never caught on. We thought we'd try the Personals.

We're an online couple couple and we thought we’d start a thread for other online couples who met on Lit. We’ve often wondered how people found each other out here and how they manage their relationships, especially if they’re married in “real life.” There are so many joys and so many difficulties in having a serious relationship out here.

We’ll start! We met here on Lit over two and a half years ago and have been inseparable ever since. We’re both happily married to wonderful partners but at the same time we are devoted to each other. Our primary challenge, other than the ache of long-distance longing, is finding enough time in our busy lives. We message with our coffee each morning, we often have a Skype lunch together, and we end the day together. Our lives feel wonderfully intertwined.

Early on, we made the decision to be exclusive. What we do out here we do together; we never play or have individual connections with others. Our Lit and Skype accounts are shared. We're guessing this sounds extreme to some of you but it gives us a sense of permanence, security, and intimacy. We joke that we’ve become an old married couple--except that the sex is amazing!! We do enjoy connecting as a couple with men and women every so often, but we also find it difficult to find the time and opportunity to talk or cam with others.

Are there others out here in a similar situation? How long have you been together? What is the secret to your success? What are the challenges you’ve faced? How does your online relationship differ from your real-world ones? Have you ever been busted? Perhaps Lit needs an entire forum for couples!

Great idea for a thread, I will be back to comment on my own relationship when I have the time.

I hope this takes off, as I think it’s needed, these relationships are challenging.

 

[Polranny]

Greetings! We posted a similar thread a few months back in the Playground but it never caught on. We thought we'd try the Personals.

We're an online couple couple and we thought we’d start a thread for other online couples who met on Lit. We’ve often wondered how people found each other out here and how they manage their relationships, especially if they’re married in “real life.” There are so many joys and so many difficulties in having a serious relationship out here.

We’ll start! We met here on Lit over two and a half years ago and have been inseparable ever since. We’re both happily married to wonderful partners but at the same time we are devoted to each other. Our primary challenge, other than the ache of long-distance longing, is finding enough time in our busy lives. We message with our coffee each morning, we often have a Skype lunch together, and we end the day together. Our lives feel wonderfully intertwined.

Early on, we made the decision to be exclusive. What we do out here we do together; we never play or have individual connections with others. Our Lit and Skype accounts are shared. We're guessing this sounds extreme to some of you but it gives us a sense of permanence, security, and intimacy. We joke that we’ve become an old married couple--except that the sex is amazing!! We do enjoy connecting as a couple with men and women every so often, but we also find it difficult to find the time and opportunity to talk or cam with others.

Are there others out here in a similar situation? How long have you been together? What is the secret to your success? What are the challenges you’ve faced? How does your online relationship differ from your real-world ones? Have you ever been busted? Perhaps Lit needs an entire forum for couples!

Fab thread. I/we will be in touch when we have consulted

 

[ned63]

Greetings! We posted a similar thread a few months back in the Playground but it never caught on. We thought we'd try the Personals.

We're an online couple couple and we thought we’d start a thread for other online couples who met on Lit. We’ve often wondered how people found each other out here and how they manage their relationships, especially if they’re married in “real life.” There are so many joys and so many difficulties in having a serious relationship out here.

We’ll start! We met here on Lit over two and a half years ago and have been inseparable ever since. We’re both happily married to wonderful partners but at the same time we are devoted to each other. Our primary challenge, other than the ache of long-distance longing, is finding enough time in our busy lives. We message with our coffee each morning, we often have a Skype lunch together, and we end the day together. Our lives feel wonderfully intertwined.

Early on, we made the decision to be exclusive. What we do out here we do together; we never play or have individual connections with others. Our Lit and Skype accounts are shared. We're guessing this sounds extreme to some of you but it gives us a sense of permanence, security, and intimacy. We joke that we’ve become an old married couple--except that the sex is amazing!! We do enjoy connecting as a couple with men and women every so often, but we also find it difficult to find the time and opportunity to talk or cam with others.

Are there others out here in a similar situation? How long have you been together? What is the secret to your success? What are the challenges you’ve faced? How does your online relationship differ from your real-world ones? Have you ever been busted? Perhaps Lit needs an entire forum for couples!

