A question to the ladies on this board

[Bran Jones]

I'm usually a Dom myself when it comes to the bedroom, but I have been playing with the thought of sometime trying to be the one tied up and pleased by a woman.

So I'm wondering what the women here would do if they had a man tied and blindfolded to the bed? There is however one requirement, and that is that there won't be any pain involved at all, since I know for sure that I only want to inflict that, and not recieve it

 

[SexyChele]

I've had a couple of men ask me to do variations on this for them. First, I'm not good at tying knots, and it can really break the mood when he pulls at his restraints and breaks free.

Typically, when I've done this, there was no pain involved, just teasing. It always starts off okay, but then I start getting into the "Is this alright", "Do you want me to do X", basically looking to him to lead me while he's tied up.

I will do it if asked for a very short time, but I don't feel comfortable with it. It just feels a little odd to me - not that it's wrong, or anything. I just don't feel comfortable doing this.

 

[Hecate]

But why the restraints?

Well - I can relate of the concept of being "teased" by a submissive. There are moments when a dominant part just feels like s/he doesn't want to take on initiative or responsibility for the evolving scene. It is a quite demanding enterprise at times.

But - if you aren't willing to get a few "stimulations" that are maybe making restraints a quite helpfull means of keeping you in place to ultimately enjoy the expereince, the question is why you would like serious, real restraints at all. Why not still keep the role of a dominant and just tell your subbie to prepare a pleasant evening for you? Put it straight out that you intend to be passive and that her next "punishment level" will be depending on how much she pleases you?

 

[RisiaSkye]

I have a question about this: If you're interested in surrendering control, being bound and Topped by a woman, why do you want to know what would happen? Planning already to "top from below?"

There are many possibilities, sensation is hardly the only way to mete out discipline, as I'm sure many here know from intimate and wonderful experience. If you trust the woman, why not trust her to come up with the variations? That way, you aren't planning the whole thing in your head, like you would as a Dom or Top, and you can have the wonderful experience of not knowing what's ahead.

Just my thoughts.

 

[Bran Jones]

Ok I'll try to answer a few questions here.

I'll start with a few things Hecate mentioned

But why the restraints?

Well it's probably more so I can experience how it is to be out of control so to say, to just lay there and recieve, not knowing what is to come next.

I do think that the restraints can come in handy even if there isn't any pain involved, since it'll restrain the person from suddenly being the one in control again. You just can't do anything until you are set free again! And I can think of a few things that could make me forget about me not being the Dom, and just take over! lol

And it doesn't it automatically have to be a Domme or a sub that I try this with. I'm sure there are a lot of 'nilla women surfing this board as well.

And for RisiaSkye

I'm not interessting it knowing what would happen if I was to be the one tied up. I'm just curious about what the ladies here would do if they had the possibility.

I hope this is clear enough.

 

[Lain]

I'm not interessting it knowing what would happen if I was to be the one tied up. I'm just curious about what the ladies here would do if they had the possibility.

Teasing. Definitely lots of teasing. When I have my guy tied up and blindfolded, it's my opportunity to do what I want with his body. Not necessarily inflicting pain; but I can kiss where I want, caress where I want. If he's completely immobilized, I can be very precise about where I'm touching and can do things like trace a blade along his bare skin. I can scare him by making him *think* I'm going to do something, simply by where I let my fingers wander...

The best part is when I take the blindfold off at the end. "I had no idea you were going to take *that* out of the closet!" he says.

<chuckle>

Lain

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

I would need to know the man’s limits first, and tell him mine. I would stay within our limits but see how far I can push him with edging and then intense pleasure! If he is ok with some overstimulation, I would absolutely overstimulate til he’s thrashing in those restraints. If he likes nipple play and has sensitive nipples you know they’d be getting plenty of slow teasing and hard stimulation (but not pain). I would blindfold him to enhance touch and surprise but take it off as he nears climax. I want to see his face in ecstasy. I want his eyes on me as I ride him.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

I’ve always wanted to bind a man’s balls with leather shoe laces. Not painfully but for decoration and a feeling of control. For his stimulation too. I would love to play with cock rings too, see if one helps him last longer, stay harder.

Ideally, we would play after some time apart. Men build up more cum and need after a longer separation.

I would do all I could to build intensity and connection.

 

[base10]

I’ve always wanted to bind a man’s balls with leather shoe laces. Not painfully but for decoration and a feeling of control. For his stimulation too. I would love to play with cock rings too, see if one helps him last longer, stay harder.

Ideally, we would play after some time apart. Men build up more cum and need after a longer separation.

I would do all I could to build intensity and connection.

This sounds like a great time