A Quiet Corner

[LovetoGiveRoses]

Here is the setting. A small table, a favorite tablecloth from Nice colored in lavender (Nice is famous for Lavender) and pale gold/yellow with a light cream background. The table is set with four candlesticks, they're sterling, isn't it lovely the way sterling glitters in candlelight? There's also a little silver tray that usually holds some kind of flowers. Tonight there are some white camellias floating in water in there. The window close by is one of those old tall New England over/under style windows with six panes on each. At night soft golden light comes in from several street lights up and down the infrequently used road. The walls are a soft chablis color and the trim, including the wide chair rail, is white. Behind you, in the cabinet sits a mixture of wines, some white some red. Most of the red are French Bordeauxs, the white mostly from California. On top of the cabinet, the only decoration, are two sterling goblets.

This is a place to get away from it all. It is a place to talk about little things, about big things, about anything It's a place to catch your breath, a quiet place, a place to whisper. I like whispers sometimes, there's something comforting about the sound of a friends voice and the feeling of warm breath close by one's ear, don't you think?

Come here whenever you want. You're always invited. Can I get you a glass of wine?

 

[SexyAmber]

Thank you

Great idea Lovestogiveroses....

<yanks Mysti in and sits her down, grabbing a bottle of water and laying on the couch>

 

[Mystical]

OK first off if you think this is a pity party please know that it is not. I am happy most days with my life and my lot.


Ok here we go I went to a place to play online games tonight and it felt I was attacked for 1) My age 2) my veiws and 3) for my way of life.

OK I will address them in order
first I do not think my age has anything to do with how to treat people or thinking they know it all.
Second I respect everyones opinion but I will not attack them for them even if I feel they go against mine. I mean hey that is what makes people who they are even if it makes someone upset.
Third I love to stay home and stay indoors, I get panic attacks when I leave the base where I live so it keeps me confined to the base which to me is ok. But I was told tonight I am sick for liking to stay indoors more then I like getting out of them. I am sorry I like the internet no I do not think it is taking over my life I spend a lot of my free time here but I do know when to shut it off and when it is time to be mommy.

I do have some problems with depression and I am waiting on the help for that but I was told to wait and some think that that was Bullshit well all I know is that is what I was todl to do and I will do just that,wait. I feel a lot of people think that just because they do not see the persons face it gives them the right to hurt, attack or slander that person. I don't I have many friends that I have never met and probably never will but I would give my shirt off my back for them and have just to make their life a little better.

I am a military dependent and I love it but the more I run into the retired ones, the ones that were in when the military still was old and not the new way they think they have all the answers and can tell people like me how to live or that I am sick because of how I like my life. Yes I miss my hubby very much and wish he was home but I know that is not possible he has a job to do and that job is where ever the military sends him, with or without us. That is the life we chose and we do not regret it.

I am sorry for the long post but I am still very hurt and mad because of narrow minded people and what they say about me.

 

[SexyAmber]

~hidden thoughts~

~ok erases that as it was too deep even for her~

 

[Cibo]

**Cracks his knuckles**

Who said that Mysti?

I'll teach them a good thing about manners.

 

[Mae13]

Mystical...although I am on the flip side of the coin now, I used to also be a military dependant. I got used to having my da gone for birthdays, holidays, etc. I got used to being uprooted, terrified, starting a new school being an extremely painfully shy little girl (yes, I actually was. And yes, it still hits me sometimes). The sacrifices are made by more than just the active duty person.

It is easy to poke fun, to snicker, to snidely talk about the "DWADAF's" and such...it is such a disrespect and disservice. Have you ever seen the monologue about a military spouse? It talks about what the things a civilian spouse versus a miltary spouse must deal with in their life and home. If you haven't already seen it, I would be happy to find it and post it here for you (and others) to read. I think it is a good picture.

Just know that there are many out there NOT like the trolls you run into every day. There are those that care and appreciate what YOU give up as well, and what YOU do to contribute to the strength of the force.

Age means nothing. I have met 10 year olds who humbled me, and 80 year-olds who were more insignificant than a gnat in their intellect and decency.

