A question

[bahrbelama]

Heya everyone, I was hoping you could help me out. I'm an 18 year old guy who's never even hugged a member of the opposite sex i wasnt related to. Every girl i meet makes he best friend and uses me until she doesnt need me anymore and then tosses me. No matter what i do, girls make their best friend and brother, NEVER a lover. Everyone around me has relationships and sex uder their belt, they trade stories about ex's and current relationships, and i cant do that. Hell even my little brother has way more experience than i do. And after being used by so many women when i had nothing but the best of intentions, when i veiwed these women as goddesses to be respected, I've started to hate women. I've lost almost all hope in love and sex and such. I plan to die alone and still a virgin, and whats worse is that I almost dont care. I dont understand why everyone gets to have someone sometime but i dont. And now i dont even try anymore. I dont approach women, i dont go to places where i would meet women, I go to work, and i come home, and i sit there. and of course none of this helps because any woman who does happen to see me will be able to tell that i'm desperate and cynical and even if somehow they get past that I'll have NO idea what i'm doing wheras they will and i'll be a total nerd. And thus the final blow is done, i'm fucked

 

[luvolderwomen28]

Don't worry bro.....you have to keep your head up. Are you looking for a long term relationship or just a fling or either??
If you just looking for a fling......don't try to date anyone from work. Do you do any activities outside of work?? Golf, Bowl, weightlift, karate, etc....???? Have you tried to have your friends or relatives set you up on dates??? First, start off as friends, make sure you ask the right questions........if you are interested, I guess, keep dropping little hints that you are looking for a relationship...........I am sure one of the girls that just wanted to be friends w/ you have girlfriends they can hook you up with.......don't be afraid to ask..........don't feel embarrased.......nothing to lose....are you interested in anyone, currently???

 

[phoenix1224]

I used to have the same problem and, I know, it really does suck... But, it eventually changed... Goddamn, did it change... All because of confidence...

What seems to be one of your problems is a lack of confidence... I've talked to many of my female freinds, and it seems there's nothing a women hates more than a man who's unsure of himself... No matter what they say about wanting to be equals, what they really want is for a man to take charge...

So, build up your confidence (even if you have to fake it for a while) until you get yourself some real experience...

Just remember, when approaching a woman, you don't want to look like a deer caught in the headlights... It's a real turn off...

 

[odonna]

answers

Please don't be discouraged! I'm amazed at how many young men there are just like you! Yes just like you! This year I met a 21 year old virgin. He had no self confidence. Luckily he was able to admit this to me and he's no longer virgin Tho he does now say he has a preference for older women What a delight he was to be with also.....ardent, eager, and very open minded.
I look forward to all our time together and watching him develop!

Tho I'm 57 my only question about him is ---will he remember to visit me in the nursing home in the years to come

 

[botticelliangel]

hey

i have a close friend who is a 24 year old male virgin.... its not like i havent offered either.... but he wants to save himself for his wedding or at least the girl hes gonna be with for the rest of his life....

dont worry about being a virgin because the woman you lose it to will love that youre a virgin and feel very special that you chose to lose your virginity to her