A question

[Mary Hall]

I was thinking about this for a while, i have a question i need answered.

Can a cheater be forgiven?

Okay...there`s this guy, a few years ago he had a job that took him away from his family most of the year at least, and while away drank, did drugs and slept around.

But right now he`s clean, been sober well over a year and is a Christian with sole custody of his 2 kids...he hardly ever works except for odd times.

I was wondering if Mr H should or could be forgiven by ex Mrs H..

I believe Mr H is sorry for what he did to ex Mrs H, but does he deserve forgiveness now for something he did in the past when he was a total asshole?

 

[SexyChele]

I would think forgiveness rests solely on whether Mr H has asked for it and if Mrs H can find it in her heart to forgive.

I dated a man who was a total ass - alcoholic, cheated, you name it. I was hurt very badly and didn't think I would ever be able to talk to him. Yet, with passing of time and he changing his ways, he became another person. I was able to forgive him when he asked, though I would never enter into another relationship with him.

So, yeah, I think a cheater, an alcoholic, a whatever type of asshole can be forgiven.

 

[Mary Hall]

I would think forgiveness rests solely on whether Mr H has asked for it and if Mrs H can find it in her heart to forgive.

Ex Mrs H is a very forgiving woman, i think she still loves Mr H.

I think Mr H may have asked for forgiveness

 

[ReadyOne]

Try and forgive, please, even if you're not specifically asked for forgiveness.

 

[Bobmi357]

Forgiveness depends on who people are and what they are forgiving. I might be able to forgive my spouse having a single one night stand, thats a result of poor judgement, maybe some drinks mixed in etc. But a long term affair can't be blamed on too many hotel bar drinks.

My hat is off to someone that can forgive a cheater thats been involved in a long term affair. I don't think I could do it.

 

[Mary Hall]

They weren`t long term affairs, more like one night stands

 

[Noor]

It is harder to forgive people who do not accept full responsibilty for their actions and ask for forgiveness, but it is possible to do it.

Forgivesness is not the same as forgetting or trusting, it just means you have forgiven the person for hurting you in that instance. Trust needs to be rebuilt by both parties together.

Noor