A sweet disorder in the dress . . .

[CreamyLady]

This has me mystified:

This morning, running from behind as usual, I raced through my shower, threw on a sweatshirt and leggings and my ugly clogs, and ran to the car with my hair every which way, no makeup, nothing particularly eyecatching about me unless one thinks of the Gorgon Medusa. My hair was of a similar style.

I got a very warm, appreciative look from a guy across the street, and a very, very warm smile; the kind of smile that makes one think of a wrecked bed.

In the past, I've left the house with every hair in place, clothing neat, tidy and relatively stylish, and in good shoes; not so much as a good morning from that quarter.

Tell me, men, what is so appealing about the dragged-through-a-haystack-backward look? I'd really like to know, because my more significant relationships have started with me looking like something that cat spit up.

I really need to know how to dress come July.

 

[willywanker]

just a guess but could you have been mistaken for just having had sex? No way of knowing what someone else thinks, but my mind works that way sometime.

And about your relationships starting when you think you look your worst? If a woman looks sexy without trying, can you imagine how good she's going to looke when she puts some effort into it. Lots to be said about the natural look but I'll let others put in their two cents worth.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

My theory......

is that most women haven't a clue as to "what men find sexy/attractive." Most women dress for other women. Men want, need and may even require different looks for the woment for dfferent things. But nothing, nothing is more attractive to your normal average male than a woman who looks like she's just been fucked - messed up hair, lipsitck and all.

I tell my wife - the Shebabe - that she looks great with messed up hair and she looks at me like - right, sure I believe you.

But this is absolutely true. Will she where he hair that way? Nope. Why? Other women. She desn't want to look like a tramp in front of other women.

Crap. I hate that.

 

[livin_simple]

I think WillyWanker's got it....

OR
we can conclude the man's judgment was impaired...
OR
the man may have been remembering his previous night...
OR

I probably ought to stop digging the hole any deeper and just jump right into it.

 

[TonyG]

Sweatshirt, leggings, no makeup kind of indicates that you don't care what someone might say. That you are free spirited, which can translate into your're also free spirited in bed. It's a guy thing, don't try to figure it out.

 

[KillerMuffin]

The stud is a proponent of the "just got fucked" school of hair design thought. Your neighbor probably noticed your rushing, lack of normal attire in favor of something that you just tossed on, coupled with the lack of make up and the just got fucked hair and thought sexual things about you. It's not how magazine photoshoot ready you look, it's about how much you can make them think about sex when they look at you.

 

[CreamyLady]

I think I'm beginning to understand this. If it looks like a woman has just had sex, i.e., a mess, then she induces thoughts of sex. Thinking about sex is good. Everyone is happy.

Okay.

It's very funny. Each time this happens, I haven't had sex. This means that a bad hair day might be a real life saver.

 

[Thumper]

Three words

Your image conveyed..

Real

Natural

Confident...

I like the hair down and slightly wet look...it implies a woman who is comfortable in herself image...

and clean too...clean is good...

 

[April]

Re: My theory......

Most women dress for other women.

Yep, absolutely true. Except when they dress for sex. Me, I've stopped wearing makeup, and I don't do much to my hair except for blow drying it. Jeans and a shirt. No fancy stuff. I'm comfortable.

 

[BrainyBeauty]

The natural look? For THIS gal? Scary thought

First and LAST time my boyfriend ever came over to my house without calling first. Thought it would be fun to surprise me...

He found me outside painting. It was a humid day in July. About 97° or so. I was wearing a really old bathing suit. I had no makeup on. Wearing glasses instead of contacts. Hair pinned up and hidden underneath a scarf. Looked like a poor white girl's version of Aunt Jemima. Face all red and sweaty. Kinda like this

The paramedics only had to use one swipe of the defibrillator on him.


Seriously, when I think I look my worst, men usually are extremely attracted. I get hit on more often when I am 'natural' than if I plaster the Cover Girl on with a trowel. Maybe it is less intimidating because women don't look like they are on the prowl. Maybe the 'just fucked' look is the way to go.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

For me Thumper hit it with his first 'word' - Real. A real person, attainable, with faults and imperfections, loveable, fuckable . . . infinitely.

If a woman makes an extra effort to look sexy, then perhaps she is hiding what's really underneath?

Thoughts to screen, no coherency here.

 

[Guest]

Natural Beauty

 

[Latina]

Agree with what's been said here. Rumpled look shows confidence that your inner & outer beauty shines through no matter what you wear, and it looks like you just had sex, and to a guy's fevered mind that means maybe you'll have sex with him, too--usually the more pathetic the guy, the more his fevered mind thinks every woman wants to sleep with him!

But dressing up, like for a party, is as much about looking good to your date (even if your "date" is your husband of many years, you still want to look good for him on special occasions) and feeling good about yourself, as it is about impressing the other women at the party.

Just my .02

-- Latina