A_Little_Show
Really Experienced
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- Sep 5, 2013
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I have a few highly rated stories at Literotica.
I like fantasizing and writing about exhibitionist and voyeuristic activities. Unless I am misremembering, all of my stories contain those elements. However, my stories seldom do well in the Exhibitionist/Voyeur category at literotica. I think the reason is that my kink has a particular criteria that most readers in that category don't share. For me, exhibitionism must be appreciated by the audience or it isn't sexy. Voyeurism has to be unintentional or at least situationally unavoidable to be sexy for me. Peeping Toms and blackmail and such seem more like non-consent to me! It's not voyeurism. It's invasion of privacy. That's just me though.
So, my exhibitionist stories end up in Romance or Group or Mature (or Non-consent/Reluctance ironically) and generally do fairly well in those categories. The problem/danger is that some readers in those categories are not expecting exhibitionism and related themes. It turns them off, and then I get nasty comments and poor reviews. Or, the elements of mild embarrassment that turn me on are not appreciated in those categories. There seems to always be something that isn't appreciated no matter what category I choose. I seem to be incapable of confining my libido or my stories to Literotica's category boundaries. The best I can do is place warnings at the tops of stories.
What can be done? I know I can't please everyone all the time, but here's the rub: My writing IS my exhibitionism. If it isn't appreciated, it isn't sexy to me. I get off knowing I helped other people get off. I particularly like it when they tell me about it!
There is another quirk in my psyche: I think the reason I gravitate toward exhibitionism is because I am a pleaser - a giver. I almost always prefer to give rather than receive. I want to turn you on. A lover's appreciation of my ministrations is way hotter than bumping uglies - for me. I masturbate to memories of working someone up to orgasm. I almost never imagine or anticipate my own orgasm. All of my stories contain autobiographical elements, and I really really enjoy(ed) the rare exhibitionist and voyeuristic events in my own life. So I'm stuck with kinks that don't align with Literotica's categories.
I like fantasizing and writing about exhibitionist and voyeuristic activities. Unless I am misremembering, all of my stories contain those elements. However, my stories seldom do well in the Exhibitionist/Voyeur category at literotica. I think the reason is that my kink has a particular criteria that most readers in that category don't share. For me, exhibitionism must be appreciated by the audience or it isn't sexy. Voyeurism has to be unintentional or at least situationally unavoidable to be sexy for me. Peeping Toms and blackmail and such seem more like non-consent to me! It's not voyeurism. It's invasion of privacy. That's just me though.
So, my exhibitionist stories end up in Romance or Group or Mature (or Non-consent/Reluctance ironically) and generally do fairly well in those categories. The problem/danger is that some readers in those categories are not expecting exhibitionism and related themes. It turns them off, and then I get nasty comments and poor reviews. Or, the elements of mild embarrassment that turn me on are not appreciated in those categories. There seems to always be something that isn't appreciated no matter what category I choose. I seem to be incapable of confining my libido or my stories to Literotica's category boundaries. The best I can do is place warnings at the tops of stories.
What can be done? I know I can't please everyone all the time, but here's the rub: My writing IS my exhibitionism. If it isn't appreciated, it isn't sexy to me. I get off knowing I helped other people get off. I particularly like it when they tell me about it!
There is another quirk in my psyche: I think the reason I gravitate toward exhibitionism is because I am a pleaser - a giver. I almost always prefer to give rather than receive. I want to turn you on. A lover's appreciation of my ministrations is way hotter than bumping uglies - for me. I masturbate to memories of working someone up to orgasm. I almost never imagine or anticipate my own orgasm. All of my stories contain autobiographical elements, and I really really enjoy(ed) the rare exhibitionist and voyeuristic events in my own life. So I'm stuck with kinks that don't align with Literotica's categories.