Hi GuyandDoll. I have one lady that I chat with on here alot. It never about sex tho she said that was a no no. I sure would like to find a lady to carry on like you an Doll do, but it just hasnt happened. In real life a sexless marriage, why I'm here reading an looking. Havent been busted but wife I'm pretty sure knows I look at ladies pics online. Someday I hope to find a lady that will be my online wife to share thoughts an yes cam together to. To fullfill our naughty needs too.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Are there others out here in a similar situation? How long have you been together? What is the secret to your success? What are the challenges you’ve faced? How does your online relationship differ from your real-world ones? Have you ever been busted? Perhaps Lit needs an entire forum for couples!

Yes I am, and this is actually my second Lit relationship, the first was almost a year.

The relationship I am now in has been 11 wonderful weeks, we both have plans for it to last indefinitely and neither of us see any reason why it won’t.

The secret to our success is down to a number of factors:

We nearly always talk on cam. It’s rare that we don’t talk on cam daily and most days it’s at least 45 mins, many days it’s more than once. We also text daily and if we can’t cam then we will text at length.

Total openness & honesty from day one. We shared our expectations, both short & longterm and we are on the same page looking into the future.

We understand each other’s needs emotionally and work to ensure they are fulfilled. This has led to a level of security I personally have never felt in a relationship like this before. Voicing any concerns or worries immediately before they can fester.

Being on the same page as far as spending real life time together.

The relationship is balanced; we are both unhappily married and sexless within the marriage, same views on major life issues, we compliment each other really well, have a similar background and have many shared cultural touchstones and interests.

We are equally invested. We have already developed a mental closeness that allows us to read each other well and sometimes finish each other’s thoughts!

We are extraordinarily well matched sexually, both kinky and exploring things neither of us have experienced before, which develops a strong bond.

There’s no jealousy, we both want a real life relationship where we swing as a couple. So if we want to go with someone else now, it’s not an issue, we just tell each other all about it. But we won’t ‘engage’ with anyone who could be a threat to our bond.

We share our lives, work and home, and try to help & support each other from our own experience. We both value having this trusted outlet and it brings us closer. We laugh a lot, we make each others lives intrinsically happier.

Challenges:

Trying to fit this relationship into our real life. It means sacrifice and takes understanding on both sides. We both know we are here for the long run and so the expectations are well managed and there’s no urgency. We take the long view that 6 months from now we will still be together.

We know it will get challenging as we spend time in real life and then have to be apart again.

Difference with real life:

Sex, lots of it, total openness, shared fantasies, huge physical attraction as partners, total intimacy.

We’re supportive of each other & just happy to be together anytime, we never run out of conversation. Having a partner we can talk to about anything.

Busted: no but we are very careful as we don’t want to blow this.


Is it worth it? Totally worth it!

We both believe we’ve found something really special and are very happy.

 

[GuyandDoll]

With apologies for being self-congratulatory, today is our anniversary! We met on Lit exactly three years ago today and have been together ever since. We have no one in our "real" lives to share this with--um, certainly not our spouses--so here we are!

We've made some great friends along the way--and we wish them and all of you the very best on Lit. May you all be as happy as we are!

 

[Jennyfromtheblock83]

With apologies for being self-congratulatory, today is our anniversary! We met on Lit exactly three years ago today and have been together ever since. We have no one in our "real" lives to share this with--um, certainly not our spouses--so here we are!

We've made some great friends along the way--and we wish them and all of you the very best on Lit. May you all be as happy as we are!

Happy (belated) Anniversary!!

Your thread inspired me to share about my own online relationship... kwmurf2000 and I met on Tumblr over three and a half years ago, and hit it off right off the bat. We're both married, and are separated by a few states and a lot of miles, so the odds of a real-life meeting are slim. That hasn't stopped us from hoping and plotting all the fun things we'll do if and when we're able to meet in person. We are in contact as much as our daily lives and schedules allow and text pretty much daily. There have been an awful lot of pics and videos exchanged the last few years... we've had the opportunity to speak on the phone a time or two, but again, real-life being what it is, that's a rare occurence.

Sex with him is absolutely amazing, and we've found that we share pretty much all the same kinks, which is awesome. I've always wanted to explore my bi-curious side, and he has encouraged and supported me in doing that, which has led to some very hot encounters with an incredibly sexy lady Lit-ster. We are both on board with swinging, and are hopeful to find some like-minded friends on Lit to explore that with (so if anyone out there is interested, drop him or I a DM. We'd love to meet you!).

I can honestly say that I've never felt so connected to someone, especially someone I've never met in person. I know that no matter what happens with us down the road, I have gained a forever friend, and I am so incredibly grateful for that, and him. Thankfully, I don't see us parting ways any time soon.

Thanks for starting this thread! Wishing you many more years of happiness together, GuyandDoll!!