*Pours a glass of chianti, takes a sip, and whispers to Mysti:*
"Hang in there, friend"

*hugs*
Mae

 

[Cibo]

Ok, I'm gonna throw in my 2 cents here...

First that comes to mind is Mysti and her problem while playing the games from her home, I'm gonna be blunt because thats just the way I usually am...Mysti, can you ignore those people who dissrespect you or make fun of you for likeing the indoors more than the outdoors? Plus its through the computer...for all you know it could be a 12 year old boy that snuck on the computer and doesn't know any better.

Next is Amber...again being blunt. Amber, why do you care so much about what others think about you? Sure it must feel great to have many many people appreciate you and the way you look...but how about those who don't respect you and judge you the wrong way to begin with? Does it really matter what they think? For me personally...If someone thinks I am a dickhead or something bad...so be it. I can't change their opinion and I won't let it effect me. But if they think that I'm a good person...I respect them for that and I try to hang around them more than the other people who don't like me. What I'm trying to say is that if someone doesn't like me, I don't pay them no nevermind. If someone always says something negative about you...maybe thats the way they were brought up and can't change that.

And Mae...you are right. I know some VERY cool 10 or so year old kids that I like to hang around with. And there are some older adults that, like you say, don't have much of a higher intelligence than a gnat.

But thats all I gotta say for right now and thats just the way I think.

 

[Mystical]

Oh Cibo it wasn't here and I wouldn't send anyone after people that are too narrow minded either. They are the ones that have to live with it not me.


And Mae hon I would gladly love to read anything you have to post here. I have read a few nice poems directed at us military spouses and even have framed some of them. I am a Proud Military spouse and will not for anyone change that. And I hope to one day never treat any new Spouse the way I was treated tonight by some of the old Military wives.

 

[The Dipsomaniac]

whoa. Better put my waders on in here. Getting kinda deep.

But at the same time as having a lighthearted dig (above) it is all very insightful. I'm sorry to hear that people have treated you like that Mysti, now one deserves that. People need to learn respect - whether there online or out there in the real world.
One of my brothers is only 19, and he hasnt learned respect for others. I have no time for him, dont like him, and he has been in prison pretty much since being 17 years old. (first in juvenile prison - now adult prison)
People need to be treated with proper dignity, this world would be a much better place if everyone followed the old adage "Do to others as you wish to be done to yourself" Not many of us want to be jeered at, sneered at hit, hit, beaten, robbed, yet why do some many continue to perpetrate this.

And Amber i found your post insightful too. In the end you have to do things because "YOU" want to not because someone else expects you to. Unfortunately some many of us do things because of expectations. And i'n not saying you should be selfish and only look out for one's self but the motive behind what you do should be your own.

And as always Mae - loved your post too.

DM

 

[ARaynes]

well, I'm not a military dependent, but I was a military member for 10 years (Air force , Law Enforcement Specialist, os as i called it a "living stop sign).
There is nothing wrong with you or your world views. You have chosen to live on of the hardest lives there is, one where you will be without your spouse, because he chose to do a job that needs doing, & is doing it well. I have the utmost respect for you & all depent spouses (i've read a lot of your posts, this is my first time replying tho). I didn't even start seriously dating until I got out because of how hard being a DS is, so I know what you are going through in some ways. Just remember one thing hon, there are assholes everywhere, but truely beautiful people such as yourself are one in a million. keep your chin up hon, there are people out here in the world who do care.

 

[LovetoGiveRoses]

Glad I could be of service

<cleanning up a little to be ready for the next visitors>

<Everyone has left for the evening.. but I can still solilquize>

Mysti, you're a neat lady, don't let the turkeys get you down. If you're brave enough to stand up and be counted (or to say anything out loud), there will always be someone out there who bitches. Don't listen. Keep your course. People complained about George Washington and Thomas Jefferson and I'm glad they didn't listen to the naysayers too closely. Do what's right for you and your family.

<finishing up the wipedown, all ready for the next guests>

 

[RawHumor]

Wandering in off the street

*shaking the snow off of myself... (we're getting hit pretty good up in the Midwest again)... sipping a cup of hot tea with a little milk and sugar in it... trying to get myself kick-started as I watch the snow fall*

 

[LovetoGiveRoses]

Welcome RawHumor

You've got 67 posts, been around for a while. How are you finding things here? Finding some favorite spots? Lots of nice ladies and gentlemen here. <distracted for a second while the puppy eats another rose> It's kind of ingenious the way he dodges around the low table, jumps up on the couch, leaps up on the pillow and then graps the rose from the vase sitting on the table backing the couch isn't it? What do you do for work, are you a thinking man or a working man? <inquiring to see which way the guest would like the discussion to go>

 

[RawHumor]

As far as the posts go, I'm working toward an avatar! LOL

For work, I'm a thinking man - some engineering, some programming, some other computer stuff

As for the ladies here, I think my jaw has become permanently unhinged... Amber has to be as close to perfection as any woman ever made, Yummy and Naughty both live up to their name and more... I could go on, but you get the picture.

I'm starting to get my thoughts about me - I'm not much of a morning person and I don't drink coffee so that doesn't help much. I'll get more talkative as the day goes on.

For my favorite spots, I thought the personals or the cyber boards would be my favorites, but being a visual kinda guy (and aren't we all? LOL), the pictures and the personalities of the women here have made this one my favorite board by far.

 

[Guest]

*Stumbles in* My my What do we Have here.. *Snickers*.....lol..

Seems like i flew by my 100th post and there for awhile i was going the wrong way.. But now that i'm on the right road again.. Im sure you can Catch up Raw..lol....

 

[RawHumor]

Im sure you can Catch up Raw..lol....

Well, I do tend to have a way with making up for lost time in a hurry... LOL

Of course, the photoshoot at your playground helped boost my post count quite a bit!

 

[Guest]

I bet you can make up for lost time.. THat doesnt involve Quickies does it?! lol

And yes you were The best Photographer ever u kinky thing you...lol.... Mel

 

[SexyAmber]

~steps in dusting the snow off herself and immediately searching for the fireplace, finds it and lays on the couch prays they have hot chocolate~

 

[RawHumor]

Amber & Yummy in the Same Room?

I must be dreaming...

*orders a hot chocolate and brings it over to the Snow Maiden, Amber.*

"Good morning, sweet one. As always, you are a bright and sunny addition to a wintery day. How are you today?"

 

[RawHumor]

I bet you can make up for lost time.. THat doesnt involve Quickies does it?! lol

And yes you were The best Photographer ever u kinky thing you...lol.... Mel

I don't particularly favor quickies, but you gotta do what you gotta do, and sometimes time doesn't permit for anything else.


I wonder if anyone else enjoyed the photoshoot. I know that you, cibo and I did! LOL

 

[SexyAmber]

Re: Amber & Yummy in the Same Room?

I must be dreaming...

*orders a hot chocolate and brings it over to the Snow Maiden, Amber.*

"Good morning, sweet one. As always, you are a bright and sunny addition to a wintery day. How are you today?"

<smiles as he brings her hot chocolate and peers up seeing the lil marshmellows and smile grows, taking it in her delicate hands and blowing on it before sipping and lifts her emerald gaze to him> Thank you I am ok I have a touch of the flu though

 

[RawHumor]

Re: Re: Amber & Yummy in the Same Room?

Thank you I am ok I have a touch of the flu though

That's not good... let's get you into bed... LOL Errr... ummmm... not that way...

Let me know if you'd like some chicken noodle soup or anything else. Or would you like me to draw you a hot bath?

 

[LovetoGiveRoses]

Well Yummy

I still owe you a romantic dinner. He's the setting. I'll be thinking about the nights entertainment while you're otherwise occupied for a while.

Raw, I do the same sort of thing now. I used to build big "toys" for the military, but the market dropped so I switched to IT. The ladies here are magnificent. I'm supposed to be working now... <refilling the teacup with more hot tea>. You must have the day off.

 

[LovetoGiveRoses]

Hi Amber

Welcome, it's nice and warm in here. Do you want a throw blanket? The hot chocolate is rich and thick. I drink sugarless hot chocolate, you want that kind? The fireplace is roaring (it's gas and has a remote control).

 

[LovetoGiveRoses]

So, what ya been thinkin' about lately?